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aWes0MeNeSs - you have no idea what you are doing either ! you talk with them online then you meet them in person , DUH
@MissDawn7961 I'd rather not. There are plenty of people in real life I can meet. I don't need to meet up with online strangers. I can't even tell if I will be interested in someone from talking to them online, and it's very unlikely I will since I'm uninterested in romantic love.
Do you believe in reality?
How can I gain the certainty.I do not have an answer. I am limited. I have only one component to process the experience of it and that is my own mind.I don't believe in anything, I repeat. Key word is "believe". Ask a taxi-driver if they believe in reality. Apparently, they know everything.
Daniela1982 - you can be infatuated with your co-worker at work just as well as you can with some one online ! think before you speak and surprise everyone too
@MissDawn7961 That is true, but even more on line when you are looking for someone. Usually work is not the place you look for love because if it goes sour it could wind up with it being pretty awkward working there.
yeah thats not love though is it? at best its merely pretending
@wankiam Love is pretending whether you're on the internet or in real life.Trust me, I've had both.
if you dont know the difference i doubt that very much but thats for you... i just though yes was a funny answer when you then went on to describe something that isn't real... thats all
@wankiam I was married many years.Love is a temporary thing for a lot of people.I actually had an internet girlfriend that was closer to me than my wife was.It's all about how you connect.Everyone is different and has different experiences.
love can be fleeting thats for sure but i suspect the internet thing was more of an intense friendship and that could well be something you never felt with your wife so i can see where you are coming from if that was the case
@wankiam Yes, I had a close bond with the online girlfriend.I talked to her everyday for 2 years.We knew a lot about each other.We shared all our thoughts, fantasies, problems, goals, feelings etc.With my wife we barely spoke.We had a lot of sex, but to me love is deeper.People who think you need to touch someone physically to feel love just haven't truly bonded with anyone online yet in my opinion.
true but when i say you need to meet in person to really know someone and feel a true love i really wasn't refering to it in a physical sense, maybe i just watched too many episodes of catfish but even with out that show there must always be a niigling doubt, however small, that there's something thats maybe not 100 percent true... can i ask why you never met your internet girl?
@wankiam She turned out to be married.
theree you go then... sorry to hear that really i am but doesn't it just prove that you dont ever really know someone while they are just online... all that time she was lying to you even if she was sweet and you cared for her
@wankiam She lied to me for the first few days.Then after that she seduced me with her sexual words and texts.Then later I started to figure out how intelligent and sweet she really was.She had so many awesome personality traits that I had never found in another woman.We clicked so well that we became addicted to each other.
and yet none of it has been realised in the real world. maybe thats the differnce in personal perspectives here
@wankiam Feelings are real, emotions are real.I can see her body when we video chat, sext etc.The only thing we never did is physically touch.
but she ws living a lie and probably just to spice up her own marriage... if she left him i would be eating my words to a certain degree but she didn't so while it may well have felt very real to you, on her side of it i suspect it wasn't 100 percent
"Feelings are real, emotions are real.I can see her body when we video chat, sext etc.The only thing we never did is physically touch."I agree with you. It is real
@wankiam She wanted to leave himShe was making plans to fly to be with me.She has small children and I told her not to fly to me.I wouldn't have sex with a married woman because I wouldn't feel good about hurting her husband.My own values and conscience is what kept us apart.I didn't want to mess up their life.I didn't want her kids to hate me.I didn't want to hate myself.She lived too far anyway.It wasn't even practical.
@some101 Thanks.I did feel the high and all the same emotions from my online love that I felt with women in person.You just have to find the right woman and be open to it.
so thanks for sharing that and it does put a different perspective on it but at the same time i suppose that your conscience not allowing you to sleep with her while she was still married supports also the fact that all the virtual stuff would have hurt him too but somehow there was a disconnect with reality there?
@wankiam Oh I definitely felt bad about that stuff too.Don't get me wrong.The only thing that kept me involved was her constant messages.I was starved for female attention after my marriage ended.She was very seductive and loving and unapologetic about what she was doing.She was definitely in the driver's seat.I just had trouble resisting temptation.It's a good thing that it was just online.She was definitely playing both sides of her situation.I always feel guilty about her, but the attraction and connection is stronger than the guilt.
yeah no point feeling guilty or having any regrets, if it was fun at the time and served a function then its all good and also very much a learning process... im quite vocal on the fact we shouldn't have regrets.
You are fortunate as most dating sites are geared toward 18 - 50 age ranges.
She is 52.
She is but you aren't. But they do have sites for older people, I just never thought POF was one of them as there were as many fake profiles on there as real. That's what happens on a free site.
Probably true, but local conditions have an effect. Life is different out in the sticks. 😆
lanto - that is to sweet ! thanks
Stacie3 - you are a big illusion yourself for you do not have your photo on here so maybe you are not even real
MissDawn7961 .. what does my photo have to do with the question? Not a single thing!! What I look like has nothing to do with my opinions.. and having a pic on my profile means nothing.. for all I know you are some punk ass kid who used his grandmothers photo.So yeah god bless and thanks😁😁
madgoat - you are a fantasy of the nightmare kind
🤔😔 It fascinates me when people take a pot shot at me on this forum. Although you may not like or agree with me, I'm very rarely intending to insult anyone.
I have and you are dumb too ! where did you get your ignorance from , you mom the horse or your dad the j-cka$$ ?
lxly_fxy14- if you are not friends with the opposite sex , then you will not marry them so your answer here is useless
what would you know about decent women? you are not man or woman enough to even know a descent woman at all ! why not get a good magnifying glass to see if you can find your useless pea sized P. with if you know what that is ! You future child molester and scammer you
@MissDawn7961 LOOOL are you following me around? Last time you replied to me you couldn't read. I'd advise you go get checked out at A&E after your last disgrace of a sentence you seem to be suffering from some kind of mental disorder pretty common at your age good luck dear. The future of our country is in good hands I see.
bklynbadboy1 - you got that right
@MissDawn Thank you