True or false, in order to love someone else properly you must love yourself first?

[Apple1996]

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I kind of think this saying is false, it seems like a person could love someone and by doing that they can build some self esteem and start loving themselves at the same time.
And also for people that have never experienced love itd be impossible for them to love themselves without ever experiencing what love is.
Yeah really overall I dislike this saying so want to know what everyone else thinks about it😝

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[TremorJay]

I am still learning to care for myself, and yet I've loved quite a bit. I think it would have been nicer if I had learned to love myself first, but life rarely works out the way you want it to. So in some sense, yes this statement flawed. People should do their best to support one another. Taking care of yourself is an important part of that mission, but it is still only a part.

[Slim57]

False, I honestly don't think I've ever loved myself and I was madly in love with my ex

[TadCurious]

The key to what you're asking is the part about the ability to love someone else PROPERLY. And because of that important distinction I have to disagree with you. I do think people who don't love themselves can feel affection and attachment towards others and feel that as something they call love. But to love someone properly a person has to have a core sense of personhood and self-value in order to have anything of real worth to give to another. And that's the realm of deep, real love that is something much more than just an emotion. It's being able to do things for a person that are hard and require sacrifice and require a level of functioning that only a person with a baseline of self love can provide.

[theCobbler]

I believe, you have to Love yourself first and foremost, no matter, bf/gf, ! It's not the same ,
" kind " of love , though.
It's more, a respectful, kind of Love/acceptance of Yourself !
Not beating yourself up when something doesn't work out, or because you did/said something wrong... holding your head up high but being humble at the same time; being happy/comfortable with Yourself,; ( body, mind, situation, job, family, etc ) ! When you love yourself, I believe, you are more open about what makes others happy and functional!

[Regmorus]

Absolutely true, if we speak about properly, for what the definitions can vary from one to another. Because the following situation is impossible: A person shows caring and appreciating love and doesn't show (bad) addicted love and at the same time the person didn't learn the love to itself. Another argument: by a person who did learn to love itself, there is no place for addicted love. But maybe I have too high interpretations of love properly and of love to itself, if applied to this.

[little_bird1]

If you don't love yourself, you will never feel anyone else's love towards you. You won't understand why someone loves you and you will sabotage the relationship. It will be one-sided for them.
Love is not just about loving someone, even more important is BEING LOVED. That's the whole point.

[wagsingle]

That's just an old cliche that people believe because it sounds nice. Even the term "Love yourself" is problematic. It gets used as an excuse for being self centered, ignoring ones faults and the need to correct them, being a narcissist, etc. We need to be honest about ourselves, both good and bad. We need to be committed to both increasing the good, an changing the bad. But we must also accept ourselves as a work in progress. and worthy of love.

[Fynix]

"If" you are in a relationship with me, I would be hateful of anyone who doesn't appreciate your true worth. That doesn't change if that "anyone" is you. I might like you deep down, but I will hate the fact you hate yourself.
Everyone wants others to know how valuable their significant other is, so how would they feel if their lover themself doesn't appreciate his/her self.

So in short, it's more for your partner than for yourself.

[BobbyC65]

You must love yourself sexually first before loving other's.
https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/10_of_the_best_things_you_can_do_for_your_sexual_self_at_any_age

[greycadillacs]

Yeah you can most certainly love someone else without loving yourself, but the dangers of it being a very insecure relationship run high. The individual who doesn’t love themselves might constantly need reassurance from the other party that they have value, which would be avoided if that person built up their self esteem to begin with before entering a relationship.
Been in those situations before unfortunately

[motownplayer2000]

This statement is wholeheartedly true. How can you give someone something you dont have. It's like saying I'm going to loan you a million dollars when my bank account is in the negative... that's impossible. So this saying is absolutely true. You have to know how to love yourself in able to show love to others.

[Anonymous]

I believe that the only way to love someone selflessly is if you love yourself first.
Of course you can love someone either way, but if you're not happy with just yourself the chance is much higher you're gonna want a partner for selfish reasons. To not be lonley, to recieve the love you can't be bothered to find within or because you believe it will make you a happy person.
Happiness always comes from within.

[Aizou]

To love someone else, one has to love oneself first, at least to some degree. Can't expect someone else to love us, if we can't even love ourselves. I think it's unfair to expect otherwise. Of course, that's just my opinion.

[Brandonm99]

If you don't love yourself, what are you sharing? You're just making them happy while you suffer. Self love is very important. I mean we all have flaws but that's what makes us unique! Embrace is. You cannot share something that you cannot give yourself 🤠

[Plitty-Tank]

That is very true, madam Apple1996 of North Carolina. I <3 you and you <3 me. Maybe we can have a child and make a family of 3! :) How's that rhyme, you hot momma you?

[Apple1996]

Omg haha yess im a hot mama

[Rudon00]

Apple1996 unquestionably true hun.

Not loving yourself first is why we have so many complications in relationships today

[Apple1996]

Never had any issue in my realtionship because of it. I love myself now but didn't in the beginning

[Rudon00]

I was referring to not valuing yourself highly can have you being in relationship with people who do not value you as well.

[LatinaMami2020]

True. It sounds like too much pressure to put on the other person if you don’t love yourself. I wouldn’t want someone to babysit me.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

True because if you don't love your self but you "love" someone, that would only mean that you are only loving them for companion since you're insecure but you don't love them for who they are even if they are toxic you can't let them go.

[Shamalien]

I think the saying is very true. If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others. Not only that, but the people you think you are loving, you are actually hurting, if you have not developed self love

[simplelikeme]

Absolutely true without a doubt. You can't help anyone before you help yourself. You can't be happy with somebody unless you are happy with yourself first you cannot enjoy somebody else's company until you can enjoy your own company.

[Liadon]

Its best to love yourself before others, but its very much possible to do one without the other. I know from experience.

[weysally]

because if you have a low esteem of yourself then you lose confidence,