The person making the joke feels relieved that their partner is laughing but self-deprecating humor often conveys a message that the joker suffers from low self-esteem. People who use self-deprecating humor frequently are unaware of the underlying message or they will simply deny that such a message is being sent.
Do you use self-deprecating humor in your relationships? Have you been involved with someone who routinely made jokes that put themselves down? Did you wonder about their self-esteem?
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