I think there are many types of intellects. You can be great on using words, some are great on math and some are great on interacting/reading other people. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, I can't say I'm the standard of smart, but I have other qualities.
To me I don't care much about something being 'smart', as long as they're not scared of learning.
I enjoy discussing deeper things in life, that doesn't mean I want to have an highly intellectual discussion and debate on how an black hole works or something.
Just want someone who at least don't hate to share their thoughts on harder topics, we don't have to agree or have concrete evidence on it.
There are many ways to be smart. and contempt about the "correct" way of being smart more likely suggests that you are more likely to be the critical, less invested one. one person can never be everything for us, and some people would much rather come home to a warm kind meal than an intellectually charged disagreement. I really think that we should not put so much value on how much of "one trait" a person is, but how well they treat you during your worst, and how they treat others during their worst. I think that says a lot more about a person and who they are. Hope that helps.
Personally it depends on what they weren't intelligent with. If you mean in everything then that might not be too appealing but they had other qualities then I might consider it. However I think more important than intelligence is wisdom which is the partner of intellect as you could know many things but its knowing the right situations to use that intellect which is very attractive as well! However if they are also persistent about facing challenges then that's also another big attraction as well personally. So my overall answer would be to consider and try it!
I'm smart enough for two people, so it's entirely possible.
I would prefer to marry a woman at least as smart as me if not smarter, but those women are so rare I've only ever met or heard of three. Which is pathetic.
Not only that, I don't care how smart a woman is, I won't marry her if she's a rotten cunt. So I don't see how I'm going to get married without having to settle for a dumbass. But if she's nice and kind and loyal, I'll be good to her and I'll do all I can to make her life easier.
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Yes, unless it led to them making very poor decisions that would affect our relationship. The guy wouldn't have to be a rocket scientist or anything, either, though.
I would like for their intelligence level to be somewhat close to the same level as mine, because it's kind of hard to interact with people who are too far below your intelligence level, and, I know this sounds bad, but it can feel like being around a little kid, which is a turnoff.
Yes, i would. I am not all smart either, and i dont judge anyone considering if the guy isn't that smart. But their hearts and souls would definitely attract me, bc then we have a loving relationship and his way of treating me good is better than having a man to mistreat me poorly. After all we aren't all perfect, we are just humans. 🙂
Never. I need to have someone who can keep a conversation with me
I would be so numb because what I want the most is stimulating some intellectual conversation every single day. As I always say, mental connection matters. It's important to have a partner who is as smart as or smarter than me. Discussion with someone who can't understand what I mean is tiring. I prefer thinkers in general.
I honestly dont think I could date someone who wasn't intelligent at least in some form. I won't even be friends with someone who I don't find intellectually stimulating so I really cannot picture myself ever dating someone like that. My current boyfriend is so intelligent that it can be rather intimidating but I love the fact that I can engage in an intellectual conversation and have him keep right up with me and actually respond with intelligence, versus not being able to respond at all because he doesn't know what I'm talking about.
I always assume intelligent was a very subject idea. i have tons of friends who date guys I would not. but not once have i ever assume they were not smart etc. i always go in with a very non judgment attitude. every single one is awesome at many things. If nothing else i like watching them interact.
Now for me, since im more mental than physical. Eh, If a person can not match me on a mental wave link than we hardly every make it to being physical to being with.
not becasue i dont want to like them or im judging them. But im really like a child (#adhd). If there never any challenging convoys or debates, i will indeed get bored and move on... quick.
it why i avoid the silent type... i will ever under stand those type of people. like what do you want me to be? the clairvoyance to learn about what you did in the past in another time or telepathic> As long as a person can converse in a way that keep me asking and wanting to know. I can be too intense sometimes
Unless he's completely an idiot, I think not being there brightest of the bunch isn't much of a deal breaker for me. I definitely have other traits that I prioritize more. I'd say courage and compassion are both more important than intelligence to me. But intelligence is more important than looks.
Intelligence is a big turn on for me. I had a friends with benefits try to convince me that the movie Lucy was based on facts because Morgan Freeman is a smart man. He was lovely and a lot of fun but I got bored pretty quick. I like someone that can teach me something and understands (at least a little) my nonsense.
Maybe. As much as I like intellectual conversation, someone warm/inviting and funny is always nice to be around. As an introvert, sometimes it's exhausting to be around certain types of people-- especially the talkative intellectual, who can sometimes be EXHAUSTING to be around.
If the kind of intelligence we're talking about is being "book smart", then it's not a priority for me. If a guy is loyal, kind, righteous, then I'm fine with it. Then if we're talking about a foolish person who is obstinate and think their way is the right and only way... then no.
Hell yeh I would to me nothing matters more then who you are on the inside if you are unintelligent I don't care hell if anything I'm more then unintelligent I'm legit Goofy from Disney XD but yeh I guess that's why I'm so easily look down on it's because I don't care about anything more then what's on the inside
I hate to burst bubbles, but if she's unintelligent then she's going to find satisfaction in shallow boring conversations that I just can't find amusement in, there's basically a communication boundary that can never be broken.
Oh absolutely. I'd rather date someone unintelligent than someone hoity toity all day long. I don't mind being challenged but I also just like to relax with people and not talk about serious things and just enjoy time together.
Theoretically, yes, but wouldn't there be communication problems?
There is different types of intelligence thou everyone has knowledge for things they love so i believe everyone is intelligent. Lots of people are emotionally unintelligent though
Absolutely not. In fact, I wouldn't even want to be seen in public with someone like that. And I'm NOT talking about intellectual disabilities but about those who CHOOSE to be stupid. The ones who COULD learn if they want to but won't get off their asses to do the necessary steps. The ones who have the resources but will keep asking the same question over and over and over instead of looking it up themselves, which has been PROVEN to teach people more.
If they are not completly dum and just rely on looks, fake tan and big boobs then yes. If it is something medical or they are just not very bright then I could. I only wouldn't date fake dumb people. You don't have to be an astrophysicist, however every has some qualities about them and things they are good at.
Even though i am a really easy going guy, I would much rather an intelligent woman over a smart woman. A kind woman over a lusty woman, A friendly woman than a flirty. Of course it comes down to who they are inside. I could never date a woman that is "brain dead" more or less. It would drive me INSANE!
This is kinda shallow, but I dont think I would be able to do that. I feel that having meaningful conversations will be crucial to my future relationships. In addition, I would want my partner to support me, and challenge me when im being stupid. I think that only an intelligent person could do that.
This is just what I think I want, and I'm sure that there are people that I could love who dont match what I described above, but they would be the exceptions.
Here’s the truth: whenever someone says intelligence is not important in a partner, it usually means they aren’t that intelligent either. Intelligent folks get along best with other intelligent folks. Nerds get along best with other nerds. People hangout with those who they are most similar to. People date those who they are surrounded by the most.
The dumb tend to marry other dumb people. Uneducated folks marry other uneducated folks. Rich folks tend to Marry other rich folks
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