Are men who refuse to date fat women shallow and superficial? (Page 2)

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I think men who don't date fat girls are insanely fucking shallow and selfish. It's pretty sad actually. Men who don't date fat girls are no different from gold-diggers.  So yeah men are fucking shallow as hell these days. It's depressing honestly. Men are no different from gold diggers if they refuse to date fat girls.

jasontheasian · Answer

Its personal preference. I dated 2 thicc women and i enjoyed the experience and time with them but it wasn't because of their body but because of their personality. The only women i actually won't date are ones that are extremely fat because they dont take care of their own health.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I don't think so. Would you date a man who looked like a wrinkly 80 yr old but was actually 30? ya probably not, you'd wanna throw up a little. It's wrong if say he marries a thin girl but she then gains weight and he leaves her.

alwaysintosomething · Answer

I never had much problem with a girl's weight until I heard fat girls talk as if they're entitled to any man they desire. You only get who you can get and hierarchies exist for both men and women. Get used to it because as a man with no considerable amount of money, I have to.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

I refuse to date women I don't find physically attractive. That's all.
I've dated a woman who would be considered fat before because she had other physical attributes I liked. But for some men, someone being overweight is going to be a huge turn-off and something they couldn't look past.
I think someone is upset because a guy they liked rejected them...

Flower7 · Answer

No, that's just their personal preference. It's similar to people who only like to date people who have a certain hair color or certain physical features. No one can control who they're attracted to.

Sargentcaptain · Answer

Are women who wouldn't date a guy shorter than 5ft 3 shallow? Certainly a little, but people should look for partners who they find physically and sexually appealing. That's best for everyone involved.

stickytoes · Answer

We’re all shallow and it’s totally justified that they don’t want to date a fat woman. Most women don’t want to date fat man either. It’s just natural to be turned off by obese people sexually.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the idea of not dating fat is not because they are shallow but because the person doesn’t have care about themselves how will have care about other people a family? That is why they avoid it since fat people tend to have many health and mental problems

Anonymous · Answer

Of course we are. But I'd be willing to bet that given the choice between a fit man and a fatso, with all other characteristics being the same, you wouldn't choose the fat guy.

And I see you replied to one commenter saying "weight can change". Well? Change it! You already know what the problem is, and you already know you can change it. So change it and the problem goes away.

G3tAClue · Answer

There is nothing wrong with a guy who prefers a woman who is fit. It’s just like any other preference someone would have.

msss98 · Answer

I refused to date out of shape guys my whole life so i guess u could call me superficial too

Phoenix98 · Answer

So I’m shallow because I don’t want to date someone I don’t find attractive and who lives a unhealthily life style and doesn’t take care of herself?
well if that’s your logic then yeah I’m shallow and I don’t care 🤷🏻‍♂️

LuvMeSomeBoys · Answer

Nobody regardless of sex has to explain his or her dating tastes and preferences to anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I dated obese woman but it's embarrassing when other guys mocked me because of her obesity. Even if she could be very attractive with dozens of kilograms less and it wasn't easy to say goodbye.
Yes, obese girls have a problem but a man isn't the cure for their problem with themselves.
By the way, comparing unwillingness for dating of obese women with gold diggers is somewhat off.

Anonymous · Answer

Can I say that women and girls of today who reject 99.9% of men and guys are considered reaching for this perfect/made up man to take care of her and pamper her and deal with her up & down emotions as fine? Okay 99.9% is too high, i'll say women/girls reject 90% of men/guys, is she considered uptight with extremely high expectations?

Pyrofox · Answer

I think the idea is "if she doesn't care about her own physical image she probably won't care about me."

Kurαȷ · Answer

Shallow, because they choose not to date someone who has no self-control, discipline or the desire to better themselves? Cool story, fatty.

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

Not really. There has to be an element of physical attraction and as some girls won't consider a man with red hair or under 6ft... list goes on... then its acceptable for men to have their no can do limits too

jestergent · Answer

Women who lost weight don't regret it. The problem happens in the bedroom. I want to lift her up standing in the shower. I've dated and had relationships with overweight in past. I don't do it anymore. Mostly when comes to sex, it's not fun.

Livelearnletgo · Answer

I feel like guys are really strict about only dating skinny girls lol. I think it's a social pressure placed on them. But let them be shallow, not like the relationship will last. Shallow people date shallow people and have loveless relationships. I gained weight and now I'm considered "thicc" I am either called thick or fat. I don't know. Some guys accept me. But I have been trying to work out and eat healthy. Lol. Just find someone who likes you for you.

Ripper_E · Answer

How is it shallow to not be interested in a woman that isn't healthy or in decent shape? Doesn't mean they only care about appearance but at some point, you have to draw the line. Not the same as a gold digger. Money is a primary factor.

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends. Do you mean men refusing to be with someone morbidly obese or calling anyone with the slightest bit of belly fat and cellulite as too fat for him to date?

Twalli · Answer

Girls who refuse to date short men are shallow. You can change your weight, you can't change your height. So fat girls can lose weight if they want to date a guy who prefers girls who aren't fat. Short guys can't get tall.

dmvgirl16 · Answer

I think yes because men should not be focused on the way a girl looks when wanting to date a girl that is just discrimination and that should not be permitted

ClosetHoe · Answer

No. You can change your weight. If you refuse to date someone because of something they can't change (like height) you're shallow.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Date a lot of fat guys, do ya?

DocT1977 · Answer

Everyone does have personal preferences. I don't take peoples judgment for liking what I like. Why should it be any different in any other scenario?

FakeName123 · Answer

It's called standards. So don't put the blame for your obesity onto someone else-

silvermoon84 · Answer

No, it’s just their preference. This is coming from a 5’6” 216 lb girl. If being bigger makes me undateable to these men, let them date who they want.

StephenCF · Answer

I’ll stop judging men’s opinion of fat girls the day women stop refusing to date shorter guys

burlen · Answer

It’s a preference. Equally as some women don’t find short guys or guys outside their race or ethnicity attractive.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

People have the right to want what they want. Just like girls don't like short guys.  Who are we to say to what everyone should or shouldn't be attracted to?

Reaperbot666 · Answer

personally I don't judge a girl based on her height or weight if she is otherwise healthy. provided she is also proud of how she looks and feels. personality matters more in the long term.

ValleyofDrakes · Answer

The same way women don't date guys because they're ugly men don't date girls because they're fat.  It is what it is.

Unit1 · Answer

As shallow and superficial as women rejecting men, who are in debts and are unemployed. How do you like that?

David_Kek · Answer

Have you considered, I don't know, losing some weight?  You'll likely have more success doing that than demanding men as a group change their standards to revolve around you.

monkeynutts · Answer

Fat chicks need to pay for their crimes against humanity. eating all the food, and taking up too much space. They don't deserve a date, you should hang a lemon meringue pie over a tread mill, but it's to far, so all ways out of reach.

Janae_ · Answer

Every man has a preference you can't call someone shallow bc you aren't there preference

Filipe97 · Answer

You can't demand attraction. People are not in control of what they feel attracted to. That's like saying a lesbian is shallow for not wanting to date a man. You can't force attraction. If there is no spark, there is no love

grega239 · Answer

I refuse to date fat women. I'm not attracted to it because they come off as lazy.

And no, it's not the same as being a gold digger because gold diggers are after wealth and status they didn't earn, they are parasitic.

Anonymous · Answer

I see nothing wrong with wanting to date a healthy woman who takes care of herself. I don’t think that’s shallow. Most women won’t date men who are too fat, too short, or not ambitious enough. Are they shallow for having those preferences?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

And I think posts like this one reek of false entitlement and sound more like the tantrums thrown by a cranky baby than well-informed, fact-based, adult opinions.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It's not the same thing. If you're not physically attracted to a physical attribute (which is a natural preference) then it wouldn't be right to pursue someone. Just wasting their time.

AcidT0y · Answer

If I'm not attracted to fat people then I'm not attracted to them. Everyone has preferences and it's ridiculous to try and shame people into relationships with incompatible partners.

You're ridiculous.

llsetova · Answer

I don't think it's shallow or superficial. After all, it's just a preference, everyone has a preference. However, if they're openly rude about not dating a particular body type- then thats extremely rude.

Miristheiss · Answer

No... zero sexual attraction. They are probably grossed out physically.

tchris · Answer

In my opinion no, those two comparisons are basically comparing cherries to watermelons. Everyones got preferences, some people love bigger people and some people love slimmer people all you gotta do is move on and live your life.

Condoriano · Answer

The correlation between gold diggers and a particular preference is nonsensical.

gotc147 · Answer

Is it really fair to her if he isn't attracted to her?

FictionalCharacter · Answer

You’d be surprised how many guys have secret chubby fetish’s.

Nature_Enthusiast · Answer

I will not date a "fat" girl because i do not find them attractive. However, it doesn't mean I'll treat them any different than i would to a less fat girl. Would you date a fat guy?

ThiccNigro · Answer

Sounds like someone got rejected. People can have preferences. Also, not dating a fat person is by no means the same as gold digging. How is not dating someone the same as using and manipulating them?

BulletproofNY · Answer

First of all, let’s define fat. Fat means overweight for their own structure, meaning, a thicker girl is not necessarily fat. Also, chubby is not necessarily fat
So, no, I wouldn’t date a fat girl.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

You can compare it to height all you want but you can’t change height but you can change your weight. It’s not like we don’t have to live up to beauty standards either. I’m sure you would take a muscular guy over a blob of flesh any day.

Nileviewboy · Answer

no more shallow than women who prefer thin men with 8 inch penises and 9 inch biceps...

cth96190 · Answer

Are fat women who lack the discipline and common sense to diet and exercise the architects of their own misery?

StinkinSkunk · Answer

They just have a type. If they aren't into overweight girls then that's it.

mikebeckers · Answer

Being physically healthy is important. Being fat isn't healthy. Simple as that.

Sonorous · Answer

I agree with whoever has the most likes on their opinion

honestGUY45 · Answer

If that's how you feel and what you believe...🙋‍♂️RIGHT HERE!! Mr. shallow, superficial, selfish gold-digger at your service. (Unless you're fat, ewww.🤮)

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