Who has it tougher, overall, in dating?

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Realistically, I would say females have it worse only because some guys are violent and a gal may be afraid to go out alone with a stranger on a blind date or something. But if live in a fantasy world where that doesn't exist, and then only focus on the even-keel stuff, males definitely have it harder.
What are your reasons for picking whichever you picked?

Jenom · Accepted Answer

Both have it tough in their own unique ways.

Guys (and I can talk from experience): You've got a vision in your head of personality, sense of humour, appearance, mannerisms/conduct and you want a woman who can cover %90 of it all. It can be very hard. Every detail is scrutinized.

Girls: They have it tough because they have a similar vision. My chick friends have common dealbreakers when it comes to dating - Has to have a job (ANY job, as long as he has one), has to have all his teeth, a great sense of humour but knows when to be serious and of course trust and honesty.

Both have it tough in similar ways but also different. I'd say it's dead even between both genders. As a man I feel I have a duty to approach the girl or commence communication. That's just who I am and I have no qualms with that at all. But times are certainly changing (or have changed already?).. I've asked for a few numbers recently and was rejected because they had boyfriends, which is fine. But I feel as though asking for a number to taker her out can come across as creepy and weird in this day & age.

bluetoblack99 · Accepted Answer

In western countries women DEFINITELY have it easier in general. I can provide a full list wby but it would be a word wall.

However in underdeveloped countries were rapes and violent crimes are underreported I can see it be tougher for women.

zollo · Accepted Answer

I didn't even answer but your initial question literally says "Realistically, I would say  females  have it worse only because some guys are violent and a gal may be afraid to go out alone with a stranger on a blind date or something." but then you have a super aggressive update where you 360 saying "Females definitely don't have it harder". Did you just like... change your mind oooooor?

Miley19new · Accepted Answer

I'd say males because girls usually have more options. If they dont like a guy, they can just find another one but for guys it's hard

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Who has more difficulty is a very subjective question to answer. More importantly, why does it matter? All we need to know is that dating can be difficult for both sexes and we should be mindful of that and not deliberately do anything that makes it even more difficult for our partners.

Chikky · Answer

Every shy persons finds it hard, be it male or female

Finchie40 · Answer

I say guys, only reason is cuz girls tend to have way more options then guys do , if a guy thinks a girl is beautiful their will be a line of other guys thinking the same thing , if a girl thinks a guy is hot their won’t be that big of a line , it also depends on who asked out who first on the date , the person that asked has it the hardest for the simple fact that they are the ones hoping that person likes them the same way back. When a girl asks me out and I say yes , part of me already knows the ball is in my court. When a guy asks a girl out she has the ball in her court so whoever asks who has it the hardest

DCooper · Answer

Equally tough but in different ways. Harder for guys to break the ice and actually get the ball rolling; but for women it's tougher to end up with a long term commitment due to the subset of guys who'll pass their first screening... their criteria tend to only leave them with the guys who have a dozen girls to pick from, and we are aware that we have no reason to settle for just one.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

One of the benefits of having female friends is that I've gotten to hear detailed horror stories about guys who just try to force themselves and try to date rape them or imply violence to get submission.. there's no way us men being rejected or otherwise even remotely compares to the unknown terrors women face when going out on dates.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

In this modern age girls have more options. people have more options. but finding a good partner is harder.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'd say females. Because as a guy you can just decide to be single. But women are kind of expected to date i think. I don't know if it's the expectations that come with giving birth to a future generation or what.
But whether it be family or friends what are the first things women discuss, " are you seeing anybody"?

purplepoppy · Answer

Very few men are violent and any girl with half a brain can spot the warning signs long before she goes on a date. The hardest thing about being a girl is the number of guys who want to date you just for that reason, your a girl, rather than for your own personal qualities.

Anonymous · Answer

Both have their struggles. But really it depends on the individual also.

Most men have a tough time getting dates/getting laid. For men who do get laid, the struggle is just finding a girl worth settling down with once he decides he wants to do that.

For women, they can get dates and get laid really easily. Their problem is that the majority of men who approach them they have no interest in. And then the ones who are attractive are often players looking to ejaculate and evacuate.

As I see it though, men who have a tough time are usually just men who don't understand what women want and the same goes for women who constantly get pumped and dumped.

To be fair though, I'm glad I'm a guy. I think we have many more ways to become more attractive if we want to than women do. Women pretty much have to rely on the genetic lottery for the most part.

honeybunSs · Answer

It seems like guys have it harder. They're always complaining on here about not being able to find a girlfriend. It's definitely easier for a girl to get a guy.

cth96190 · Answer

Men have a much more difficult road to travel in dating.
It is the social convention that men are supposed to make the first move.
Imagine getting hundreds of bitchy rejections and put downs from young females.
It is the social convention that males should pay for everything.
That can make dating too expensive for young men who are just getting started in life.
Also, when was the last time that you heard of a man making a false rape allegation against a female?
In today's world, just being alone with a female exposes the male to a false allegation that can destroy his life.

ThiccBoai · Answer

Both have some struggles of course. I do think that women have it worse. The reason is simple:
Men.
Dickpix, that stupid empty flirting, asking for sex etcetcetc. It's not for no reason that some girls have in their bio (used to tell something about yourself) "I don't want to receive dickpics or have sex".

DiegoO · Answer

I am not sure in what sense you are referring. If it's in the sense of actually having a date, males, we, have it much more complicated.

Women's are like a flower. A flower doesn't need to move to get the direct attention of a bee. Women's doesn't require to seek for a date. World wide, are men who propose to women not the other way around. We, as men, would be similar to a bee, looking for the best flower.

If you are referring in terms of safety, women's have it much more complicated, is why they are picky, even tough guys with psychopathy trick them with their charm, unfortunately. Guys with psychopathy who learn the language of the average person.

Massageman · Answer

Guys are expected to "take the lead" , but some aren't even aware that there is a lead to take (referring to late teens who are starting to date). Even older guys- particularly shy dudes- have a hard time of trying to "read" potential girlfriends, when to ask - and not ask- for a date, etc.

thatnicksuitsme · Answer

I've never tried dating outside Turkey so my opinion is not a healty one. I'd say males, because girls have so many guys approaching them and they can be fit or not as long as they have a vagina they will be able to find an average guy. But for us guys, we have to be confident, good looking, need to have a big penis, money (a good job and steady income) etc the list goes on. I don't know about other countries but i'm not an ugly guy, average maybe and I have 0 matches after a week of tinder in turkey. It's kinda depressing to be male.

jshm2 · Answer

It's not tough either way.

There are girls who can't set themselves up right, and there are guys who can't do things right. It's more down to the individual and their circumstances, than simply their gender.

Anonymous · Answer

Men have it harder. If you're shy, you're basically dead to the dating world, unless some dominatrix finds you and makes you her slave, and you're not really going to have a great time there, unlike the shy girl that calls any man's attention, basically. If you're a girl, you can always get laid, no matter if you're the ugliest girl out there. If you're a guy, you might not be able to get laid that easily, and will have to work on yourself a bit even for that

Unit1 · Answer

Try online dating as a woman and as a man.  You'll find 10 matches in one day as a woman and maybe 2 matches in one day as a man. Therefore men have it much harder. Supply and demand.

Truthatanycost · Answer

It's harder for men, but in a sense, their desperation, tolerance for bs (to get sex) and lack of quality control is part of why.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys/men have it tougher. We have to go against many guys going after the same
girl/woman. Guys have to be on their A-game, to take charge, to find the spots, to convey confidence, to pay for the first few dates and etc. I’m different and I’m simple, a girl I’m on a date doesn’t have to dress up, she doesn’t need to put on tons of makeup. Just be you, Say yes, and meet up. Sure, add some element of prettiness but no need to over do it to get my attention. But if it’s me, girls don’t have to do much, I try to make it easy and chill.

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