It depends on the detail and how it's relevant to what we are talking about. But as a rule no, however if it's used respectfully and practically then yes but overall no
Never. Just start fresh. Past is the past why bring it over. Is like you are not trying to move on. Leave it alone just learn from the mistakes, even wasn't yours just learn what lead to and what to pay attention this time. Everyone has their own mistakes. The main and classic mistake is Rush.
The reason why not to bring it over because you are going to alert the date and chances are going hide it. So shut up and don't ask about the past or bring it over.
‘IF’... they wish to talk about their exes, I’ll listen. It has never bothered me.
I know women tend to be curious, but for men, never talk about our exes unless she brings them up. Other wise we are accused of talking about them too much even if purely for context about something. Even if just one other time outside of her asking.
I don't agree. Pinks are very driven/geared towards discussing and dissecting interpersonal relationships - of all kinds, not just lovers. The ladies, like the men, are about 50/50 split on whether they want to know on a date. It can backfire, sure, but the answer is not to never talk about exes.
I like to hear about the past, it doesn't offend me and knowing about past hurts and trials helps me understand where some triggers are so that I know not to trip them.
to me its a good thing to hear,,,, as long as it isn't long drawn out convo that is the only topic,,, because it can give you a preview of whay kind of mindset your date could be in whn it comes to relationships,, jus pay attention and smile
I don't really want to hear about it. Mostly because my past relationships are a lot of unload on people on dated. Its something that would need to be discussed as time unveils it's self or when we are at that comfortable level of knowing and understanding. At the same time I know them by the present not the past and their actions when tell me anything I need to know
On a date, no. A date should just be about us. Wouldn't mind hearing about it when we are just hanging out or talking but when actually out on a date it would seem odd to me. Extremely odd on a first date.
I want to know about her past, because I want to know who I'm getting involved with so I can make an informed decision about whether to pursue her any further.
@backdoorman It is not about whether you want to hear or not. It is about what you gonna do if you hear something you dislike, or what you gonna do if you got rejected because of it. Are you ready to accept it, whatever happen afterward?
@backdoorman Yeah I'm with you. Not relevant. I'm goona make up a new term here, since we have emojispeak. Now we have memespeak. These really are not relevant. That's what happens when one tries to communicate with pictures and not words.
@AmandaYVR Yeah, agreed. I have seen dozens, maybe hundreds of posts from this guy and literally every one of them has been the same. He just writes "Simple" and throws in a couple of memes that rarely seem to have any relevance. I just started ignoring them after the first 50 or so. If you have an opinion to share, just write it.
Only if it provides information that helps me get to know her better... some people are damaged from past abusive relationships and so forth. This is something I need to know.
Not on first date, maybe after like 5 or 6 dates we can talk about past relationships. Bringing it up too early makes it seem like they're not "over it"
I don't think anyone wants to hear about past relationships. I mean if you're telling a story of a trip somewhere. You might have to include your previous partner. But any woman who repeatedly referred to previous relationships i'd eventually want to stop seeing.
Yes I'd want to hear, just not on the first date. As @ronny212 , @On_the_other_hand , and @magiusX26 said, I'd want to know if she has any "triggers." I don't need (nor want) details as most of us have a past.
On the flips side, I'd just say (if she were so inclined to ask), "no I don't have an baggage, but that's probably baggage in and of itself."
Preferably yes, because I don't like to talk about my past. If they initiate a discussion about "the past" it's weird bragging, they want information about my past in exchange for theirs, or they are still not over it.
First couple of dates nope. Eventually, yes I'd like to know. Truthfully, I want to know as much as I can possibly know about her so I can find a way to make the most happy.
I don’t mind it to a point, but if I’m repeatedly hearing about the ex it’s annoying. I don’t even want to hear about what a bitch she was. The fact that the guy is even talking about her at all tells me he’s still not over her.
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It depends on the detail and how it's relevant to what we are talking about. But as a rule no, however if it's used respectfully and practically then yes but overall no
Never. Just start fresh. Past is the past why bring it over. Is like you are not trying to move on. Leave it alone just learn from the mistakes, even wasn't yours just learn what lead to and what to pay attention this time. Everyone has their own mistakes. The main and classic mistake is Rush.
The reason why not to bring it over because you are going to alert the date and chances are going hide it. So shut up and don't ask about the past or bring it over.
‘IF’... they wish to talk about their exes, I’ll listen. It has never bothered me.
I know women tend to be curious, but for men, never talk about our exes unless she brings them up. Other wise we are accused of talking about them too much even if purely for context about something. Even if just one other time outside of her asking.
I don't agree. Pinks are very driven/geared towards discussing and dissecting interpersonal relationships - of all kinds, not just lovers. The ladies, like the men, are about 50/50 split on whether they want to know on a date. It can backfire, sure, but the answer is not to never talk about exes.
I like to hear about the past, it doesn't offend me and knowing about past hurts and trials helps me understand where some triggers are so that I know not to trip them.
to me its a good thing to hear,,,, as long as it isn't long drawn out convo that is the only topic,,, because it can give you a preview of whay kind of mindset your date could be in whn it comes to relationships,, jus pay attention and smile
I don't really want to hear about it. Mostly because my past relationships are a lot of unload on people on dated. Its something that would need to be discussed as time unveils it's self or when we are at that comfortable level of knowing and understanding. At the same time I know them by the present not the past and their actions when tell me anything I need to know
On a date, no. A date should just be about us. Wouldn't mind hearing about it when we are just hanging out or talking but when actually out on a date it would seem odd to me. Extremely odd on a first date.
I want to know about her past, because I want to know who I'm getting involved with so I can make an informed decision about whether to pursue her any further.
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Dude, are you incapable of communicating without memes, and are you able to spell any words beyond "simple"?
@backdoorman
It is not about whether you want to hear or not. It is about what you gonna do if you hear something you dislike, or what you gonna do if you got rejected because of it. Are you ready to accept it, whatever happen afterward?
You do realize my comment had nothing to do with the question, right?
@backdoorman I do and I said it
@backdoorman Yeah I'm with you.
Not relevant. I'm goona make up a new term here, since we have emojispeak. Now we have memespeak.
These really are not relevant. That's what happens when one tries to communicate with pictures and not words.
@AmandaYVR Yeah, agreed. I have seen dozens, maybe hundreds of posts from this guy and literally every one of them has been the same. He just writes "Simple" and throws in a couple of memes that rarely seem to have any relevance. I just started ignoring them after the first 50 or so. If you have an opinion to share, just write it.
Only if it provides information that helps me get to know her better... some people are damaged from past abusive relationships and so forth. This is something I need to know.
Not on first date, maybe after like 5 or 6 dates we can talk about past relationships. Bringing it up too early makes it seem like they're not "over it"
I don't think anyone wants to hear about past relationships. I mean if you're telling a story of a trip somewhere. You might have to include your previous partner. But any woman who repeatedly referred to previous relationships i'd eventually want to stop seeing.
Yes I'd want to hear, just not on the first date. As @ronny212 , @On_the_other_hand , and @magiusX26 said, I'd want to know if she has any "triggers." I don't need (nor want) details as most of us have a past.
On the flips side, I'd just say (if she were so inclined to ask), "no I don't have an baggage, but that's probably baggage in and of itself."
To a degree, u can tell a lot on how a relationship will be by hearing about there past ones the tone they speak in about they're ex (es).
I'm a good listener so I wouldn't mind just don't expect me to do the same
Are you often/mostly listening to be polite, or because you're interested?
Intrested I know a lot about people that I'm not even friends with because people like talking to me
I would... this will help me see if I want to take it further.
Preferably yes, because I don't like to talk about my past. If they initiate a discussion about "the past" it's weird bragging, they want information about my past in exchange for theirs, or they are still not over it.
*preferably yes, means I don't want to hear about it.
First couple of dates nope. Eventually, yes I'd like to know. Truthfully, I want to know as much as I can possibly know about her so I can find a way to make the most happy.
Depends. Ok to touch on it the first date but not to carry on.
I don’t mind it to a point, but if I’m repeatedly hearing about the ex it’s annoying. I don’t even want to hear about what a bitch she was. The fact that the guy is even talking about her at all tells me he’s still not over her.