Is being physically clingy a turn off?

Question

As in dating.

KeziL · Accepted Answer

Physical touch is one of my main love languages, it makes me incredibly happy when my partner just randomly puts their arm around my waist or holds my hand or plays with my hair or squeezes my leg or hugs me close or touches my arm or literally anything. So I would love someone who is physically clingy. I also always love to spend time with the people I love; I’d go as far as to say that the only time I need alone time is when I’m sad because I didn’t get to spend as much time as I wanted with someone.
obviously I’d want them to be reasonable. If we were in class or at work together or somewhere where being super touchy wasn’t appropriate or if we would make friends around us uncomfortable, then I’d expect them to lay off for a bit.

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

It depends on why they are clingy!! Some are clingy because they are insecure and are afraid to lose your attention. Unfortunately, for these people, they always end up making their fear a reality. Those clingy people are a HUGE turn off for me. If they are confident but absolutely adore your attention and just want love after a long day, that's absolutely no problem for me.

JPrez · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. If it’s forced for attention after you’ve just given your partner attention it can rub you the wrong way. If your partner is neglecting you and it’s the only option left to get their attention I don’t see a problem with it. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while this could become an annoyance.

sensible27 · Accepted Answer

Yea, don't touch me please but depends on how lovely you are. I would think for some it's likable and for some it's not, also depends on the 'type' of relationship.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Definitely a turnoff. There's wanting to be close to someone, then there's overdoing it. It makes me think he's too dependent on others for happiness and/or companionship.

I don't mind if a guy is a little "touchy," but if he's wanting to touch me, cuddle, and be around me all the time? That's a major turnoff

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I want a guy who chooses me because I make him happy - not because he needs somebody and thinks I’m easy to control

Mil00 · Answer

No, then again it depends on the extent of it, also the person. If it's mixed with intense insecurity, then yes.
My ex was clingy, I liked it at first. Then it became clingy and possessive. He would go through my phone and see who I was talking to, or not want me to go anywhere.

GlitterFairy16 · Answer

No, i love it. Im very clingy myself and always want cuddles and kisses from my boyfriend, im just shy in public and my boyfriend always acts clingly when out because he knows im shy and im get all embarrassed and he thinks it's cute and funny when i tell him off. He just wants to show me off to people and i do think it's sweet he isn't embarrassed to show me he loves me in public but I'm just not one for PTA but i could never be turned off by someone who's physically clingy as i am myself.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

How physically clingy are we talking about here? Are we talking "stage 5"?

desidoll · Answer

Yes, everyone needs their own time to be alone. I can’t stand clingy partner. It can be unhealthy to your relationship

PettyBoop · Answer

Depends  how  clingy. I like a little bit. But if he/she wants to be up my ass sideways every second of the day, I'm good on it.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Yes, give space so that there's want and interest. Take for example a dog/cat. If that animal doesn't show you much interest, then you'll want it to even more than an animal that does show you interest. The same is with people.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Girls usually find this a turn off and guys do too when they’re not horny

Makeushiver · Answer

Not so much. Emotionally clingy is what is difficult

Tomsta · Answer

Yes. I dont have time for clinginess My schedule is busy enough already without having to constantly validate my partner

genericname85 · Answer

depends. there's a certain threshold at which it becomes annoying. hard to put in words.

Tobi_Lerone · Answer

Depends on how clingy... I mean if there is constantly someone hanging on my arm (literally) that's too much. For me at least.

the_sinner · Answer

It can be if it gets too suffocating and irritating and starts to interfere with your work and daily routine. Too much of something is not good.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

It's ok for a woman to do it to a point. Just let me breathe often.

In_Trance · Answer

everyone is clingy to varying degrees. So yes it can be

Jerre · Answer

I usually don’t mind, especially if their tits are continually brushing against me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. To live a healthy life one must have balance in everything. Having a person all over you constantly will eventually being to drain you.

Browneye57 · Answer

Kinda, yeah. Holding hands and hugging is all great, but insecure and excessive clingy-ness isn't.

_DARKNESS_ · Answer

A certain level of clingy is nice, as longs as it doesn’t go overboard (that’s when it gets slightly annoying).

msc545 · Answer

Not as long as there isn't too much of it and it doesn't last for too long and it it doesn't happen too often

jasco · Answer

I dont mind physically clingy people but dont be mentally clingy

VV3ZZY · Answer

No, but having good boundaries is super important for healthy relationships

Jok3r5 · Answer

Not to me personally, but I know it can be to some people.

shortster · Answer

I like it. As I struggle to understand women and being clingy sends a clear message of interest.

tjbyrd39 · Answer

If it's all the time definitely. It's okay during activities

dmgstarfleet · Answer

no where near as bad as being emotionally clingy

JigyW · Answer

No, cuddles and hugs for days 💯

DaMack999 · Answer

Ewww. Clingy women are BIG TURN OFF.

Avicenna · Answer

Nope, I generally do not mind clingy and love PDAs

ArcticBliss · Answer

I think being overly clingy can be

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No clingy is not a turn off

Sylvanas_Windrunner · Answer

Spank me, mistress

Thatsamazing · Answer

If it's excessive, yes.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I like when my boyfriend is clingy

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What is "physically" clingy?

FruitAndBlueEyes · Answer

Not to me, no. I like it.

bannacookies · Answer

To some it is. Others like it.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Thats depends on how clingy you are

maadison · Answer

It's draining

DSimus · Answer

Yes, get off me.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

It is a huge turnoff.

Grs96 · Answer

can be to some people

bassinguy76 · Answer

It can be. I like a little clingy.

Agape93 · Answer

Can be yeah

Don-_-Don · Answer

Depends

Iron_Man · Answer

After a while yes

Ifriqyan · Answer

No i like it

Gedaria · Answer

No...

andy530 · Answer

No not really

GreenGold1992 · Answer

yeah

mrgspoter · Answer

All depends what

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