Is it bad I'm too clingy?

[CandyG]

So like I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, for the most part everything about him is perfect. The only problem is that I like physical contact a lot, and often try to be affectionate with him. Not even in like the weird making out in public or being super handsy or anything, I am talking about wanting to hold his hand/link arms when we walk, or lay my head on him when we are sitting/laying down together. And recently he has been pushing me off him and telling me to chill, which I feel a little bad about because I just love him and I want to show affection. But he's telling me it's kind of suffocating that I'm so clingy. Is there a way I can be physically affectionate without coming off as clingy?

[caring__1]

Picture this... you go to the beach and grab a handful of sand. You notice the sand coming out between your fingers, so you squeeze tighter. The sand now comes out faster.

This is not about proving possession or ownership, it's about staying connected. Guys like being touched, but they don't appreciate a death grip, which they find suffocating. Learn to give light, sensual touches.

Many guys love to grab and bounce their partners boobs. They find it enjoyable and believe their partner should find it just as enjoyable. For the most part, women don't enjoy having their boobs grabbed and bounced. The same holds true in reverse. What type of touch do you prefer? Have you ever considered guys might like that soft touch, also.

Just like a hint of nudity is more arousing than total nudity, a hint of a touch is more arousing than a vice grip. Come across like you truly like him, not like you're afraid he might get loose and disappear.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

As a Man I don't find it bad for a woman to be too clingy also every Man is different some like an over clingy woman some dislike it I don't see it being bad I would open a wide window of communication and sit down talk to your boyfriend find out what he wants but by all means pushing a woman away can tend to cause her to feel let out and trust me you don't want to feel that way and your boyfriend shouldn't do that to you, I'm trying to help you to the best of my ability and by all means if you don't understand me please let me know :) Best Wishes !!!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Anonymous]

I feel like one of the biggest signs that a guy might be losing interest is when you start noticing those changes. I’m not implying that he’s cheating, that doesn’t even have to be on his radar. But for him to only recently start pushing you away after two years being fine with it is pretty suspicious not gonna lie.

[TheBallGuy1234]

Thought about the same thing. Maybe she should start distancing herself from him and be prepared for the worst or rather ask why he is doing stuff like this.

[Opinion Owner]

That is sound advice👍

[GreatBigCircles]

I disagree. It's certainly possible, but it also might be that he's got stuff in his life stressing him out, or simply experience a period of stress in general and needs more space to deal with it. Everyone needs different levels of space, and the amount will change over time in both directions.

[Opinion Owner]

@greatbigcircles I thought about that as well, but the fact he’s saying she’s suffocating him rather than just saying something like ‘I’m feeling kinda stressed, I need some space to deal with it’ makes it sound like he’s tired of the affection in general. Like I definitely agree that everyone deals with stress in their own way, but when you’re in a relationship you can’t just go awol or check out. Definitely don’t leave the woman to try and decipher your feelings.

[GreatBigCircles]

If the abundance of affection is the source of the stress or contributing to it, then suffocating seems accurate. People, both women and men, aren't always comfortable with non-stop attention, and rather than jumping to conclusions I'm just saying that she should keep an open mind and ask him. I'm kind of clingy myself but in all my relationships I made sure to work with my partner to figure out how much affection and attention they were comfortable with, and how and when they wanted time alone (and I let them know when I wanted time a lone as well).

[Opinion Owner]

This is assuming he’s even stressed out, but if he is, we don’t know if her affection contributes to that at all and instead is coming to a place where he’s pushing her away mentally and physically. She shouldn’t have to lessen herself more than she already has. For instance, she was probably way more affectionate and now it’s reduced to where even holding his hand or trying to touch any part of him is “clingy”. After two years to only recently be doing that is strange, and I’m sure it’s pretty hurtful.

[sheikalana]

I don't think you're too clingy that's what I do to my partner all the time. Maybe he doesn't appreciate that type of affection.

[MementoMori777]

yes by not touching him so much and being more verbal instead of physical, some people like clinginess and others dont, your boyfriend seems like the types that dont and i recommend being more verbal instead to show your effection.

[Iron_Man]

Just chill a little bit you don’t need to touch all the time

[Shamalien]

I love when girls r like this…if I’m into them

[TheBallGuy1234]

I mean I think I would love a girl like along my side but maybe you should make less advances in that way and see how he responds

[dudeinohio]

I don't see any problem with that.