Would you consider it cheating if your girlfriend kissed another girl?

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JackSmy · Accepted Answer

I dated a Bi-sexual lady, in college. I met, and liked her girlfriend, and she liked me. Our mutual love just liked different things, and sometimes she wanted me, and other time her. It wasn't any issue, at all, and no, NEVER any 3-ways!!!
You have to choose for yourself, what your 'lines' are.
I chose, for me, then, and liked her girlfriend! I knew she was getting something sensual, something only women can can share, and I was fine with that.
Sometimes, she just wanted dick sex, and I loved being a part of that, giving that joy to her!
Maybe too many people go along with "OLD RULES" and they just don't understand, or are willing to challenge those sigmas, and social norms?
I would not have any problems with a girlfriend that I am with, if she kisses, or even sometimes 'plays' with another woman, as long as I meet her, and know her, and it isn't like some sneaky 'lie' thing!

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Yes.
I mean I would judge it on its merit.
If it was just a playful, almost as a joke little peck... like a slight exaggeration on the way some Europeans do that cheek kiss greeting and then that was the end of it.
It that context I'm sure I'd not think anything.

But... if you mean a REAL kiss, open mouth, wet, passionate, actually making out with another person. It is an automatic deal breaker. Break up on the spot, she is immediately my "past" and I start asking out and meeting new ladies.

It would also gross me out. I am a straight man. The thought of passionately kissing another man is actually gross to me. I do not think I could even do it on a dare.
If she is ok with kissing women... as in she is bi she isn't anyone I'd be in a romantic relationship anyway.

Freija1989 · Accepted Answer

If it ' s a romantic sort of kiss and the girl you ' re talking about is into girls ( either bi or gay ) and she did it without informing her partner and receiving consent, then it would be cheating ( although some men tend to be more tolerant, but it ' s still cheating ).

angeliquedevereux2 · Accepted Answer

Depends where, her sexuality and how far they were into the relationship. If she kissed her cheek, was straight and they just started dating it's fine but kiss with tongue, bi and together for three years it is definitely cheating

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Is it something that she would do while you were watching or would she do it "behind your back?" If it is something that she must hide from you, she knows that it is wrong, whether you cal it "cheating" or something else.

AliceTheNguyener · Answer

Kissing as in make out or on the cheeks? It can still be considered cheating if it is making out. Some people can say no because she just kissed a girl only for fun, but that is still cheating because kissing someone in an intimate way like that is not acceptable to most people.

Xseed · Answer

Depends. If she's doing it in front of you with another girl for yours and hers enjoyment then might be hot. But if she's doing it behind your back then no. Also it's completely up to the guy if he accepts her kissing another girl or not. Every relationship has their own rules and such

jadspop · Answer

Well.. I'm a bit of a different kind of person... So by defult? Yes... Having an affectionate or sexual moment with anyone else would be concidered cheating... But it's about what the relationship boundaries are... I've had a girl make out with another girl and I was fine with it, but that's cuz she asked me if I was okay with it first

NamerOfStars · Answer

Assuming it was a romantic/sexual thing, then yes, of course. A social/greeting thing, probably not (some cultures do that, and my casual observation suggests it's more common among women. Sexual stuff is sexual stuff, even when there's no penis involved.

Erobos412 · Answer

Naturally anything outside the family unit is hands down cheating unless it is a cultural greetings like in France kind of ways.

They do the chin rather than lips unless I am mistaken. To avoid crap and drama make sure to have a clear transparent communication of what needed to be sacrificed for the sake of relationship and building something up.

Soremain · Answer

Depends. If she knew fully well she's bi sexual, then yes, but I'd still react to it lighter than if she cheated with another guy. Since I can't be compared to a girl, it wouldn't hit my ego.

If she didn't know she was lesbian/bi and one day she'd feel attraction to another girl and decides to kiss her to find out how it feels, I wouldn't consider it cheating.

TheCuriousDude · Answer

Doesn’t matter if I consider it cheating or not, it is cheating, cheating is cheating why can’t you girls get that in your head, if you in a relationship then you can’t kiss whoever you want regardless the sex. Unless you have your boys approval you are not being loyal.

TruthBringer · Answer

I'm not some cuck who would share his girl with another. So yes, it's cheating in my eyes. The only time I would tolerate it is if I'm having a threesome with her and another girl and I'm not emotionally invested.

Old_Golden · Answer

Depends on if we've had that conversation yet about boundaries and asking permission. Whooped 'em again, Josey!

apollo3000 · Answer

It's funny... For some reason if my girl kissed another girl, I assume that's just her being silly. I cannot grasp a thought that she might move out with a woman - to my mind, a girl would never leave a man to live with another
If she was to kiss a guy, I'd feel entirely differently

talulahbee · Answer

Depends on the relationship and the intent behind the kiss. U should probably talk about it as a couple first if one is thinking about kissing someone else. But really depends on the couple and what kind of kiss it is.

SirRexington · Answer

In this day and age, especially when everyone is bisexual or curious or whatever, yeah it would be cheating. But also it's not sexy, I know a lot of men get off on it but I don't. I don't see the appeal.

Hannahm67 · Answer

That really depends on the context I would think. If a girl just goes and kisses another girl without the idea that her man is into it then it would be.

xZoeyx · Answer

depends on the type of kiss, and depends on the relationship. those rules should be established with the boyfriend first to see what he’s comfortable with.

that_one_chick113 · Answer

Yes. Kissing someone else besides yours significant other is cheating regardless of the gender

fall_angel-86 · Answer

Cheating is cheating no matter what gender its done with

mattmanyah2 · Answer

Yes it's another person and I want monogamy... If you don't then it might not be but for me it would be

AnjLikesDogs · Answer

If she is straight and kissed a girl on the cheek or something not really but if she's bi/pan and its wasn't just a friendly kiss on the cheek yes.

Rexos · Answer

If we talked about it before I would approve, but if she does anything romantic or sexual with anyone besides me behind my back that's a trust issue, even if it's just a kiss with another girl.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes, of course. If she’s important enough for me to be in a serious relationship with her then I don’t want to share.

GR00VY · Answer

Duh!!! Cheating is cheating if it's not your partner.

kibbenkat · Answer

Yes, but it wouldn't upset me as much as if she were to kiss a guy. Many of my exes have left me for men, after all.

KingJared24 · Answer

Yes and I would break up with her and she could kiss any girl she sees all she wants

ttnnkkrr · Answer

not even a little. but you are looking for judgement not answers. what is and is not ok in a relationship is based on open honest communication. my parents were swingers and step dad would mostly just watch. some demand absolute fidelity.

Agape93 · Answer

No, she knows the rules. Long as I’m good with the girl in question, she can fuck her for all I care.

On_the_other_hand · Answer

Without it being agreed to? Yes. Cheating is cheating.

p0p0p0p0 · Answer

Kissing is about sharing feelings, and this type of feelings has to be just for you two

Kiss_Me · Answer

No, but she cheated on you. Dump her. Instantly and permanently.

Kreneman · Answer

Yes, especially if they're making out. Kissing on a cheek's especially when greeting is not cheating.

BCA6010 · Answer

Yes. After all, it isn't really any different than if she kissed a man.

Rocco7070 · Answer

Of course not. In fact why not just dont stop and tou girls get naked!

VanillaSalt · Answer

Not if I was allowed to join in lol Otherwise yes... your devoted to me or your not devoted

SirBearon · Answer

Yes I would consider it cheating but it would excite me a little. I'd tell her to bring the girl in for the both of us. If she didn't I leave her. If she did, I'd marry her. Lol

hassan9873 · Answer

I'll invite them both to my house. And watch them kiss.. and then join.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

Unless her partner told her it was okay or it was without her consent, then yes lol.

Anonymous · Answer

For me that would mean my boyfriend is kissing a man which wouldn’t piss me off as much compared to him kissing another girl. But I would still question his sexuality and get ready for a breakup if they are not straight

destrosio · Answer

For a man every phisical behaviour with another partner, regardless gender, is cheating. And cheating can be only phisical.

Sparda20xx · Answer

Yes. What kind of question is that. Unless we're in an open relationship, if she kisses anyone else it's cheating

Angelo75 · Answer

Well on one side i would... on the other hand I'd try to get in there and kiss em both. Hahahah

pigoat · Answer

Where is the poll? I don't have time to scroll through every answer

DeeToPlay · Answer

Definitely and what reason would I not consider it just as if it was a guy,?

Ifriqyan · Answer

How could anyone not consider that cheating?

R3DthatDude · Answer

Yes, I think a woman is more of a threat then a dude.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Of course.  I'm i free to run off and sleep with men cause that wouldn't be cheating?

Lord_Ateag · Answer

I don't consider it cheating as long as her love remains mine.

kemo56 · Answer

Well I would want to share I want my turn I guess it would depend on whether or not I felt I was losing her

Browneye57 · Answer

Naw. Girls think it's cute.  Well, unless she's muff-diving, then all bets are off. LOL

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Yes, I would consider it cheating; and at that, cheating of the worst and most vulgar kind!

OutdoorsForLife · Answer

Probably not. I would trust my girlfriend and imagine the kiss had no intent behind it.

Anonymous · Answer

I would break up with her if she was bisexual. The kiss itself isn't a huge deal but being a lesbo isn't what I want in a partner and mother of my children. Let someone else support her and her brood

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Sorta, not fully the same since she can't get pregnant from it, but still not good.

bluejeanbb · Answer

It depends really on 1. Her sexuality, because if she’s bisexual or even a lesbian, then yes. And 2. Depends on your consent in the matter? Like if it was for fun between you guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, can be quite hot to watch! But I would still hate that Katy Perry song, no matter what!

Meatunnel69 · Answer

No itd be hot id totally be a cuck they can scissors for all i care

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Not automatically. If she kisses another girl in friendship, there is nothing wrong with it.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

That would depend on if she will be bringing her along to share with me as well?

scott04sa22 · Answer

The hot ones always comes out of the closet but it's who they are.

jmstarling · Answer

It depends on if we had discussed it beforehand. It would be fine if we had, cheating if we hadn't.

Samhanks · Answer

Depends on how and with what intention she kissed the girl, both being of the same gender !

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