This week, I came across the message. I replied forgetting who she was and thinking it was some long lost relative reaching out. Well... it was her. Ever since I called her out and told her off she has been coming very strong and hard. Like.. very thirsty. Messaging me a lot. Apologizing for what she did.
She has openly admitted to liking me a lot. Now she's admitted that she has:
-Looked at my facebook pictures
-Read my facebook timeline the last few days
-She said she knows that I like to "sex text" because she saw a post I made a few days ago joking about it.
Now she wants to set up all these dates. She wants to know my schedule of when I am available. I joked that I was a "Shy guy turned ladies man". She now has been rather bristled by this and says she doesn't like a man with ego. I just ignored that and said it was just a "fact". Now she's being very aggressive asking about dates. She is asking if I will keep seeing all the ladies. I told her yes until I am officially dating a girl.
Anyway, is this all normal? Is it normal for a girl to want to know everything about a man? To study his social media and try to get a sense of what he's doing in life?
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Women do things that are ingrained into their habits through thousands of years of evolution. They want confident, capable, strong MEN, Not wussy, submissive, girly-men. To ensure you are a worthy mate women will test men. Many of the test are on an almost unconscious level. They don't realize they are testing men, but they do know if they pass or fail. A pass means she is more attracted. A fail means she is less attracted.
The girl described in the post presented a test by showing disrespect. It was passed by calling her out on it while not being an asshole. Now she is in full throttle pursuit.
The demands she is making for dates is out of line. She would respond the same way if you acted the same way. Don't tolerate ANYTHING from a person (girl or guy) that you are unwilling to tolerate down the road. So, YES. This is a big red flag to run.
I recommend going on a few dates with her. ENSURE she knows and UNDERSTANDS you are not dating exclusively. It might even be a good idea to tell her you have "other plans" when you don't want to see her.
One of three things will most likely happen:
1 She tries to demand you date exclusively. At that point you never go on another date. Is this so bad?
2 She is reluctantly cool with it. Date you ass off, and have some fun with her. (interrupt as you wish) Is this a bad thing?
3 She balks at a first date, and you never go out on a date. Is this so bad?
Let us know how it goes... We are nosy like that.