What are good reasons to not date a shy girl?

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Or a shy guy?

Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

If you both don't click emotionally
If you don't share any interests, makes you both less compatible

That is just based on before you are in a relationship with one, if we spoke about being in a relationship already with one and then realising things then that is a unfortunate situation but here goes

If the relationship is being one sided all the time and they take little to no interest
If the relationship has gone stale because you both can't find a common interest

Of course there are reasons to date Shy people as well, not saying you should just not date them, I was just giving some parts because of your question.

Reasons to date a Shy person in my opinion

They are really cute to observe when they are shy.
They are far less likely to cheat on you because they can't communicate well with others anyways.
They are great listeners, if you find someone who shares your interests and is shy, they are more of a listener and occasional speaker rather than the main spokesperson.
They often need more emotional encouragement to open up, which means they will want to be around you more.
Since they are shy, in a lot of cases they will be more of a submissive type, which is pretty desirable to others, though there are cases of shy people who are shy because they don't want to open up about their more dominant side.

So there we go! I still don't know what kind of person I would exactly like to date but I know that someone who was wavering more into the shy zone than the loud and extrovert zone would be my preference, I am between extrovert and introvert, I like to converse with everybody but am not a chatty, I just like seeing people, I have also not once agreed to attending any of my friends mass parties or in town with many people or going to cinemas, because I can't handle many people at one time.

Dongtai · Accepted Answer

Lack of patience. Time doesn’t stop. If I’ve verbally and physically shown you I like you and you’re still being shy, it’s going to be an issue for me. It’s ok if a woman is shy on the first couple of dates but “always” shy? I’m way too outgoing and adventurous for that. I’d feel tied down.

psychoticanimaIIover · Accepted Answer

Their shyness will lead to insecurity which will lead to jealousy which will lead to anger issues which will lead to domestic abuse which will lead to the police getting involved which will lead to a waste of police time which will lead to an unnecessary depletion of government funds which will lead to austerity which will lead to old ladies falling over on cracks in the pavement which will lead to broken hips which leads to x-rays which leads to radiation poisoning which leads to anarchy which leads to Martial Law which leads to food shortages which leads to people eating bats which leads to coronavirus which leads to social seclusion which leads to shyness.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Lack of communication, lack of confidence. People that are shy are also likely to keep things pent up if they aren't comfortable. Only thing is that its just more work to make someone feel comfortable to decide to grace you with their thoughts. Being shy is fine, just its hard to have in a romantic relationship where both parties have to confront difficult conversations. Its not the non shy persons job to initiate all the hard conversations, the shy person has to be an equal participant and that means standing up for themselves

Ally247 · Answer

I used to like shy guys, now I've realised I'm attracted to the opposite. Shy people tend to be reserved with their feelings, and don't tend to communicate them. I'm a big fan of communication and prefer expressive people considering I'm quite expressive myself.

JosyJosy · Answer

I'm going to look for reasons cause I actually like shy people. If you're not patient they might not be for you, it can take a while for them to open up. Maybe the shy person's struggle to communicate can lead to doubt, mixed signals. Also why are they shy? Just not used to talking or actually Not confident in themselves or other issues. If the person's just not used to it all it takes is time

Amanda156 · Answer

Shy guys are boring, weak, feminine and a complete turn off. I want you to fuck my pussy not be a pussy.

Anonymous · Answer

No one's truly shy once you get a shot or two of whiskey or vodka in them.

Now if its dating a shy non-drinker then maybe consider opting out.

JK. Seriously shy people are just like everyone else, they just don't feel the need to voice their opinions out loud in front of people but when their around their significant other they are probably louder than the loudest person.

curiouschrissy · Answer

Sometimes people get tired of the shyness because it leaves the more outgoing people to make nearly all the decisions and start all the conversations and if they like you at all they probably wanna hear about you as well. But I don't know sometimes it just takes patience before they really start opening up.

pleasestopthis · Answer

It may take a long while for shy people to open up and become comfortable. Also, if you're a "people person" and like to socialize a lot, it can be quite challenging for a shy person, if you want to bring your partner along

Alyssa11 · Answer

I want to date a shy guy because I’m not and I think it will be healthy that way.

maniacalt · Answer

Shyness doesn’t always mean insecurity. As long as it’s not insecurity, it’s not an issue.

Minahh · Answer

There are none. Being shy is not a reason not to date someone. I'm shy around people I don't know well but I open up when I get to know them.

eminde · Answer

Only major problem I can think of is lack of communication
Other things are
- she’ll shy away from trying new things
-Sometimes shy girls are pretty insecure about themselves and have major issues with their self esteem
-But I don’t think I’ll turn down a girl for this
-You can make her come out of her comfort zone

thomasmore · Answer

there are a lot of shades of shyness. If the other one opens up once the ice is broken, all is good.

NarutoUzumaki007 · Answer

Insecurity Jealousy Miscommunication ( since they might feel something but are too shy to confront you ) You always have to take initiative in everything.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Well, for one they are hard to get to know. And they may not tell you the information you need to be a good partner to her. And if you don't know, you cannot act correctly. Basically, "shy" means, in the context of a relationship, a bad communicator. And since communication is the primary tool we use to interact with each other, if it's difficult it's hard to have a relationship.
It's okay to be publicly shy, but partners have to communicate. If they cannot they will not survive.

JSmuve · Answer

They likely aren't very talkative and will appear disinterested because of it. So you'll have to constantly push through it, drive the conversation, and pursue them

simplesarah · Answer

Hey, I'm shy! You got something wrong with it come and see me!

Avicenna · Answer

Really only if guys find her boring and/or a bad communicator, or if they have a fear of being intimate.

Billyscotter · Answer

The "best" reason to not date a very shy person is because they sometimes get so nervous that they push people away whom they really like, and they don't give you the opportunity to connect with them.

Cataphract · Answer

I like shy girls. It's adorable when they get awkward. It just makes me want to hug them.
Why wouldn't you date a shy girl? They unintentionaly trigger our protective instincts and make the bond strong from the very start.

devilsbabe · Answer

there isn't any. you shouldn't not date a shy person just cause they're shy. I'm shy and I'm a ball of fun once I'm comfortable. look at the bright side they're mostly home bodies so you domt have to worry about cheating or them talking to someone lmao

YaBoiJacob · Answer

The only one I can think of is if you are extremely extroverted and outgoing, even then it is unreasonable to turn someone down solely on the fact that they are socially uncomfortable.

Lion91 · Answer

She's nothing like that 😐😠 And like that 🤬😡 They would have a Open Mind to see through yours. But not all of them, those that I know.

HikerDude · Answer

Too much work to get them to express themselves without playing all sorts of passive-aggressive games. Not as confident sexually. They can get jealous over extroverted partners who get a lot of attention because they tend to have lower self-esteem.

Nazgol · Answer

They're just often not as fun , comfortable and exciting as others & they need a lot of help not being so shy

nella965 · Answer

It may be hard to get a date with a shy girl. I'm a shy girl but secretly an extrovert on the inside. When guys Im interested in talk to me, i just freeze up and keep conversations as short as possible. I have turned off many guys that way

InferiorElegy · Answer

2 shy people would never work out so that's when you shouldn't ever date a shy person is when you are shy yourself. Who's going to find the courage to ask the other person out?

bxjekzlpw · Answer

Perhaps they will be less adventurous or exciting.
Perhaps they will be less able to challenge and contend with you in the relationship resulting in slower or less personal development on your behalf.
Perhaps they will be less willing to integrate themselves into your social circles causing you to withdraw, and or they themselves may be less well connected and therefore have less to offer socially.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the disadvantage of dating a shy girl is you never know what safe and what's not, is she too shy to be kissed, to talk about stuff, to open up, the right time to be intimate

YHL6965 · Answer

If she is way too shy like she barely talks or opens up, I can't see how we will be able to form a deep bond.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

She makes you feel uncomfortable and unwelcoming like you are bugging her while a friendly person is more open and engaging making you feel welcomed.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Well, I’m not shy, but I am introverted, and people seem to confuse the two. I’m sure a lot of people would like to date me because I don’t blurt out the first thing that comes to my head.

MysticDevice · Answer

It takes a very long time to get them to open up, so if you're not a patient person its not a great Idea. But once they do open up its like a floodgate of pure dorkiness and its awesome. Besides, shy people are freakier in bed don't ya know.

msc545 · Answer

I don't like it because I wind up having to carry the entire conversation.

casserolie · Answer

anyone who doesn't want to make a commitment to someone and doesn't want to wait for a shy person to open up, should simply not expect their relationships to last that long.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Only downside is if you want to live a life in a constant spotlight, at parties, at family meetups, etc etc.

Then she is not a right girl for you.

I actually prefer shy girls, they seem nicer and more thoughful.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't see any. The problem with shy girl is to get the initial contact. If your actually dating your past the issues with having a shy girl.

kkirk4442 · Answer

If I were single, I would date a girl by her personality, not by her being shy or not.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

They are usually good people. They don't stab you in the back, they are honest and can be trusted. Generally speaking.

pjf1958 · Answer

I think shy women are actually more approachable because their exhibiting a behavior that could be interpreted as vulnerable.

winterfox10 · Answer

In my experience, communication was always a chore. Even when I asked her things, she wouldn't give me straight answers, and so I had to get really good at reading between the lines.

RingOfFire · Answer

Can't think of a single reason not to date a shy girl. I love shy girls. But it's a dilemma because they are shy and that makes them harder to meet. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Clarke498 · Answer

Lack of communication skills, self esteem, maturity etc.

SmolSlav · Answer

There isn't a reason to not date someone just because they are shy. If everything else you find in him/her is attractive, then take a chance, they'll open up in time.

Barnstormar · Answer

In brief, shy girls are beautiful adorable, attractive and a perfect marriage materials While shy guys are meek, retiring, insecure, sickeners and potential headaches

Rebecka33 · Answer

Don't you know the shy ones are best in bed.

Anonymous · Answer

There’s always a good and bad in everything whether shy or not. The bad:if you like sex you might have a problem in this department. The good:a shy woman won’t be concern about my penis size🙂

Surely · Answer

Can’t think of any good reasons not to date a shy girl.. They might surprise you when they decide to let loose!

themythos · Answer

She might be too indirect with what she wants won't speak for herself and might not be willing to try new things

zagor · Answer

Probably meeting them in the first place is the biggest obstacle.

guesswhoseback · Answer

I personally get way turned on by that.

Twalli · Answer

You have trouble knowing the depth of their feelings towards you

KrazyKem · Answer

There are none, my girlfriend is shy and it's the best thing no family drama

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

I don’t know? I don’t really discriminate like that.

Anonymous · Answer

She is not open which makes it difficult to understand if she likes what your doing or not. Secondly she won't tell you as well so we won't understand whether to do it or not.

ClititBang · Answer

Date who ever you want too

mom_of_two · Answer

the girl in the photo I love her hair

ScotishLegend · Answer

If you shy guy then it would just be awkward.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I kind of like shy women.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Not enough to not date them

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Insecure

clampfan101 · Answer

Love can bring shy people out of their shell.

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