If you both don't click emotionally
If you don't share any interests, makes you both less compatible
That is just based on before you are in a relationship with one, if we spoke about being in a relationship already with one and then realising things then that is a unfortunate situation but here goes
If the relationship is being one sided all the time and they take little to no interest
If the relationship has gone stale because you both can't find a common interest
Of course there are reasons to date Shy people as well, not saying you should just not date them, I was just giving some parts because of your question.
Reasons to date a Shy person in my opinion
They are really cute to observe when they are shy.
They are far less likely to cheat on you because they can't communicate well with others anyways.
They are great listeners, if you find someone who shares your interests and is shy, they are more of a listener and occasional speaker rather than the main spokesperson.
They often need more emotional encouragement to open up, which means they will want to be around you more.
Since they are shy, in a lot of cases they will be more of a submissive type, which is pretty desirable to others, though there are cases of shy people who are shy because they don't want to open up about their more dominant side.
So there we go! I still don't know what kind of person I would exactly like to date but I know that someone who was wavering more into the shy zone than the loud and extrovert zone would be my preference, I am between extrovert and introvert, I like to converse with everybody but am not a chatty, I just like seeing people, I have also not once agreed to attending any of my friends mass parties or in town with many people or going to cinemas, because I can't handle many people at one time.
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Lack of patience. Time doesn’t stop. If I’ve verbally and physically shown you I like you and you’re still being shy, it’s going to be an issue for me. It’s ok if a woman is shy on the first couple of dates but “always” shy? I’m way too outgoing and adventurous for that. I’d feel tied down.
Their shyness will lead to insecurity which will lead to jealousy which will lead to anger issues which will lead to domestic abuse which will lead to the police getting involved which will lead to a waste of police time which will lead to an unnecessary depletion of government funds which will lead to austerity which will lead to old ladies falling over on cracks in the pavement which will lead to broken hips which leads to x-rays which leads to radiation poisoning which leads to anarchy which leads to Martial Law which leads to food shortages which leads to people eating bats which leads to coronavirus which leads to social seclusion which leads to shyness.
Lack of communication, lack of confidence. People that are shy are also likely to keep things pent up if they aren't comfortable. Only thing is that its just more work to make someone feel comfortable to decide to grace you with their thoughts. Being shy is fine, just its hard to have in a romantic relationship where both parties have to confront difficult conversations. Its not the non shy persons job to initiate all the hard conversations, the shy person has to be an equal participant and that means standing up for themselves
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I used to like shy guys, now I've realised I'm attracted to the opposite. Shy people tend to be reserved with their feelings, and don't tend to communicate them. I'm a big fan of communication and prefer expressive people considering I'm quite expressive myself.
I'm going to look for reasons cause I actually like shy people. If you're not patient they might not be for you, it can take a while for them to open up. Maybe the shy person's struggle to communicate can lead to doubt, mixed signals. Also why are they shy? Just not used to talking or actually Not confident in themselves or other issues. If the person's just not used to it all it takes is time
Shy guys are boring, weak, feminine and a complete turn off. I want you to fuck my pussy not be a pussy.
No one's truly shy once you get a shot or two of whiskey or vodka in them.
Now if its dating a shy non-drinker then maybe consider opting out.
JK. Seriously shy people are just like everyone else, they just don't feel the need to voice their opinions out loud in front of people but when their around their significant other they are probably louder than the loudest person.Sometimes people get tired of the shyness because it leaves the more outgoing people to make nearly all the decisions and start all the conversations and if they like you at all they probably wanna hear about you as well. But I don't know sometimes it just takes patience before they really start opening up.
It may take a long while for shy people to open up and become comfortable. Also, if you're a "people person" and like to socialize a lot, it can be quite challenging for a shy person, if you want to bring your partner along
I want to date a shy guy because I’m not and I think it will be healthy that way.
Shyness doesn’t always mean insecurity. As long as it’s not insecurity, it’s not an issue.
There are none. Being shy is not a reason not to date someone. I'm shy around people I don't know well but I open up when I get to know them.
Only major problem I can think of is lack of communication
Other things are
- she’ll shy away from trying new things
-Sometimes shy girls are pretty insecure about themselves and have major issues with their self esteem
-But I don’t think I’ll turn down a girl for this
-You can make her come out of her comfort zonethere are a lot of shades of shyness.
If the other one opens up once the ice is broken, all is good.Insecurity
Jealousy
Miscommunication ( since they might feel something but are too shy to confront you )
You always have to take initiative in everything.Well, for one they are hard to get to know. And they may not tell you the information you need to be a good partner to her. And if you don't know, you cannot act correctly. Basically, "shy" means, in the context of a relationship, a bad communicator. And since communication is the primary tool we use to interact with each other, if it's difficult it's hard to have a relationship.
It's okay to be publicly shy, but partners have to communicate. If they cannot they will not survive.They likely aren't very talkative and will appear disinterested because of it. So you'll have to constantly push through it, drive the conversation, and pursue them
Hey, I'm shy! You got something wrong with it come and see me!
Really only if guys find her boring and/or a bad communicator, or if they have a fear of being intimate.
The "best" reason to not date a very shy person is because they sometimes get so nervous that they push people away whom they really like, and they don't give you the opportunity to connect with them.
I like shy girls. It's adorable when they get awkward. It just makes me want to hug them.
Why wouldn't you date a shy girl? They unintentionaly trigger our protective instincts and make the bond strong from the very start.there isn't any. you shouldn't not date a shy person just cause they're shy. I'm shy and I'm a ball of fun once I'm comfortable. look at the bright side they're mostly home bodies so you domt have to worry about cheating or them talking to someone lmao
She's nothing like that 😐😠
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They would have a Open Mind to see through yours. But not all of them, those that I know.
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