What are green flags during texting stage and what are red flags?

[Anonymous]

I asked a guy out, but honestly we’ve talked a bit and I can’t tell how he feels about me at all. He said yes. But he doesn’t flirt, message me first, he seems uninterested when we talk, he doesn't ask about me at all, he can take over 24 hours to reply. Is this normal in the texting stage? I feel like maybe I asked him out bc of desperation to figure out his feelings but now I’m worried he’s just said yes to be nice. Is it too late to cancel? How do you even take back an offer of asking someone out?

[Just_Me89]

The timing thing isn't a concern for me. People have lives and sometimes they're full. At the moment I'm working several days a week, 12hrs a day, am studying at uni and have other commitments so I can take a while to reply, luckily I have someone who understands that life happens, it's not an insult.

[janaiza_schu]

Girlll I’ve been there, I’m in my talking stage right now. That’s a bold move asking him out, but those are red flags right there. Taking forever to rely back, not asking you about your day and so on. A man should pursue you not you pursue him. Clearly I don’t think he knows what he wants, and you’re probably not the only girl he is talking too. The important thing is to know your value! ❤️

[Asker]

Ahh thank you ❤️ I’m so new to dating that I’ve become an anxious mess with it. How do you take back a date when a day is already confirmed? I really don’t want to go on it and feel like it was a pity date

[janaiza_schu]

Be honest with him, it’s hard trust me, but if you really don’t want to go just straight up tell him. By the looks of it, it seems like he doesn’t care about you, and you don’t deserve that! You deserve a guy that treats you like a queen.

[Iron_Man]

He’s a boring bore why even bother wasting another second on a boring guy?

[Asker]

True

[Iron_Man]

Find yourself a good guy that is motivated

[whatdoyouwantt]

I would say his interest isn’t too high... I’d give him space, don’t try to hard. Maybe that will encourage him to make his step.

[Anonymous]

Red flags 🚩 when only one person initiates the chats.