Would you ever date someone that used to be a player in the past?

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Anon621 · Accepted Answer

Honestly it depends for me. The key words here was the person used to be a player so clearly they are not a player anymore. But thay doesn't mean that they no longer have the mentality of a player. Their mind may still be warped or still have regret or maybe narratives of past experiences that no longer represent them. I have sadly struggled with false narratives for a long time and I would want to make sure the other person no longer struggles with false narratives or the person doesn't have any regrets about their past actions so that way I know they are not clinging onto the past mistakes they made too much.

MrWolf · Accepted Answer

It's your own choice in the end do what you think is right.

That person may have either pure intentions or just play another game.

I used to juggle around girls but that whole playing thing it's a made up story. Like women go trough man too. We all are players in our own game.

So as an ex player I'm married i have a great wife and i don't think about anything else because doesn't matter once you had enough you had enough.

So listen to your hearth & have a little bit of caution. I hope you resolve your issue with this.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Yeah no... Cuz most times they say they "used" to be, it's more times than not not true. A player isn't going to tell you they're playing you. a lot of times they use that to gain your trust, make you think they being so honest and upfront. And it's hard to have respect for someone that ever thought it was okay to play with someone's feelings or heart to what, make them look or feel like they the shit or some stud..
The # of ladies you can get isn't what's impressive, it's how long you can "keep" a lady that's really impressive...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If they changed then yes, most of the time they don't but sometimes they do. Take Joey from Friends for example,( no hate towards him he's my favorite) in the beginning of the series he would pretty much just sleep with multiple women and never call them back. But towards the end, Joey started to change, I think probably because all of his other friends were in relationships, and became a guy who wanted to commit to one person. He developed a lot as a character and I feel like something like that could happen in real life too.

lol20075 · Answer

My boyfriend told me how he used to be a player back in his 20's, and had a bunch of relationships with girls. He did stop his player life after he met his ex girlfriend (who ended up cheating on him right when they were about to get married). I literally have no history with anyone prior to my boyfriend, but I know his and honestly I don't care about the fact he isn't a virgin. We've been dating for a year and a half and all that matters is that we love each other very much and want a future together.

Rab1901 · Answer

She'd have to be absolutely phenomenal and connect with me in every way imaginable. Stats show that players will continue to be players for the most part. There are plenty of great people who aren't ex-players, so there really isn't a reason to take a chance with your heart and and your health with an ex-player unless everything else is about perfect. By health, I mean mental and physical. STDs are def a possibility.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Problem with a player is they have a little book or whatever in a phone or online of previous contacts and down the road could get bored of you and hook up with one of them.

Some people, men or women will say it isn't cheating cause they didn't do it with anyone new. So nope, wouldn't date a player.

t-8900 · Answer

It's ill advised for a large number of reasons but mostly because such people can't stay faithful, give into instant gratification, have problems bonding to one person, bore easily, have had numerous options in the past and will become resentful, just to name some of the major issues you would face dating such a person.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

I've dated a "player" until I found out his "player" game was whack. I checked him and showed him how "the real player" played its game. 😉 That's when I said "hey, don't hapte the player, hate the game." Which he usually said that to me many times until the tables have turned. 🤣🤣🤣

shade_19 · Answer

If they have changed then maybe yes
people change, not all but still judging someone based one their past... Doesn't it seem like I'm being a jerk in that situation
By not giving another chance... Coz when people try to change, even for good... judgmental people discourage them largely

Anonymous · Answer

They probably still are to some degree. In my opinion it goes with their personality. It's not really something you "get over" or that goes away. That's just my opinion. Not saying that they can't change, but likely hasn't unless he's married with children.

bigmarty36 · Answer

Personally no, my idea of a girlfriend or possibly wife is someone like myself few relationships no one night stands or boots calls but of respect for herself. I don't look for a nun but I don't want the town bike either everyone had a ride on her. Just my opinion

spartan55 · Answer

To say I'm the same type of guy now as I was at 21 is laughable. So no.  Besides, girls think every guy is a player these days. It's lost its stigma due to overuse and being misapplied.

Iron_Man · Answer

No way never that would be a completely waste of time for me

Ifriqyan · Answer

No. I don't want to be cheated on. And I associate someone being a player in the past as being more likely a cheater in the future. It's not necessarily the case, But I still don't want to risk it.
Actually I want to marry a man who is virgin.

exitseven · Answer

These people never change. They never make me happy. People that are like that lie and deceive people and may be incapable of love.

TheBootyChest · Answer

It depends. Mostly on if I feel like they have changed in a dramatic way from when they were a player.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, it’s in the past. But it would be embarrassing if we were at a restaurant and some guy just randomly says hello

TheFlak38 · Answer

Women who say no are too stupid to realise they are liars. The moment they feel instant attraction to a guy they are being played without even knowing it. Thats how stupid women are.

Browneye57 · Answer

No. People don't really change. Figure when they get bored with you, which they surely will, they'll play again. I guarantee it.

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

I’d date a player if he use to be a player in his teenage or early 20’s but is now more stable and doesn’t sleep around

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Oh, yes. None of that "give her a chance perhaps she's changed" crap, but to teach her a lesson. Playing a player is just like standing up to a bully.

es20490446e · Answer

Only in the past and not now? That rarely happens.

GoldenTulip · Answer

No! Once a Player. ALWAYS a player. It is i their nature.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No; sorry. I only want to marry a woman who has morals.

Arabella_Rose · Answer

i wouldn't respect anyone who was a player. "Player" is also a nicer way of saying he's a whore.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol girls don't like players... LMAO that was a lie. That's why they are players... because girls like them lol. Hoes just don't wanna admit they are hoes. and you all are hoes

shalt · Answer

Jesus, everyone hates a playa. Look, players deserve love too, just for some its harder to find.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol no need you probably already fucked him. Na just jk. Don't triggered im just jking.

kokonono · Answer

not if you really want a serious relationship, some people never really changes

MrCreep · Answer

All depends what game and how good I don't mind losing in done things

Account · Answer

They bore me.

Protein_mate · Answer

Yeah of course. You?

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Compared to me.. everyone is a player.

Agem123 · Answer

Been there, done that 😂

msc545 · Answer

Maybe but I would be careful.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Everyone haa a past so yes

Anonymous · Answer

at what age did they grow out of it?

Lady_Ann · Answer

Hella no!

Justme143 · Answer

Well it does depend to me, i mean people do change

Anonymous · Answer

I'd rather become an asexual person.

Eldoradο · Answer

Nope

LeFtUoNreD · Answer

Uhh yeah duh

Sia_nee · Answer

I wouldn't

GothQueen12 · Answer

Sure

K-I-S-S · Answer

Not for me.

GAGSucksBalls1 · Answer

prob. not

JohnO45 · Answer

Date, yes. Marry, No

anylolone · Answer

Yes, I dated sluts.

Anonymous · Answer

No , absolutely no

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