Why would I want to date the current crop of women, when by all accounts I’m liable to be rejected/shot down, there’s a possibility of being falsely accused, when I’m not seen as a person but as a utility, when all they are looking for is attention, they are not feminine any more, deep down they hate men, that sounds worse to me than it was 20 years ago!
My guess is they probably like the attention, but maybe they act like they don't want to be bothered. I don't know. I'm certainly not asking anyone out.
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Yes, I think it is a nice way to show an interest, and it is cool whomever asks as long as he can handle if I am not into him the same way.
Haha yes I love it! Especially as we have been in lockdown over here for the past few months so it would be nice to go out on a date with my partner soon :)
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Of course. I wish it was a part of my country's culture. 😅 Dating is a new trend here & people feel awkward to ask someone out.
Yeah it is, even in Mumbai. I grew up watching Hollywood movies & American TV shows. So it's not THAT easy. Here people start from friendship, give mixed signals & everyone is confused wheather someone is interested or just being a good friend. There's no holding hands/hugging/kissing to know that they want us to be more than a friend. It either ends up with getting in a relationship or breaking the friendship.
I don't think many people use Tinder here. Some of my friends tried it, but they say they feel comfortable with talking to people they know & meet everyday. 😅 With strangers, it's like starting from zero.
I had a doubt about my guy friend. 😅 He was acting weird than other guy friends. After college our group broke up, but he stayed with me. Since then we're best friends. Before pandemic, we used to go for lunch 2-3 times a week. He tells me almost everything happens during the day. He said that he can't answer my call when he's home with his parents & when they ask who's he talking to for 1-2 hours, he says that I'm a "classmate". 🤷🏻♀️
Yeah he's kind of shy & also expert of sending double meaning texts. It confuses me a lot. I don't wanna scare him off. 😅 Well, I believe that everyone is perfect when they meet the right person. 😊
Thank you for asking! I do need some help. It's a pretty long story. I've been posting questions about it, but many people don't read the entire story & their opinions are based on western culture. I'd like to hear an Indian guy's opinion. 😅
# I Smile/laugh at everything he says, hold eye contact, touch his arm/shoulder. Once his family was out & he invited our group, I cooked butter chicken for him. I made a cake on his birthday. I think cooking was a clear sign. # I was the only girl in our group. So when the group broke up, we were still nervous & couldn't talk openly unless 3rd person is involved in the conversation. I told him that he don't have to force it just because I don't have any friends, but he stayed. # Before pandemic, only two of us to go to McDonald's 2-3 times a week & he used to drive for 30-40 minutes to come to my city. # I ask him about his day, his family & he tells me everything, even I tell him everything. # Whenever I ask him for help, he's always there. If he's struggling with something, he doesn't let me know or he tells me when it's over. When I get a hint about it, I let him know that I'm always here if he need some help. # Once I asked him if he wants go for a movie & he chose a horror movie! He knows that I don't like horror movies, I have nightmares. During the movie, he was laughing at my scared expressions. # I don't play "hard to get" like other girls do. I naver had any friends since childhood & he knows that he's the only friend I have. So there are no other guys. # I've never done all this stuff for my other guy friends, I didn't even talked to them since the group broke up 2 years ago. I made plans for only two of us.
I must say that these are very clear signs, but sometimes friends do these too. I'm sure he must be having a battle inside his head: "she likes me, she likes me not, she likes me, she likes me not" 😅 .
Well, that was just my part of the story. I got a big list about his part. 😅 I was going to ask about DM, I thought it'd be weird. 😂 I don't want him to find out how I feel on GAG. 😅
I will say yes. I know the whole online thing had messed up dating a bit but speaking for myself I would appreciate a man showing interest and asking me out on a date.
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Lol of coarse!! In fact I feel like we expect this. I remember being in my 20s n guys just asking to hangout or drive around lol. Now I take it as such an offense if a man ask to see me in anyway other than a formal date.
In my experience yes but you have to be smooth about it if you actually want her to be exited about it. I ain't no pro but i have my smooth moments so I'm good
Yes, but by the right guy and under the right circumstances. I doubt they'd be all that happy about being asked out by a guy who they have no interest in or at a time that's inconvenient for them.
Because actually agreeing to grab a drink or whatever implies too much. Once she says yes to do something small, she's also saying yes to sex. She knows if she sees him one-on-one he's going to make the next move. And then she can't really say no after a first date because she will feel like a bitch. They're invested now. He has her number and think it's a budding relationship. Backing out after a first date creates stalker situations. It's all psychological. I could write many articles about this stuff
Like most things for women it depends on the guy who's asking. If the guy is a 10 they like it. If ghe guy is a 5 she's going to hose him down with pepper spray and call the cops.
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Would not know, I gave up dealing with their brand of BS 20 years ago, do not think it will be any better now than then.
20 30 years ago car manuals would tell us how to fix things... now the manuals tell us not to drink the battery acid. So who knows lol
Why would I want to date the current crop of women, when by all accounts I’m liable to be rejected/shot down, there’s a possibility of being falsely accused, when I’m not seen as a person but as a utility, when all they are looking for is attention, they are not feminine any more, deep down they hate men, that sounds worse to me than it was 20 years ago!
My guess is they probably like the attention, but maybe they act like they don't want to be bothered. I don't know. I'm certainly not asking anyone out.
Yes, I think it is a nice way to show an interest, and it is cool whomever asks as long as he can handle if I am not into him the same way.
Haha yes I love it! Especially as we have been in lockdown over here for the past few months so it would be nice to go out on a date with my partner soon :)
Of course. I wish it was a part of my country's culture. 😅 Dating is a new trend here & people feel awkward to ask someone out.
Which country?
India. Dating is very complicated here.
I'm from India too and I must say, it's not in cities.
Yeah it is, even in Mumbai. I grew up watching Hollywood movies & American TV shows. So it's not THAT easy. Here people start from friendship, give mixed signals & everyone is confused wheather someone is interested or just being a good friend. There's no holding hands/hugging/kissing to know that they want us to be more than a friend. It either ends up with getting in a relationship or breaking the friendship.
Wow, I thought that tinder and other apps rocks there 😲
Anyway many guys are afraid of rejection, or being called a brother
I don't think many people use Tinder here. Some of my friends tried it, but they say they feel comfortable with talking to people they know & meet everyday. 😅 With strangers, it's like starting from zero.
Hey, Do you think guys would like to date their female friends? 😅
Definitely definitely definitely. 😃
You should know that almost all male friends of a woman are actually into her.
I had a doubt about my guy friend. 😅 He was acting weird than other guy friends. After college our group broke up, but he stayed with me. Since then we're best friends.
Before pandemic, we used to go for lunch 2-3 times a week. He tells me almost everything happens during the day. He said that he can't answer my call when he's home with his parents & when they ask who's he talking to for 1-2 hours, he says that I'm a "classmate". 🤷🏻♀️
I don't know what you mean by weird, but is he generally shy?
And yeah he might have a thing for you, especially if you are what your username claims 😃
Yeah he's kind of shy & also expert of sending double meaning texts. It confuses me a lot. I don't wanna scare him off. 😅
Well, I believe that everyone is perfect when they meet the right person. 😊
You won't scare him off, but you will definitely make a shy guy nervous.
If you like him, go ahead, give him some signs, I'm no relationship expert, but I'll definitely help, if you want to know anything about guys
Thank you for asking! I do need some help. It's a pretty long story. I've been posting questions about it, but many people don't read the entire story & their opinions are based on western culture. I'd like to hear an Indian guy's opinion. 😅
I'm trying to show interest in the language he can understand; without freaking him out. But I'm confused by his mixed signals. 🤷🏻♀️
What signals are you giving him?
# I Smile/laugh at everything he says, hold eye contact, touch his arm/shoulder. Once his family was out & he invited our group, I cooked butter chicken for him. I made a cake on his birthday. I think cooking was a clear sign.
# I was the only girl in our group. So when the group broke up, we were still nervous & couldn't talk openly unless 3rd person is involved in the conversation. I told him that he don't have to force it just because I don't have any friends, but he stayed.
# Before pandemic, only two of us to go to McDonald's 2-3 times a week & he used to drive for 30-40 minutes to come to my city.
# I ask him about his day, his family & he tells me everything, even I tell him everything.
# Whenever I ask him for help, he's always there. If he's struggling with something, he doesn't let me know or he tells me when it's over. When I get a hint about it, I let him know that I'm always here if he need some help.
# Once I asked him if he wants go for a movie & he chose a horror movie! He knows that I don't like horror movies, I have nightmares. During the movie, he was laughing at my scared expressions.
# I don't play "hard to get" like other girls do. I naver had any friends since childhood & he knows that he's the only friend I have. So there are no other guys.
# I've never done all this stuff for my other guy friends, I didn't even talked to them since the group broke up 2 years ago. I made plans for only two of us.
I'm going anonymous. 😅 I don't know he's on GAG or not, but he knows my username.
I must say that these are very clear signs, but sometimes friends do these too.
I'm sure he must be having a battle inside his head: "she likes me, she likes me not, she likes me, she likes me not" 😅 .
It's a very tough position
Some movies have fucked up these signs
I don't think he needs your username, if that's your pet in your profile picture, he'll understand who you are
You can pm me if you want, I won't be creepy 😅
Well, that was just my part of the story. I got a big list about his part. 😅
I was going to ask about DM, I thought it'd be weird. 😂
I don't want him to find out how I feel on GAG. 😅
Yes, I can understand your nervousness 😅
I will say yes. I know the whole online thing had messed up dating a bit but speaking for myself I would appreciate a man showing interest and asking me out on a date.
Lol of coarse!! In fact I feel like we expect this. I remember being in my 20s n guys just asking to hangout or drive around lol. Now I take it as such an offense if a man ask to see me in anyway other than a formal date.
In my experience yes but you have to be smooth about it if you actually want her to be exited about it. I ain't no pro but i have my smooth moments so I'm good
I have been wondering that myself... In this culture, I've been wondering what is comfortable or acceptable to women in regards to approaching them.
I would imagine they would. I also imagine who is asking can make a lot of difference as well
Of course! Now do I get asked out on dates? No. It takes two here, and itโs not the end of the world if someone says no.
Yes , I know this girl with 2 boyfriends and she complained that no one takes her out on a date.
The majority maybe
The minority of extreme feminists ruined it for them
any guy with a brain won't play chicken with feminism because it's like trying to navigate a minefield whilst doing a jig
Yes, but by the right guy and under the right circumstances. I doubt they'd be all that happy about being asked out by a guy who they have no interest in or at a time that's inconvenient for them.
Of course they like being asked. But they will still usually say no, even if they like the guy
They do? Where are you getting this info? LOL
It seems like most girls on here said yes didn't they?
yes I am talking about the fact that you said they will still usually say no? Why do you think that?
Because actually agreeing to grab a drink or whatever implies too much. Once she says yes to do something small, she's also saying yes to sex. She knows if she sees him one-on-one he's going to make the next move. And then she can't really say no after a first date because she will feel like a bitch. They're invested now. He has her number and think it's a budding relationship. Backing out after a first date creates stalker situations. It's all psychological. I could write many articles about this stuff
LOL okay man.. thanks for the comments.
lol what I'm saying is unless the guy is an idiot, if you can get one date with her, you should be able to hook up with her
Yes but when their is a genuine interest from the man
Like most things for women it depends on the guy who's asking. If the guy is a 10 they like it. If ghe guy is a 5 she's going to hose him down with pepper spray and call the cops.
This is too funny
I'd think so, that kind of thing is very cute.. even in the modern world.
Nah I never approach girl for date.
I don't think they deserve special attention.
Don't slave make them slave.
You don't 'ask someone out on a date'... you invite them to do something fun with you.
And yes, it's what they live for.