Do women still like to be asked out on dates?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I'd like to say yes, but unfortunately, I cannot relate due to guys not asking me out.

However, I would hope so.
Think about it: being asked out typically implies the guy is interested in you right? Or wants to see if there's any connection there. I'd be flattered knowing someone thinks I'm attractive and nice enough to ask out!

The feeling isn't mutual or you don't like him? Fine. Just politely tell him the truth. The fact of the matter is, it's nice being wanted or considered attractive; I think most people secretly want to feel that to a degree: men and women.

The only circumstances where I wouldn't l like it is if: he's asking me out because he feels obligated to, or someone dared him to. He's only after sex and nothing more. He's already in a relationship or seeing someone... the latter should be a given but, I know better than to make assumptions on the internet.

kyila96 · Accepted Answer

DEFINITELY! I think how you allow yourself to be treated says a lot about you and ultimately what you’d allow in a relationship. If I’m in a talking stage with a guy, I’d expect to be asked out on multiple dates prior to getting in a relationship. If he disapproves, then I disapprove of him. Obviously, I’d also ask him on dates, however, I like the guy to ask first. Not to mention, if being with you is a challenge, a guy is more likely to be interested as he has to work to get you. You are the prize. It reminds me of the old fashioned courting period. I can tell whether a guy is worthy by how much effort in puts in, and for how long. Plus, dates generally are great fun!

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

Is water still wet?
Women alike both like to be asked out. The only difference is there are some women that get an attitude about men that routinely ask them out that they feel are beneath them. Theirs no way of sugar coating this. Those women are straight up b****es and give all women a bad name. Whether you're a man or woman. When you ask somebody out you're puting yourself out there and should never be treated harshly for it. Rejection never feels good. But there's still a right and a wrong way to reject someone.

Mehzmeh · Accepted Answer

As much as women hate to admit it. They like being chased. Not harrassed. But chased. They want the man or, the person interested to ask them out. I have met a lot of girls who asked out the guy's the started dating. And a few months later. The relationship ended really badly. Because he never chased her. And she always took the lead. It all comes from our natural animal instincts. In every animal kingdom. The male makes a effort to chase the female. And if they have to chase. They get bored fast. It's science. Lol

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

The times I ask them out they seem happy.
But I have to admit that the times I asked them out of my initiative can be counted on the fingers of an hand and they often have to drag me kicking and screaming to dates!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Let me rephrase the question: Is there even a single woman on this planet who does not want to know that she can get the attention of a man without even trying?

Apope16 · Answer

Yes. For attention and validation. They dont actually want to date you

Screenwriter · Answer

Sure! When did this become a non-thing? At best they'll say yea, at worst they'll say no. You got a 50-50 chance all the time. Don't take "no" personally. But do your research.
If she never laughs at anything you say that you KNOW is funny, she ain't your type. You have to be able to amuse a woman. See if you have anything in common. Read the VIBES... If there ain't any..., don't ask.
Have a conversation before you do ANYTHING. If it falls flat, you know the drill.
And remember, a coffee date is the safest, least expensive, best investment of your dating life.
Go Dutch, everyone pays for themselves, unless you're having such a marvelous time, the next date is in the bag and you're feeling generous.
If it's nothing doing, you gave it the old college try, thought it out and worked it out to the best of your knowledge and knowledge is power. You'll do better next time around.
And sometimes they'll ask YOU!

Brykuenzel · Answer

Unfortunately this day and age women are use to every creep, and weirdo hitting on them. So naturally they translate everything a random guy says into. “ how bout some dick?” Nice weather we are having today. “ how bout some dick?” What breed of dog is that? “ how bout some dick.” Do you know if this tomato is better on hamburgers or this one? “ how bout some dick?” Ok ok ok the last one might work because she’ll know you can cook. I’d even throw in there. “ mmmm that’s right baby I cook. And when I get home I’m gonna be soooo naughty and do the dishes and vacuum. And afterwards I’m gonna text you.” she's still gonna translate that into “ how bout some dick.” But at least she knows you cook and clean. She’ll probably chase you down in the parking lot and propose to you.

SnowyOwl · Answer

TOTALLY. though its not happening, cuz cafes are closed #pandemictimes
*big sad* T___T
I like it when we are in a quality environment, spending quality time. I aim to have as many quality experiences in my life as i can. Celebrate life every day, because its such a gift that we get to be here. Dressing up, feeling your best, next to wonderful company... why would anyone say no to that?
If there's enough compatibility to have an engaged conversation, than its a yes without doubt

just_a_potato · Answer

Only if it's a guy I've been talking to for a while, I don't want someone approaching me out of the blue asking for a date unless we've been flirting for a while before the question. That way i don't have to reject anyone cause you can definitely tell when I'm flirting back. 😋

Unit1 · Answer

Only if he's good looking or rich or both.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes they do, however how you ask and the way you ask has slightly changed.

I've asked girls on dates and had same from them.

I prefer doing it in person, however sometimes it’s via social media, or you can be chatting at 2am and suddenly find yourself asking them out lol

Anonymous · Answer

Why do a 50 years old man care about dating? Go care about your kids or even grandkids (-sarcasm). But seriously it is so weird seeing old men talking about dating when men your age have grandkids in my culture. By the way when you were in your 20s women were different. So every generation is different. Women who could be your kids ain't traditional anymore and do not care whether they get asked out or not but women your age maybe still traditional and like to get asked out. I personally would not mind getting asked out but do not except from men to do the first step and i also can ask men out.

loveslongnails · Answer

Coach, my man !! You must have been tired and bored when you posted that! LOL  Of COURSE they do !!!

TDeans1987 · Answer

As a guy I have found that there are barely any real life situations where asking a woman out is possible. If I am in a place of work I feel like most women are focussed on their work so wouldn't like to be disturbed. The same goes for when i'm out shopping, at a bar etc. I tend to get the vibe that women don't want to be approached.

But then maybe its me that's the problem. I'm certainly no George Clooney.

cth96190 · Answer

Based on the hostile reactions that I have borh seen and experienced, as well as an anti-catcalling law in Britain that made it a hate crime to approach a female, I would say that women were divided on the subject.
The safest course of action for a man is to not approach.
Women, as a collective, have made themselves so toxic that interaction with them is not a rational act.

AzzaBlue · Answer

Of course they do. Even though we live in an Egalitarian society women have become extremely lazy and apathetic when it comes to dating. I see through women's BS. Many women will claim (in the 21st century no less) that they have "Traditional values," to absolve themselves of responsibility or putting any real effort in finding a partner. Women who want men to chase them are lazy and gutless. End of story.

Gosceewual · Answer

No I don't think they do, I think they call it catcalling or sexual harassment or something

Anonymous · Answer

Would not know, I gave up dealing with their brand of BS 20 years ago, do not think it will be any better now than then.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah absolutely, its nice to know that someone finds me nice or attractive. Makes my day.
It never really happened to me but in middle school mostly guys would ask some of my friends out as a dare or as joke. To me thats one reason why I wouldn't want to be asked out because it basically means that the person doesn't respect you or care.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Only if the guy asking them out appeals to them or interests them, otherwise no. You are just a creep.

WowwGirl · Answer

Why wouldn't they? Guess your girls are the hunters 🙂

KrakenAttackin · Answer

They like to be asked by men they find attractive. If a man whom they don't find attractive asks her out, he is branded as "creepy", than she will angrily post and tell her friends "can you believe HE asked me out, OMG he is so creepy"!!

Alyssa11 · Answer

Yes I do so if anyone wants to take me out hi (joking lol)

Jamie05rhs · Answer

My guess is they probably like the attention, but maybe they act like they don't want to be bothered. I don't know. I'm certainly not asking anyone out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I think it is a nice way to show an interest, and it is cool whomever asks as long as he can handle if I am not into him the same way.

chocolatepenguin1 · Answer

Haha yes I love it! Especially as we have been in lockdown over here for the past few months so it would be nice to go out on a date with my partner soon :)

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. I wish it was a part of my country's culture. 😅 Dating is a new trend here & people feel awkward to ask someone out.

she_asks_and_answers · Answer

I will say yes. I know the whole online thing had messed up dating a bit but speaking for myself I would appreciate a man showing interest and asking me out on a date.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol of coarse!! In fact I feel like we expect this. I remember being in my 20s n guys just asking to hangout or drive around lol. Now I take it as such an offense if a man ask to see me in anyway other than a formal date.

I-C3_ME · Answer

In my experience yes but you have to be smooth about it if you actually want her to be exited about it. I ain't no pro but i have my smooth moments so I'm good

Jjpayne · Answer

I have been wondering that myself... In this culture, I've been wondering what is comfortable or acceptable to women in regards to approaching them.

bulletbob555 · Answer

I would imagine they would. I also imagine who is asking can make a lot of difference as well

dankcomposer · Answer

Of course! Now do I get asked out on dates? No. It takes two here, and it’s not the end of the world if someone says no.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Yes , I know this girl with 2 boyfriends and she complained that no one takes her out on a date.

JSmuve · Answer

Yes, but by the right guy and under the right circumstances. I doubt they'd be all that happy about being asked out by a guy who they have no interest in or at a time that's inconvenient for them.

Riebeck · Answer

Of course they like being asked. But they will still usually say no, even if they like the guy

amber8894 · Answer

Yes but when their is a genuine interest from the man

Anonymous · Answer

The majority maybe  The minority of extreme feminists ruined it for them  any guy with a brain won't play chicken with feminism because it's like trying to navigate a minefield whilst doing a jig

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Like most things for women it depends on the guy who's asking. If the guy is a 10 they like it. If ghe guy is a 5 she's going to hose him down with pepper spray and call the cops.

Kayla45 · Answer

I'd think so, that kind of thing is very cute.. even in the modern world.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Nah I never approach girl for date.  I don't think they deserve special attention.  Don't slave make them slave.

Browneye57 · Answer

You don't 'ask someone out on a date'... you invite them to do something fun with you.  And yes, it's what they live for.

faye_girl · Answer

Yesss It's annoying when guys ask to "hang out"

LogicalGal123 · Answer

I think so? 🤷🏻‍♀️ For me I do like to be asked out on dates.

Abtraction · Answer

only if you're good looking or have a fat wallet, plus over 6 ft tall, have a 100k+ income, and willing to be a simp

Paul09 · Answer

Still? Always I bet. When has it changed? Some Men like to be asked out too... I'd actually would do a back flip if that ever happened.

Anonymous · Answer

I would believe it's still widely expected for this role to be on the guys shoulders, as much as I've always resented it due to how one-sided it is.

Tiger288 · Answer

I don't approach women anymore it waste of my time. I prefer foreign women over usa girls

Justneedtokno · Answer

Yes I would to be asked out. 🥰

Hopelessromantic182 · Answer

Absolutely

sheikalana · Answer

I love it.

ashleybear · Answer

yes 100% i know i do.

shade_19 · Answer

Everyone likes to be asked out in dates

Wise4myage · Answer

I would sure hope so!

Slim57 · Answer

By the men they're attracted to yes

Anonymous · Answer

of course they do how else would they date

karaspara · Answer

Yeah absolutely

art84 · Answer

I say a majority do want to be asked out.

hello_kitty_man · Answer

Of course.

pokerbot · Answer

Not by me they don't.

lofii · Answer

Nah they just wanna get straight to the sausage

msc545 · Answer

It seems like they don't.

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