Are You"More Accepting" Of: "Physical Flaws" Or "Personality/Character Flaws"?

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Leavesbound · Accepted Answer

I collect antiques. The most desirable antiques are the ones with a somewhat less than perfect shape or finish. Wood furniture for example should show the natural aged patina. Antique glass should have wavy lines and bubbles in it. Antique pottery should have minor imperfections in the underglaze layer and likewise tiny bubbles.

I used to make jewelry for a living. The most prized diamonds are almost but not quite perfect. Perfect indicates synthetic made. But natural diamonds like other natural gems have tell tale signs of imperfection which make them more desirable.

One breast is a little smaller than the other. One eye has a slightly different shade than the other. Maybe she has a small scar on the bridge of her nose from when she had the measles or chicken pox. Perhaps she has a trivial birth mark or birth defect. Maybe she has a supernumerary nipple or what she perceives as too much hair on her torso.

What is to me undesirable is absolute flawless perfection like something mass produced and sterile.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

Good question, thank you for asking it!
To be honest both, in different ways. Physical flaws can't be easily changed in most cases, so I'd accept them much more easily.
Personality and character flaws, on the other hand, can be smoothed out and even outright changed with some work, so I'd advise them to work on the most destructive ones, if present.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Ack. God don't LIKE ugly. And I don't mean physical ugly, I mean a nasty, unpleasant, difficult person... And as the chart of horror above shows, there are also sad-sacks who are awful to be around because they're in such sorry states.
People can't help what face they were born with. That's genetics. But there are miserable humans slogging along on the face of the earth.
These are best avoided.
We all run into problems. The point is to take the bull by the horns and address them. Flaws can be worked on, smoothed out. It's good to have a healthy, happy personality. If you don't, get some support, see a counselor, find out how to get better at living!

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Physical flaws. A physical flaw is something that cannot be changed or altered, but it's rarely a reflection of a person's character. Some people just (wrongly) judge or ostracize others based on this.

A character or personality flaw can be changed, though the person usually refuses to change it... such as a bad attitude or how you treat others.

coachTanthony · Answer

"Flawsome"  -----An individual who embraces their flaws and knows they are awesome regardless.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am more accepting of physical defects, provided - of course - that I am still physically attracted to a lady.

Finchie40 · Answer

Physical , Cuz me personally doesn’t judge people off of how they look , I judge them on how they present themselves and from their personality, People that judge someone by the way they look are complete stuck up assholes, It’s sad that most people do judge someone on how they look , just because someone isn’t attractive, doesn’t mean they are an asshole , Just because someone is good looking doesn’t mean they can’t be an asshole , I know a lot of good looking people that are assholes and to me they are ugly , That’s why if I meet a beautiful girl on the outside and she is ugly from the inside then all together she is ugly to me period , her looks mean shit

Anna__M · Answer

Physical. Because it’s like if you have a birth defect or had an accident then that’s completely not your fault. And there is not much you can do about it. However a awful personality is something most people can change. Actually most people recognize when they’re awful but don’t change because they don’t feel like they have to. This irritates my entire soul. But if someone with personality flaws is open to change then I become more neutral towards them.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I see past all that for me I know you're not perfect in any way nor am I. You're a gift let me unwrap you see what's inside, no the package may or may not be appealing but who cares just my opinion ✌️

MCheetah · Answer

Speaking as an ugly, short, overweight, dark-skinned guy, I definitely accept bad physical flaws more than personality flaws because the latter are in your control and you choose whether you want to be a jerk or not.

With that said though, so many people get offended over everything nowadays, that there's not too many personality flaws I hate. Mainly, those who are physically abusive or treat others like sh*t. I have no tolerance for that.

As far as physical traits go, the only ones that I can't really deal with are skin conditions, like big ugly gross moles, or vitiligo. Those literally make me cringe because they look so gross to me. I won't treat people who have them badly, but I can't visibly look at those for too long.

Mellifluous_ · Answer

I'm definitely more accepting of physical flaws. Especially seeing that an individual has not much control over they're physical appearance. Sure, hygiene and presentation is in an individuals hands, but the shape and size of their body parts and features is out of their control!
Whereas personality flaws, these are very much in our control.

Anonymous · Answer

It really depends on the specifics, there are some physical flaws that really makes me unattracted to the person, like bad teeth, smell, man boobs. This is only relevant for dating (except maybe smell xD). And then there are character flaws that I have super bad experiences with, like dishonesty, avoiding any type of conflict and jealousy which make me back off.

JackSmy · Answer

"Physical flaws"? Like what? If you really care about that person, love them, you don't even see these "flaws", but see the person, and their uniqueness!
Personality 'flaws' like NO INTEGRITY, NO TRUST, DISHONESTY, CHEATING? Can't see beyond those! You can't have Love, without trust, and the personality defects, are deal-breakers!

The_Maphio · Answer

Physical flaws. They can be worked upon and when they are cannot, they might be complexed about them.

Character flaws is just the way someone is. Changing those is very, VERY difficult, and would push somebody to be fake to hide those. I'll never enjoy somebody forcing being somebody they are not. Even if I'd slap them across the face all day long for that very flaw.

jshm2 · Answer

All flaws matter little, if the balance of the person is good.

You get horrible ugly people, and you get good ugly people. Their flaws account for little if the overall picture is good.

Not saying you need to go find yourself a Quasimodo. But leave room for flaws and possible development.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I am much more accepting of physical “flaws” ANY day!
I would prefer to be surrounded by people who don’t fit a certain beauty standard, but are fun to be around, than universally accepted beautiful people who are all assholes!

Wiredone · Answer

I can except physical flaws more. I can even accept some character flaws to some extent. Nobody is perfect. We all have our own flaws. It's more about what's inside that counts. Some of the nicest people have physical flaws. If someone can't overlook them they might be missing out on meeting a perfect person

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

Physical flaws because a lot of time times those can't be changed. Personality flaws can be managed or even corrected, and I believe every person should be self-aware enough to work on themselves constantly. It's never-ending work. So as long as they're working on their behavioral imperfections, they are still a good person in my book.

Kvinnan · Answer

Physical flaws. Because honestly, a brill personality can really turn things around in terms of perspective. But does hygiene count as personality/physical trait? Cuz that's a major downer 😬 I try to address the issue but gosh, always a sensitive topic 😅

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm more accepting of physical flaws for sure. If someone has a shitty personality, then it never matters how physically attractive they are. I would not be attracted to them.

RedSauce · Answer

Definitely physical flaws. A person can be ugly as sin and I probably won't notice, but if they come up to me acting like the world is out to get them or that they are something special then I can guarantee that I will be judging hard.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I would have to say physical flaws

Example: One of my best friends of 10 years since high school was considered ugly, lots of guys in school would bully and pick on him, but I had some classes with him and lunch so I was around enough to know he was a nice guy. Since then I've learned to take time getting to know others for the inside instead of the outside, can't always judge a book by it its cover.

loves2learn · Answer

Physical defects. Personality/character flaws are way worse.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i am because my family has shown what not to say or do by doing those exact same way

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Personality/Character Flaws most certain are important to me

Jjpayne · Answer

Physical flaws

A girl like this, I could totally marry if she shared my interests and we desired and love each other

Are You"More Accepting" Of: "Physical Flaws" Or "Personality/Character Flaws"?

And I could totally turn down a girl like this if she had horrible personality flaws. In the end beauty fades and you are left with what's on the inside anyway

KatherineJ · Answer

Definitely physical flaws. A character flaw is a choice.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I was just thinking about this post and think about how strange the times we live in have become.

It is funny that the very fact of accepting yourself which is basically what we all must do at some point, has become a political statement.

sheama_t · Answer

I’m more accepting of physical flaws. Cause if your personality sucks that’s a deal breaker

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Physical of course. Personality flaws are usually a choice.

Anonymous · Answer

What is the physical flaw of the girl in top left of photo 😻? I’m probably more accepting of personality character flaws but I’m trying to get better at that

Avicenna · Answer

Depends what the specific flaw is. In general, physical flaws are more acceptable.

Minahh · Answer

I'd say physical. When someone is a jerk I won't bother with him.

Andres77 · Answer

Physical... because there's no fault. Character flaws? They choose to be an ass every minute of every day.

PinkHamster · Answer

I am more accepting to both because we are humans after all and no one is 100% perfect 💕✨

exitseven · Answer

Physical flaws.. Everyone has them. Character flaws not so much.,

krin_m · Answer

I have no issues with physical flaws and I can accept personality/character flaws to a small extent.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Everyone has both, so it's hard to say specifically, but in general physical flaws are likely more acceptable, if they aren't too big.

Loolucy · Answer

We have all got flaws. The physical are easier to cope with than the mental type.

modelUN242 · Answer

more accepting of character flaws since they can be improved

Citizenkirk · Answer

Beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, and there will always be someone out there, who's expectations are beyond human reach.

hellacray · Answer

Depends what they are.  I'm not getting myself involved with someone that's not mentally stable or has some kind of eating disorder.

jerzeygirl04 · Answer

I think personality cause you can’t see it. The physical flaw is their in your face lot of times.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

No human being isn't really free of both the flaws so we choose accept both in ways we could tolerate and still be happy

Typhon_ · Answer

I am for Personality/Character flaws, but for physical ones I just have that weird feeling so I can't really accept some of them, like only *some* of them, for the rest Idrc.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Neither, unfortunately, for a spouse. That's just the brutal reality of life. But I'll be friends with anyone, no matter what they look like.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Nobody should have any flaws... Really personality flaws are much more prevalent these days. But nobody seems to care. As long as your good for a sex session, people will temporarily put up with anything.

loveslongnails · Answer

My account accepts many flaws of any kind - but not EVERY flaw !!! LOL

douride2 · Answer

I am more accepting of physical flaws.

Lliam · Answer

I'm more accepting of physical flaws.

kkirk4442 · Answer

I'm fare more accepting of physical flaws.

JohnO45 · Answer

If you look good I'll overlook alooot. I try not to do that but it's a natural instinct.

sheikalana · Answer

I'm more accepting of physical flaws.

dubbled1970 · Answer

Physical flaws

Dontaaa · Answer

Physical flaws by a landslide.

RelevantJ · Answer

More accepting of physical flaws. Some y'all mfs with personality/character flaws make me wanna smack ya into next week. Like learn some home training.

msc545 · Answer

Physical flaws are ok, personality flaws are not.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical flaw but ideally not any of it

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't understand the question. What's a physical flaw?

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Physical cause my ex was ugly 😂😂

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I'm more accepting of physical flaws.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Physical flaws

vald9inches · Answer

I am more accepting of "physical flaws"

WowwGirl · Answer

Yes nobody is perfect

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