What would you say your biggest character flaw is?

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I'd say that mine is my lack of trust/being closed off. I don't trust anyone. In my mind everyone I meet has intentions of hurting me in some way so I don't let people get close. And I feel like it has stopped me from really getting to know some great people. But sadly, I don't see it changing.

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abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Apparently, my existence.
I seem to be God's personal toilet paper that He gets to wipe his Holy Shit with.
For instance, this past week:
1. My phone died last night. Nothing is actually wrong with the phone but the software bricked it due to a failed update. Have to get a new phone. But I live on a planet in which 2-factor authentication is required despite it being a fantastically unreliable technology. So, because I can't complete 2-factor authorization for my job, I can't work, and, since I am a contractor, I only get paid when I work. Therefore, I am losing $100s/day in lost pay and progress.
2. I was diagnosed with glaucoma 6 months ago. I went in for my checkup. I have new vision loss but likely not due to glaucoma. Instead, it's likely due to a pituitary tumor growing in the middle of my brain that is impinging on my optic nerves. I will need an MRI for my brain and then likely, after that, a biopsy. So, $1000s in new medical bills; I still haven't finished paying for my hernia surgery 16 months ago.
3. In the past month, two of my teeth have completely broken down with the new one last week.
4. It's the 30th anniversary of all sorts of negative shit. And, of course, the people who did that negative shit are living fabulous healthy lives.
5. I pressed the button for 87 octane gas this morning. Got charged for 93 octane which is a shitload more expensive.
6. My wife bought a lemon of a horse trailer. We've had it for 20 months and part after part on it breaks. So, we basically threw away money.
7. Because my phone died, I lost all the new data I just put on it including great videos of my new puppy.
8. "Other" - and I will leave it at that.

At this point, I want God to parole me. Whatever I did that was evil in the last life, I am certainly sorry for. Murders get released after 25 years. Well, I've been serving 41+ years now, so I am due.

Really, part of me really wants that biopsy and be told the tumor is malignant and inoperable. Then I can finally relax and feel smugly justified.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I mean I have so many of them to be honest when you talk to people no matter what you're talkin about they will tell you the truth at the same time that they're lying to you and so I know that they're lying to me but I allowed them to go ahead and do it just to see how far is it going to take it and I really wish I understood why I do this

Also when I do deals me deals and stuff the way I word things it kind of makes me look like I'm naive and you can watch the person's eyes just spinning because all of a sudden they think they're going to take advantage of me and instead of calling them on it I just allow them to think whatever they want to think. I just let everything happen the way it's going to happen that they're not going to take advantage of me and they kind of get pissed off when I put a block to it

For the last past year I've been late to everything I've done LOL and I know that's just not right I got to start doing better on that
And even on here I don't use punctuation I use voice texting whatever comes out of my mouth is what almost gets written down on my phone sometimes my phone likes to add its own words and I really really got to get better at this.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

In response to yours, I trust until they give me a reason not to. But I always expect the worse from people. It helps ease the pain faster for when they break the trust.  As for myself, mine is probably when I start to get the big head.  I love having power in a relationship. I like when the guys more mentally/emotionally submissive. Like sure he can have a mind of his own but i like being the one he comes to for advice, ideas, and reassurance. After feeling my guidance is “needed” so much, I start to get the big head like ahh his ass ain't never going nowhere. He needs me. But I of all people should know people dont NEED anyone. Everyone is wanted until they’re not. Or they’re used until people get where they’re going. So I’m working on that. Bt yea it was a huge thing with me fixing broken dudes 2015-2020. I loved feeling needed and thought that meant I ran shit. But every race eventually comes to a finish line

Apulu_3 · Accepted Answer

I am someone who can be easily manipulated by her loved ones. But also someone who doesn't lets down her dreams even after getting manipulated. I just hate the fact that I'm so coward to say my mom that I can't do whatever she tells me especially her choosing which kind of future I should live. Even if I say she will just criticize me saying I'm very biased anyways and next day again say something to which I won't have power to reply. Maybe I need to take birth in other family to complete my dreams lol.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My biggest flaw is trust issues/ low self-esteem on my appearance/ extreme shyness
I believe being bullied in school then coming home from school and hearing parents bitch at me, my dad sick from being drunk, my mom being in a bad mood, I never came out to tell my maternal grandparents how things were, the thing is if I did I would hope they would of got custody of me and my sister even though they rented I imagine the landlord would have thought something over and the sad thing my whole family was so divided

Sarah8fjdddd · Answer

I don't think this is a character flaw. Take it from me who has had 31 years of friends turning on me. I have sadly learned that NO ONE can be trusted except for family, and even family can f*ck you over. I think it is healthy to be cautious about disclosure with friends; even old friends. I think you always need to have your guard up with people and not let them in all the way. However, you can still have surface level friendships; or even deep friendships. I recommend always being cautious though. I have been burned by people so many times; I have come to the solid conclusion most friends can't be trusted in the end. I have had many situations where I thought I knew a friend so well. They were the kindest most loyal and stable friends I had. Then one day they got new friends, the context completely changed, and they backstabbed me. So; I don't think it is a "FLAW" I think it is WISE.

normalice · Answer

No mercy to anyone who has shown themselves to be even a tiny bit greedy. I know it's human nature and no one has any reason to spend even a moment of their limited time thinking of someone besides themselves, but likewise we as a society don't have any reason to spend even a moment tolerating such people. I'd need only assurances that people would unanimously look the other way and i would push any button, pull any lever, swing any axe to rid us all of those parasitic ambitions infecting human brains.

Jadethedream · Answer

Probably trusting people after they lie
when they know I won’t agree with it. So they do it anyway. I don’t trust enough. I used to lot when I was younger maybe blindly. Which got me in trouble lot. I but do wish people I know and that are close to me were truthful. I had to cut people out of my life because I struggle to tolerate liars in my life. But unfortunately that my flaw
dont like lying myself and I try not too.
somtimes I am too honest and truthful for my own good.
Why I don’t lie because I know it will come back to bite me. Karma what comes around goes around. Like if I lie to someone I know I will get lied to back.

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

I have trouble setting boundaries with people in fear that I will disappoint them/make them dislike me, which leads to most of my relationships getting extremely out of control until I cut off whatever sort of relationship I have with that person for seemingly no reason.

And yes, I know it's completely unfair for the other person, and it's something I'm working on.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Similar to yourself, I have major trust issues. I assume everyone will eventually disappoint, abandon me when I need them, or hurt me (which usually they do so I'm not exactly wrong).
So I have a tendency to push away or not get too close to people anymore to avoid such issues.

DermalPunch · Answer

I have some BPD traits but I internalize. I have forced myself to stop being the way you describe.

Have I gotten hurt since then? MASSIVELY.

And I am so glad to finally learn from these experiences and who I truly am as a person. What actually matters to me and what I truly need in my life. You got this. There is nothing to fear but fear itself.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

I always feel like a burden to people and get major anxiety and self-doubt, which conflicts me because I'm usually quite a social and outgoing individual. Perhaps, hypocritical at times without intention, tend to be critical and micro-manage myself in my work and study and general life to 'perfectionism'.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Procrastination.

My mom says anybody who procrastinates anywhere in their life, that person is finished there. No greatness for that person even if the person tries.

I am in the process of eliminating that from my life. Will have to succeed since there is no other option as my life is at stake here.

numscul · Answer

It's my biggest flaw and greatest attribute to who i am as an individual

I am brutally honest... so don't ask me something you are not 100% sure you want my opinion about because i don't give a shit who you are... i will tell you even if it hurts or makes you uncomfortable

Slingblade1126 · Answer

I like to kid around with people but sometimes I take it too far. My wife actually thought I was an asshole the first couple times we met. She said I offended her several times but I was completely oblivious. It wasn't until her and I had an unexpected opportunity to spend some time alone together that she realized I was an okay guy.

dovendyret · Answer

My low sense of self. I grew up having to adjust to my environment & still struggle at times with it where I lose track of who I am & what I stand for when under stressful conditions or when there are confrontation where anger is involved - at least privately.

My professional side, has everything my private side lacks.

virtue2332 · Answer

My character flaw is definitely over analyzing everything which in of itself isn't the issue however this becomes an issue when a decision has to be made within certain time constraints.

NathanDavis · Answer

hmmm... I'd say that I can be stubborn, the bad kind of stubborn and if I don't keep it on check, it will be the worst kind of stubborn... lol

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

A strong desire to be liked by everyone. It makes me go way above and beyond for people to my own detriment.

DaveJord · Answer

My biggest character flaw, is that I assume people all have some sense of common courtesy. Or that they believe that other people truly matter in this world beyond how they think or precise how it only effects them.

NiListicIntelectual · Answer

My fear of judgement, because of that I rather not say anything at all because it's easier, no risk of judgment, I'm basically mute without technically being oneThat holds me back a lot, since I never talk to girls. I've never had a girlfriend, and most likely never will

InferiorElegy · Answer

I am pretty much the same as the op except I don't believe being closed off is stopping me from meeting great people, people have always treated me like I was lower than dirt even by those I had once called friends. When I was a open person, people always showed me great people don't exist.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I would say oversimplifying complex issues sometimes or not communicating feelings… both which I’m working on and slowly improving☺️

DGravez6 · Answer

I was a 3 year psych major. I didn't finish school, but I tend to analyze everything people say and I'm always looking for hidden meanings to what people say. Definitely my worst flaw.

iamjustaman · Answer

I can be too trusting I guess. I have always tried to give everyone a fair chance to prove themselves to be good. But it has led to many disappointing experiences. So now I lead by example, and I use my energy to help others in need. Even at a personal cost. The giving outweighs the sacrifice still tho.

Datboi65 · Answer

A hot temper. I'm trying to work on that currently, but when I get angry it's usually very bad. Good think us it's been a few months since I have last yelled at someone, but it's sometimes hard to fight these demons inside. Doesn't mean I haven't gotten angry in that time period, but I try to remain calm and not react badly. So far so good.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I agree with the owner. Trust. I don’t trust People like I used to, but that’s a lot of peoples fault. Even some people on here.

TheorionMage · Answer

My perennial 'romanticism' and I'm of the age wherein I speak the pragmatic 'truth' with little filter. Hoping for the best but preparing for the worst aka Benj. Franklin's admonition.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I’m the same as you. Lol. I hate it. It gets in the way of my life and enjoyment.

Cherry234 · Answer

Not speaking up or standing up for myself enough. I've noticed this about myself and some of my family members pointed it out.

PhoenixAl · Answer

I got such a temper sometimes I start yelling because I get so much stresses if something doesn't work out like I want. But it goes away within minutes.

the_sinner · Answer

Not Talking about my problems up front and toning them down just to make them sound less serious. Also I can’t hold eye contact with anyone for longer times.

Desconhecida · Answer

Sarcasm. Sometimes I lose good friends because of my annoying personality.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I’m too nice and sometimes it drains my happiness when people don’t deserve it

nawtee_me · Answer

Would you like it to be different? I think mine might be that I trust too much. I trust everyone until I am given a reason not to...

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well besides yours, age. While I love recanting the past and way better music, I get stuck in trying recreate it.

LivAndLearn · Answer

I'm too nice. I've always said yes to people because I just want to help or make them happy. Doing that all the time puts me in tough situations.

gfedcba · Answer

I have no interest in people - I have neither a preference to be around others or not, so when people talk I'm talkative/friendly, but next time I see them I might not even look at them, or say a word, not because of anything they did, but I just don't desire interaction, leading people to get confused or think I have mental issues, reality being I'm more stable mentally than nearly anyone I know as my happiness depends little on outside beyond basic comforts (food, shelter, etc.)

ARWINGx1 · Answer

from what I've read/heard from others, 2 of them are that I'm said to be selfish, (taking more than I give in return) and cold/unemotional.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I have no tolerance for stupid, uneducated or paranoid people and openly show that. 😬

convo_king89 · Answer

Overthinker…. It affects my turn ons as well. If I see a girl is wearing some basic panties like hanes.. I think that she is wearing them cuz she think no one will see them so it’s lucky I got to see some forbidden fruit. So yes I like granny panties but for the wrong reason..

Reijen · Answer

I lack the ability to counsel someone with death. I'm also insensitive.

zoe2187 · Answer

I’m insecure, closed off and terrified of being abandon. At the same time I’m overly trusting. It gets complicated.

MarkRet · Answer

Lately, it's lack of motivation. Virtually nothing interests me anymore.

Godsvengeance · Answer

If im using the seven deadly sins as my template then I'd say lust. I never harm anyone or anything horrible like that, I just wish I was better at not thinking of such things

sensible27 · Answer

I'm pretty cold and insensitive sometimes. (And ignorance)

bean2k21 · Answer

I have a bad habit of tying people to a bed post and running ice cubes down their butt crack.

Andres77 · Answer

The older I get the more stubborn I become. Just like a mule. Or as some would say a jackass or ass.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Not asking for help when I need help. I feel like I should be able to handle everything on my own. Very harsh self-criticism.

MCheetah · Answer

I'm very stubborn. This combined with being a pessimist and it makes it hard to change certain attributes or behaviors, like "be more positive" and stuff like that. It's not that I don't try; I just can't stick to it for very long.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I’m gullible. When a girl (I’m not going to say any names) acts or says she’s interested in me I believe it. I can’t fully blame girls that act like that towards me

ThatOneBee · Answer

when I feel someone is about to leave, I become distant so I don't get hurt

skyeee_ · Answer

paranoid, procrastinating, cutting people out without warning/reason

bolverk · Answer

There are times that I cam be overconfident to the point of arrogance, that is why I likr to work with someone who is a bit more restrained.

Mangospacho · Answer

Being truthful. And also lying. And also lying about being truthful.

annabananna · Answer

Lack of motivation and organization as well as social anxiety.

Darine123 · Answer

Hmm, low self esteem, too quiet w people I don’t know

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Deep Purple wrote a song about me.

TallAnon · Answer

I delay negatives as much as I can. Throw out the trash? Takes 1 minute and there's a chute down the hall. Maybe next week.

Waldoe · Answer

when I was a toddler, WAY back, 71 years ago, I used to take off my clothes and run around naked... I still do... YIPEEEE

Sonorous · Answer

Probably my high neuroticism.

Staximus · Answer

I don't know when to shut up, running my mouth gets me in trouble

loveslongnails · Answer

I can't tolerate stupid people, especially ones "think" they're smart.

HotelWhiskey27 · Answer

I tend to be insecure even tho I push others to not be

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