When I was helping my guy friend (he was 22) with online dating, we were looking at the matches and they were atrocious! Let me list them:
- tall stoner goth girl, feminist, tattoos, lots of makeup (she was 18 and already slutty)
- fat entitled girl (25), wore glasses and looked like she was 40, feminist
The only nice-looking girls were the South-East or East Asian ones but they didn’t really reciprocate. a lot of the girls (age range was 18-23) were fat, tattooed, filtered, too much makeup, slutty, brief profiles, smoked, drinking. Tinder was just a bunch of unserious girls looking for followers and possibly OnlyFans customers.
I told him maybe older women might be more serious but he didn’t want that.
I only voted because there was no neutral vote to cast, I can't speak for anyone else other than me, and honestly we all ever single one of us male female have standards and won't settle for less, and first impression plays an important role and it's the standard by which most go by in forming an opinion on someone, which may be accurate but kind of shallow, takes time to truly know a person, if they are compatible e with your views ways lifestyle he'll if you can tolerate them period, we all have something we look for that is compatible with our ways, that's the real of it, unless your just so worn down by meeting nothing but slobs till you just give in and say what the heck at least he has a job, and accept less than you normally would and it's nothing wrong with that standards is just another way of saying, you won't accept anyone before this line here but over time that line gets lowered as you get desperate I mean older, you know I'm right, with what I'm saying here,
You can thank the SIMPS, sycophants, white knights, chivalrous heel-lickers and cuckolds, that gives women the perception, that they can get a good boyfriend as easily as ordering from the menu. A high influence to the supply & demand dynamics favoring the pinks.
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I don't get what you are asking. Yes I get that men have standards. So do I. Men see some women as marriage material, and if they don't meet their standards, they can still be good fuck material. I see certain guys who meet my standards as marriage material, but also had guys that didn't meet my standards and decided they were ok for a quick fuck. No difference there.
The only thing that's different is the view of the partners. When a guy sees me as just a slut for the night, I sometimes (if I like him) get jealous of the women he sees as marriage material. Yet my partners who I saw as marriage material, got jealous of the guys I just had sex with. I never got how guys see this.
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Lol says the single male leftover in his 30s (-sarcasm)
Look men can have preferences but my problem is that guys like you trashtalk women who is not like their preferences. If you prefere women without kids, then do it but stop trashtalking/hating single mums. If you prefere fit women, then do it but dont trashtalk or bully women who ain't fit. If your prefere younger women, then do it but stop being ageist towards women in her 30s. This is like prefering a tall guy and hating on short men which people like you critizise women who bodyshame short men but it is ok for men like you to bodyshame women or to be ageist towars women. Stop being hypocritical.
Prefere wtf you want, just stop hating on women.
Only standards men have are double ones. They want a virgin woman while having lots of experience themselves. They want a woman with a high libido, but also never had sex before.
A lot of men have very superficial standards in my opinion. It's often not to serve the purpose of having a good relationship.
WHY do people whine about shitty dating partners when they have LOW STANDARDS?
WHYYYYYY.
I am sorry but as a professional woman with not outrageously high standards (a decent guy with a job, how hard is that?) but the self-respect/esteem not to dress or act proactively or sleep around...
I am TIRED of women and men CRYING the opposite sex is crap, a cheater, player, etc. when it is THEIR LOW STANDARDS for WHY they're associating with cheaters, etc.
DUH. A child would understand.
Well, of your two extremes in the poll I think the first is more correct. Men in their 20s are more keen to focus on the sex than making a real effort to get a good relationship going (same as for women in their start 20's). Being in the 30s and single does not mean you are not marriage material (for both genders), unless you want kids it is really not an issue anyway.
But, of course, people with some respect for themselves has standards. Nothing new in that.
Yes men do have standards like wanting a lady & not a slut. But a lot of their expectations are outdated in today's world and is actually a double standard. The evolving society has changed both genders in their own unique ways and all beliefs & expectations can no longer be really feasible
Men do have standards and they absolutely should. But wife (and husband) material involves a whole lot more than most people realize. Most humans are blind leading the blind. And that goes for both men and women.
Yea a majority of men have standards alright 🙄
Guys, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. The saying might be old, but the game is sadly still being played. You want a steady girl, a girl who’s committed only to you… and yet you refuse to commit to us. You won’t promise us exclusivity so that when you play the field, she can’t call you a cheater. You tell her to keep it casual while doing whatever you can to keep us on the hook. Screw that — you can’t have it both ways.
Don't really get what you are asking but yes guys and girls have standards and thats totally reasonable and okay. You like what you like. But I will say for some reason it seems like nowadays women are way more picker than men when it comes to dating. Not trying to be rude or stereotypical but mostly all women dress nice, shower daily, wash their face, and workout. While some guys not all of course, because I have seen quite a bit of guys who look amazing and take great care of themselves. there's some who don't do any of that stuff and yet they complain about why they don't get "pretty girls" or shame a pretty girl for not wanting to go out with them. I know women do this too. A pretty girl or handsome guy isn't gonna settle for someone when they know for a fact they can do better.
Last 2 words on the question title kinda implies option A is close to true. Can you really blame women who don't meet most men's standards for thinking men only want sex if men always only ask her to be friends with benefits?
Like for men who always get used for money think women are all gold diggers, if women just want money from men who don't meet their standards then can you blame him for thinking that if he's only experienced that side?
Those kind of beliefs don't exist for no reason, even if they are only part-way true.
Anyway tho I assumed most single women were single cause they don't wanna/ don't wanna commit to a serious relationship. Same as why most single men are single.
dont say that too loud. they start screeching autistically, throwing temper tantrums like 5 year olds. In their view men aren't allowed to have standards. They must only serve their vagina.
A lot of women have the same type of entitlement that incels have, the only difference being that incels can't get laid vs they can't get a decent guy to commit.
Both expect the opposite sex to "love them as they are", to change their standards to suit them, and they feel entitled.
I would also say that many people who say these things, and you included, have the wrong priorities when it comes to dating and relationships, and that's why they always seem to be playing silly games.
Yeah us women don't like men who use someone else's face as their pfp. Hiding behind another face so you can be misogynistic. 🙂
I’m sorry, I don’t understand.
You want women to understand men have standards too (Umm of course) and then that’s bundled into single mums in the comments and update.
Are you asking do men have standards, do women have kids, or do women think men have no standards?
Sorry if I’m expecting too much by asking you to explain. I’m just a woman.
Most young men don't have standards.
I don't ever recall growing up with standards. I do remember just falling for a beautiful girl.
I do think ladies know men have standards, and I also believe they think they r the exception to our standard. Little do they know the difference between a "nice guy" v a "good guy."
Everyone has standards but that doesn’t mean that you have to be horrible to single mothers. You just aren’t compatible with them and they deserve a second chance at love. Just swipe left and move on.
i don't think you have standards either, considering how much women you have slept around with over the years. Nobody would see you as marriage material. Who cares about what standards a man-whore has?
I'm not a women (obviously) but I would just like to put it out there even if people don't believe me that I have standards even though I am getting near my mid 20s and I personally believe anybody can have standards regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
I don't think that my standards are high but given the quality of women these days, maybe they are. I just want a woman who has a pleasant personality, is clean and doesn't act like a petulant child to avoid responsibility/ accountability. In other words, I want an adult for a partner.
Of course we have standards. Both men and women are in control of who they approach and allow in their life when it comes to dating and relationships. As for me, I don't make time for drama or unmanaged emotions, because I like to keep a balance of chaos and harmony in my life.
We don't have to bash women or men, because what a majority chose to do. I came across a lot of women who were amazing friends and also amazing to be involved with. It's all about what you want if it matches you.
If you:
can't or won't cook regularly
Dont want kids
aren't sweet and make the home peaceful
Slept around a bunch
Dress or act like a ho
You have ZERO chance of a top tier man marrying you. Period. Facts. But all the men will still fuck you if you're not hideous. didn't say hot even, i said not hideous.
