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When I was helping my guy friend (he was 22) with online dating, we were looking at the matches and they were atrocious! Let me list them:
- tall stoner goth girl, feminist, tattoos, lots of makeup (she was 18 and already slutty)
- fat entitled girl (25), wore glasses and looked like she was 40, feminist
The only nice-looking girls were the South-East or East Asian ones but they didn’t really reciprocate. a lot of the girls (age range was 18-23) were fat, tattooed, filtered, too much makeup, slutty, brief profiles, smoked, drinking. Tinder was just a bunch of unserious girls looking for followers and possibly OnlyFans customers.
I told him maybe older women might be more serious but he didn’t want that.
My former guy friend did end up losing his virginity to a mid-30s woman 🤮, he described her face as aged cheese.
@EyesOfGod Yeah... she practically assaulted him at his place, this girl set them up. They were both drunk but she practically started kissing him and then yeah... He does have low morals though since he told me he wanted a nice girlfriend.
@chris_987 I guess...
I only voted because there was no neutral vote to cast, I can't speak for anyone else other than me, and honestly we all ever single one of us male female have standards and won't settle for less, and first impression plays an important role and it's the standard by which most go by in forming an opinion on someone, which may be accurate but kind of shallow, takes time to truly know a person, if they are compatible e with your views ways lifestyle he'll if you can tolerate them period, we all have something we look for that is compatible with our ways, that's the real of it, unless your just so worn down by meeting nothing but slobs till you just give in and say what the heck at least he has a job, and accept less than you normally would and it's nothing wrong with that standards is just another way of saying, you won't accept anyone before this line here but over time that line gets lowered as you get desperate I mean older, you know I'm right, with what I'm saying here,
You can thank the SIMPS, sycophants, white knights, chivalrous heel-lickers and cuckolds, that gives women the perception, that they can get a good boyfriend as easily as ordering from the menu. A high influence to the supply & demand dynamics favoring the pinks.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/3fZXMb-3dFc
I don't get what you are asking. Yes I get that men have standards. So do I. Men see some women as marriage material, and if they don't meet their standards, they can still be good fuck material. I see certain guys who meet my standards as marriage material, but also had guys that didn't meet my standards and decided they were ok for a quick fuck. No difference there.
The only thing that's different is the view of the partners. When a guy sees me as just a slut for the night, I sometimes (if I like him) get jealous of the women he sees as marriage material. Yet my partners who I saw as marriage material, got jealous of the guys I just had sex with. I never got how guys see this.
@chris_987 this!☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾
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Lol says the single male leftover in his 30s (-sarcasm)
Look men can have preferences but my problem is that guys like you trashtalk women who is not like their preferences. If you prefere women without kids, then do it but stop trashtalking/hating single mums. If you prefere fit women, then do it but dont trashtalk or bully women who ain't fit. If your prefere younger women, then do it but stop being ageist towards women in her 30s. This is like prefering a tall guy and hating on short men which people like you critizise women who bodyshame short men but it is ok for men like you to bodyshame women or to be ageist towars women. Stop being hypocritical.
Prefere wtf you want, just stop hating on women.
But i would judge people who have hypocritical preferences like wanting an attractive person while being ugly or like prefering a virginal girl while being a make cunt
It is also funny how you judge single women in her 30s while being a 30 years old single guy
There’s no such thing as a “male leftover” Men don’t age the same as women. Men’s value usually goes up as they age. Not to mention they’re the ones who decide on the marriage.
You are triggered one. Only golddiggers would love leftovers like you.
@warrenstone keep dreaming. If you are "ugly and short", you already hit the wall. Watch faceandlms. Women who date men for money would chear on these men with younger hotter men. With wealth and stability can anyone attract anyone lol. Rich/wealthy women can get men too. Tf anyway most men ain't rich or wealthy. Seriously, you guys want women to be attracted to your wealth but also complain about golddiggers. Make it makes sense
Are you guys stupid by the way? I said leftovers as a joke. I dont believe in this shit. I did not mean to personally attack anyone and also funnny how you also only focuse on the sarcastic point. Read what i wrote. I kinda think that guys like you hate when women only want to date tall men and so dont want women to have preferences but also you talk about how men should also have preferences.
Again you can prefere what you want. Nobody is stopping you to want the perfect human being.
@hi_it_is_me123
I enjoyed reading your comments and gave them a "thumbs up." I thought you made a great point when you wrote that men want women to be impressed by their wealth and assets and then in the same breath complain about gold diggers. It seems to me that most everyone is so self-absorbed and self-centered that they can't see beyond their own nose unless they want something from you. So men put their wealth and assets on the table to attract a woman.
Oh thank you! I also realize i was a little harsh and rude. So sorry for being rude.
PREACH
Only standards men have are double ones. They want a virgin woman while having lots of experience themselves. They want a woman with a high libido, but also never had sex before.
A lot of men have very superficial standards in my opinion. It's often not to serve the purpose of having a good relationship.
@rjroy3 I have enough male figures in my life I respect. I have a good relationship with my dad and plenty of male friends. I don't know any man that really cares about how many bedpartners a girl has tbh. Only on the internet it's a thing.
I was also referring to the men I have dated before. I talk to a guy, we have a good conversation on a date, but it wasn't intellectually mindblowing or anything but it was okay (mind you I'm very extraverted and need very little to talk to someone. I could have a decent convo with a rock tbh). After a few dates I feel like we're not on the same line and I tell them it's not working. These men are completely flabbergasted by this fact even though there are so many obvious things that would lead to failure in a relationship. However they think 'oh we have similar interests' or 'we have a flowing convo without awkwardness' and think I'm their soulmate.
I think the standards of many men can be a little higher in my opinion in that aspect. Many men just want a nice pretty girl with the same interests. That's it, however there are way more factors to make it work like intelligence, emotional intelligence, empathy, political views, how to deal with conflict etc.
Considering your thesis was:
"Only standards men have are double ones."
And you had to be pressed to volunteer:
"I have enough male figures in my life I respect"
Perhaps you should actually talk as if you believe what you say, that you have men in your life you respect. Men that you wouldn't want woman talking about in the way you just were a few hours ago.
That's all
"Only standards men have are double ones." Lmfao. Logically it follows the same for women. Why are all your standards double ones too? It takes both genders standards combined to be double. Smh. Why can men sleep around but women can't without being a slut? Because y'all women keep fucking the same dudes ya ding dong. Where men to some degree are chasing virgin women y'all are fighting to marry the biggest players in town. Why dont y'all just end the double standard and chase male virgins? Smh. This is how you can tell she's just regurgitating feminist propaganda instead of just thinking about it herself and having her own ideas. y'all are in control of double standards exactly as much as men are yet y'all keep them going. Only difference is women complain about them, men accept them.
Your overall general view of men is that of disrespect. It's not a matter of "not all men". He asked a general question about men having standards. Your base stance is that men in general only have double standards.
Stands to read your general opinion of men is low and women who have that in general don't have male figures in their lives they genuinely respect. Because girls in general who respect men don't speak on men in general in the light that you have.
Just pointing out how you come across to the average male reader. Take that as you will.
WHY do people whine about shitty dating partners when they have LOW STANDARDS?
WHYYYYYY.
I am sorry but as a professional woman with not outrageously high standards (a decent guy with a job, how hard is that?) but the self-respect/esteem not to dress or act proactively or sleep around...
I am TIRED of women and men CRYING the opposite sex is crap, a cheater, player, etc. when it is THEIR LOW STANDARDS for WHY they're associating with cheaters, etc.
DUH. A child would understand.
@Anonymous
I gave your comment a "thumbs up."
It seems to me there could be an argument made that most everyone on dating sites, such as POF and Match. com have low dating standards because that's kind of what out there. There are a lot of shallow people with shallow goals.
Lmao love thisss
Well, of your two extremes in the poll I think the first is more correct. Men in their 20s are more keen to focus on the sex than making a real effort to get a good relationship going (same as for women in their start 20's). Being in the 30s and single does not mean you are not marriage material (for both genders), unless you want kids it is really not an issue anyway.
But, of course, people with some respect for themselves has standards. Nothing new in that.
Yes men do have standards like wanting a lady & not a slut. But a lot of their expectations are outdated in today's world and is actually a double standard. The evolving society has changed both genders in their own unique ways and all beliefs & expectations can no longer be really feasible
Did u just say its outdated to not want a slut
Ya so we 'll make it less rare again
We 'll be able to use disgruntled simp energy to cause a change tho
Also, a lot of girls started to have a "like it or not" mindset. They have been brainwashed and constantly told that they should be accepted for whatever and however they are, and if the guy doesn't like it well then he's a bunch of names and one day they will find someone who is right and will love them for how they are. E. g. being overweight is no longer seen as unappealing and ones who do even constructive criticism are quickly called "fat shamers"
Men do have standards and they absolutely should. But wife (and husband) material involves a whole lot more than most people realize. Most humans are blind leading the blind. And that goes for both men and women.
Yea a majority of men have standards alright 🙄
Guys, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. The saying might be old, but the game is sadly still being played. You want a steady girl, a girl who’s committed only to you… and yet you refuse to commit to us. You won’t promise us exclusivity so that when you play the field, she can’t call you a cheater. You tell her to keep it casual while doing whatever you can to keep us on the hook. Screw that — you can’t have it both ways.
@katyya_lov25
I liked your comment and gave it a "thumbs up." Sadly, the sentiment you expressed is common. And I'm sure you've heard it said over and over, "But not all men are that way."
The reason we dont committ to you is because you dont meet our standards. Are you fat or ugly where the only see you in their apartment? Are they embarrassed to show you off to their friends? Do they brag about you to their parents?
Women dont realize that he doesn't committ because you are not measuring up.
Don't really get what you are asking but yes guys and girls have standards and thats totally reasonable and okay. You like what you like. But I will say for some reason it seems like nowadays women are way more picker than men when it comes to dating. Not trying to be rude or stereotypical but mostly all women dress nice, shower daily, wash their face, and workout. While some guys not all of course, because I have seen quite a bit of guys who look amazing and take great care of themselves. there's some who don't do any of that stuff and yet they complain about why they don't get "pretty girls" or shame a pretty girl for not wanting to go out with them. I know women do this too. A pretty girl or handsome guy isn't gonna settle for someone when they know for a fact they can do better.
@chris_987 this☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾
Last 2 words on the question title kinda implies option A is close to true. Can you really blame women who don't meet most men's standards for thinking men only want sex if men always only ask her to be friends with benefits?
Like for men who always get used for money think women are all gold diggers, if women just want money from men who don't meet their standards then can you blame him for thinking that if he's only experienced that side?
Those kind of beliefs don't exist for no reason, even if they are only part-way true.
Anyway tho I assumed most single women were single cause they don't wanna/ don't wanna commit to a serious relationship. Same as why most single men are single.
dont say that too loud. they start screeching autistically, throwing temper tantrums like 5 year olds. In their view men aren't allowed to have standards. They must only serve their vagina.
Walk a mile in our shoes.
How would you feel to just be one of many? Say you were dating a girl and you wanted to be with us and only us. We knew you were already devoted to us regardless of our status, but we say we’re not ready. Meanwhile, we keep seeing you and making you fall harder and harder for us, but every time we’re not with you, we’re with another guy. How would you feel then?
@katyya_lov25 yeah news flash you d**b b***ch this is already happening with ALL women on the planet. You're the ones who have a buffet of cocks to choose from. On top of all your tinder matches and all your instagram followers and all your facebook followers and the millions of white knights PLUS all the special right, privileges and benefits the government is providing your vagina. Every single man is already one of the many. Thank you for the stupid reply
A lot of women have the same type of entitlement that incels have, the only difference being that incels can't get laid vs they can't get a decent guy to commit.
Both expect the opposite sex to "love them as they are", to change their standards to suit them, and they feel entitled.
I would also say that many people who say these things, and you included, have the wrong priorities when it comes to dating and relationships, and that's why they always seem to be playing silly games.
Yeah us women don't like men who use someone else's face as their pfp. Hiding behind another face so you can be misogynistic. 🙂
Oh only in almost every my take you have made. Cute how you ignore the first part of my opinion though 😌
@Am_and_Pm is this a pickup line you got off Yahoo answers and you're pasting it on every girl comment?
Sure thing smooth master
I’m sorry, I don’t understand.
You want women to understand men have standards too (Umm of course) and then that’s bundled into single mums in the comments and update.
Are you asking do men have standards, do women have kids, or do women think men have no standards?
Sorry if I’m expecting too much by asking you to explain. I’m just a woman.
Most young men don't have standards.
I don't ever recall growing up with standards. I do remember just falling for a beautiful girl.
I do think ladies know men have standards, and I also believe they think they r the exception to our standard. Little do they know the difference between a "nice guy" v a "good guy."
Everyone has standards but that doesn’t mean that you have to be horrible to single mothers. You just aren’t compatible with them and they deserve a second chance at love. Just swipe left and move on.
They do... just not with the creme of the crop. They should date in their league. But unfortunately their league is very low on the totem pole, no matter how high it was before, they are the bottom of the dating game and most just won't accept that.
@bamesjond0069 I guess they would have to do something to go up like work out or strike a better job. The thing is that this is ridiculous a man can date a few years younger. He is 33 so he can date a woman who is 25 with no kids. A single mom could also date up and date a 40 something year old divorce who is happy to date someone younger and better in bed than his ex wife.
Exactly. So single moms should start looking at much older men if they still want a higher value man. Or date much lower value younger men. No high value men around her age is going to go for a single mom. But many refuse to believe this.
@bamesjond0069 dude you don’t know that women only hit on men they think they can get and seldom message men they are interested in apps though. I think it’s weird that only single moms are hitting on y’all. The majority of men messaging me on apps don’t have kids
Because there are men that dgaf who knock up 5 women. And men are only shooting for the hot women. Most hot women get duped by one of these dudes and has a kid. Pretty much all hot older women have kids. Period.
@bamesjond0069 no , what I’m asking you is “is there really that many single mom’s in your dms?” And can’t you just date younger
1. Yes. Partly because single moms are fuck boy magnets so they are always newly single.
2. Yes i can and do. This is what i mean single moms are the lowest on the dating value. Im 34 why would i date a 28 single mom when i can date a 22 year old w no kid? No brainer.
@bamesjond0069 at your age 22 wouldn’t be serious relationship, too much of a maturity difference. You can filter out single parents on OkCupid. And you can also list “child free” on your preferences.
@Hyped_up_on_coffee my girlfriend is 18. We live together and its just fine for a serious relationship.
@Apope16 maybe you talk to the wrong girls. Almost all girls want a serious relationship. Girls dont like casual sex like men do. Only ones who have been hurt badly are having lots of casual sex. My girlfriend is 18 and on our second date she made it aware she was looking for marriage.
i don't think you have standards either, considering how much women you have slept around with over the years. Nobody would see you as marriage material. Who cares about what standards a man-whore has?
@Apope16 have you ever heard the saying birds of a feather flock together. It means people who are similar stay predominantly among like minded people.
So honestly don't know why you keep bitching about the low class women you end up with when their lack of standards and your lack of standards is why. A five year old could figure that out
@Apope16 A man who has slept with half the US female population, is similar to using a bar of soap that has been used by half the US female population. Who knows what kind of diseases you might have from kissing all those women?
Considering all the females you been with, its expected that you wouldn't still be single. But unfortunately you are. You get into 2 new relationships a month but none of them can ever stick.
I'm not a women (obviously) but I would just like to put it out there even if people don't believe me that I have standards even though I am getting near my mid 20s and I personally believe anybody can have standards regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
I don't think that my standards are high but given the quality of women these days, maybe they are. I just want a woman who has a pleasant personality, is clean and doesn't act like a petulant child to avoid responsibility/ accountability. In other words, I want an adult for a partner.
Oh yea I see, they did indeed downvote you for having standards. Silly little girls, calmn down its just standards, not the end of the world.
Of course we have standards. Both men and women are in control of who they approach and allow in their life when it comes to dating and relationships. As for me, I don't make time for drama or unmanaged emotions, because I like to keep a balance of chaos and harmony in my life.
We don't have to bash women or men, because what a majority chose to do. I came across a lot of women who were amazing friends and also amazing to be involved with. It's all about what you want if it matches you.
If you:
can't or won't cook regularly
Dont want kids
aren't sweet and make the home peaceful
Slept around a bunch
Dress or act like a ho
You have ZERO chance of a top tier man marrying you. Period. Facts. But all the men will still fuck you if you're not hideous. didn't say hot even, i said not hideous.
I'd a guy ike me. If doesn't like my standard about what Ihe only want friends with benefits then I will just move on and find someone who would prefer a long term relationship. I am not interested anything to do sex. The important part finding a guy that will put I. Work and be there self for once.
High value men have standards. most not so much...
too many simps who are not really desired by women.
Women on the other hand must be submissive and feminine otherwise, high value men are gonna just play with them.
it is what it is.
From the guy who calls himself alpha4u👍🏻
This is something that I’ve always been aware of ever since I was a little girl. You pick and choose how you want the guy to see you tbh.
Yeah most people have boxes to check when it comes to dating, and if you don't meet enough of them there's no relationship to pursue. No shit lol. This isn't a new concept my guy.
Are you sure about that? Wait for my next question. The responses will shock you. Women have no idea what matters to a man. No clue. They are so introspectively selfish and taught the man should please them... they dont even know how to keep a man. A lot of single mamas out there.
No idea is a stretch, a lot of you talk about what you want and only what you want all the time. And that's even more evident in the bedroom, lol most men can't even get a woman off. The only time you types are interested is when a woman is willing to bend over backwards to be your mother. Women now are starting to say no to it, and you don't like it. Now of course there are women who pass up good men and complain that there aren't any, but don't act like you are any better. I've seen your content, and I have to say you don't sound like a desirable person. You take the time to write these one sided posts that everyone knows is just you complaining because you can't have your way, and your not at all willing to look at what is wrong with yourself before you judge others. This "lady's man" masquerade is laughable, and it's funny you mention how women are selfish and only want men to serve them when that was something women where forced to do for men until fairly recently historically. Now that you are receiving the same expectations in return you feel attacked. If you don't like modern women, date men. Let's see how far you get;)
Did you know? Lots of women have standards and if you don't meet them they just ask for friends with benefits? Even worse, fuck buddy if you're coming from the streets... I hope you get how ridiculous is your statement. Plain stupid and has no logical basis, perhaps try cultivating your spirit and stop feeding people publicly with misleading and wrong input.
his statement is entirely logical; you are the one spewing your vaginal emotions over the conversation because you're offended. put your emotions away
women do not ask for fuck buddies if you don't meet their standards. they just leave. its like you know nothing about women
@007kingifrit you are funny trying to make a distinction between men and women... truly hilarious thank you! I am a woman and had in the past friends with benefits and sex buddies, and wow, nothing emotional about it just having sex and it had nothing to do with standards but my lifestyle that period and the priorities I had focusing on my career. You must be really old fashioned to think like this but I don't blame you. You do feel threatened by women owing it, so I'll let you believe whatever crap works for you about standards and exploring your sexuality with a trusted person. Still friends with these guys and it only ended when I started dating my boyfriend, just happened to be the right time.
making a distinction between men and women is... funny? you think they are the same?
@007kingifrit not in many aspects but in dating having standards or not it's a personal thing nothing to with gender. Since when if you enjoy someone's company, think they are good mate or partner and if you don't makes it a point of distinction? Women leave, men categorize u marriage material or hook up, I don't buy this superficial bullshit. There's complexities in both men and women and it's up to the person to deal with them but you can't project it into others and try to make a point out of it
Everyone has standards.
Although there are many out there who are only interested in what they can get and they do not care if they actually ruin others.
Do not set standards to high because you might never get what or who you want or need. I know from my own personal experiences.
I get it, we are not marriage material, but what made you think that YOU are marriage material? Spending your life on GAG whining about how girls aren't good enough nowadays? As if girls are lined up for you out there LMAO
For some men they really are lined up. Probably why some men are so confident about their standards. 😂
@bamesjond0069 I'm talking about OP, otherwise there are girls for whom men are lined up as well. Although on this misogynistic site male users are always pressed when they find out girls have certain standards, being tall per say.
In my experience there are essentially no women who men are lined up for. Any woman worth marrying is going to be married asap. Women who wait and wait and wait and next man after man are not marriage material. They are just hot. Which means the line of men is for sex, not marriage.
Good point.
Of course, men have standards too. Ridiculous to think otherwise.
u Have you ever posted anything about your own mother? is there a link to that post, that of couser,, if you have posted about her?
I only asked one time, all other 9,999 thousands are imagined by you... so, do you have a link for it? I am genuinely interested on reading that.
Why do none of those kids have shoes in that first pic? That seems kinda weird.
Im confused, the question was asking if men have standards (yep) but the answers are about why women in their 30s are single? (Millions of reasons)
My standards are kind of high because I only want relationships which could lead up to marriage and children. Modern women often fail at the basic stuff but there are some really good women out there I don't want to miss out on.
Use you’re real picture not some random black guy smiling lol. I did A project and remember me and my friends looking at that picture and he’s a model.
your*
I know I’m not being racist It’s just funny
You should if I was & it’s just an app i corrected myself earlier
Cool.
women don't eye signal to men above them as they know the will get dirty looks. The game has a cast system
Don't listen to this jack off, girls
He has no idea what he's talking about
Yeah
I chose option B since a lot of girls are way too slutty. They think they can get everything and everyone by acting like an hoe and dressing like one. But yes the sad thing is a lot of guys fall for this too.
If you are asking for friends with benefits , u actuqlly have no standards! LOL
Some of my standards are, honestly, trust and respect. And attraction ofc. But thats about it.
Don't you know that as a man you're not supposed to have standards. Instead you're supposed to be grateful for any woman who is willing to spread their legs for you lol.
Seriously though, I wrote that I basically want a grown up adult woman for a partner and I got two pink downvotes. And after reading many of the pink comments, it is clear that many women begrudge men having standards because they know that they don't measure up to said standards.
Yes of course and it works both way. Women think we are such pigs sometimes that just cause we see a nice body that we will want to be in a relationship with them. Like that is our only standard.
Just gonna leave this here
https://www.youtube.com/embed/GYJjGpUwhrU🙄. Aaaannyyywwwaaayyys
I have standards lol 😂.
Kids
obesity
and history of failed marriages put you in the undateable column but I would still fuck around with those girls if they are into it.
Haha! No kidding. You seem a bit butt hurt. I'm wondering if you got dumped or something.
So you have no problem using a woman until she is unusable, but you then complain when those very same women seek you again? Commitment is a one time deal.
B is the answer, women today don’t want marriage or relationships, they want a different guy every night.
I chose option B. It's exactly why I have not dated anyone.
Good God so many triggered whiny little bitches on here, and beta makes white knighting.. Just wow.
Good take by the way.
I would definitely date the girl in that first pic to see those sweater zeppelins in all their glory!
But yeah--that'd be pretty much it!
Just reading some of the comments and discussions here and I'm REALLY puzzled by some of the "logic" being used. Like somehow, for some reason it's viewed by people on here that it's "wrong" to want something in a romantic partner that you yourself do not possess. That somehow that makes you a "hypocrite." That's a completely absurd notion. Being a hypocrite would be saying you like one thing and then choosing something else when the thing you like is available. But what on EARTH is wrong with wanting something you yourself don't possess? The simplest example would be "I want a partner with great tits, a round curvy ass, a tight waist and a great pussy." That's true. I possess NONE of those things. ZERO. Does that make me a "hypocrite?" Is there something "wrong" with me wanting that in a partner? Or is that exactly what you'd fucking expect? lol!
And by the way--this works in the OTHER direction too. I happen to have a lot of education from top unis, which I suppose some people find a desirable trait in a mate. At the same time, I don't particularly care of a girl has a similar academic pedigree. It's nice and all if she does, but I really don't care that much. Is there something "wrong" with that? I a girl finds me attractive but doesn't have the same academic background does that make her a "hypocrite?" It's absurd.
To put it another way: there are no double standards--there are only standards. And there are people who have an easy time attracting those who meet their standards and people who have a harder time doing so.
Women don't know this, which is why many women are single or divorced.
Well that's reason we don't date you.
I heard you date fat white women
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