u I have had very good results with online dating. From what I hear, many guys do not change their approach online compared to IRL. They fail to realize that online dating is far more scary for women than it is for men.
I am assuming that most guys going online are looking for a LTR. The key is to let a woman know, right from the start, that you are interested in a romantic relationship (which implies an eventual sexual relationship) but to avoid talking about sex. As soon as yo start talking about sex, a woman will think you are only looking for a ONS or she will be afraid that you have a more nefarious intent. And they are not interested in seeing pictures of you not wearing a shirt, bragging about your car, or standing on a dead animal.
I do everything I can to make a woman as comfortable as possible while also letting her know that I want us to meet in person as soon as she feels comfortable with that. This always results in a face-to-face meeting within two weeks, and once she meets me, she will relax and feel comfortable with me, so we are off to the races.
Turn offs:
1. Bad opening lines, such as “hey sexy,” or “hey/hi,” or pretty much anything that comes across as sexual or hinting strongly towards wanting sex right away.
2. Sending nudes or asking for nudes.
3. Having pictures of yourself in a crowd of people so it’s hard to figure out which one you are, or if you’re surrounded by girls.
4. Having pictures that are outdated, altered/filtered, or otherwise are not a fair representation of yourself.
What was effective to me (so not to say this will work for every girl, but this is what caught my attention):
1. When the picture matches real life.
2. Politeness in conversation and no sexual innuendo.
3. You don’t try to get my number or my social media handles right away.
4. You give some decent conversation first before you ask me on a date. It doesn’t have to be paragraphs, it doesn’t have to be over the course of days, but have good grammar and spelling and don’t try to get into my pants in the first five seconds.
5. If you see something on my profile like I read books, then a good opening line is probably to ask if I’m reading anything currently, and then ask what it’s about. Let the convo flow from there. If she doesn’t answer, don’t be disheartened. She’s not interested for some other reason, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you said the wrong thing.
6. Most importantly? Be real. My husband actually got me this way. He asked me how many comic cons I’ve been to, I asked him about his artwork. When he didn’t know something about a subject I was talking about, he didn’t even pretend to know what it was and asked questions, and vice versa. Everything just flowed naturally from there. Hands down the easiest relationship I’ve ever been in.
- have a decent profile, no pics w other women, no photos of you looking like ur retarded, no random photos of some shit, no too naked photos
- put photos that you think you look good but still like ysf
- if u have higher education put that in
Now when it comes to looks it really depends on the taste
When u get to talk to a woman
- dont make promises u cannot keep, thinking in the moment ur superman but when it comes to it u flake, self reflect a bit and be realistic about ysf
- dont withdraw cause of any reasons like insecurities, being busy or whatever n leave the girl hanging; ur afraid to disappoint a woman but ur lack of comunication is more than disappointing; sure have time away but no more than 2 days
- work on your communication skills; apologize and explain to her if you messed somwthing up, dont just put it under the carpet n hope we can move on from it just like that; keep the conversation going, dont just leave it to us
- respect her boundaries
- be honest, no reason to lie when if u meet in rl it will all be revealed
- dont let ur ego get better of you
- show at least a bit of emotion, if u care
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It's a internet cultural thing, men are less picky, so women get more matches when they actually swipe. So as a guy you can't do anything unless your chad material, then all you need is a good model photo, keep the profile short, it's is only there for women to find a reason to reject you. So my advice stay off the dating sites your wasting your time. You can keep regular social media, if your single and want dates, have an active life.
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If his pfp is a shirtless photo, i’d get fckboy or gym obsessed vibes. Its a turnoff. If he posts pics with his mom, i’assume mamas boys. I he posts pics with his friend girl, i’ll assume she's a friends with benefits. If he lists that he's a gamer then i’ll assume his time is occupied and he prob doesn't have a strong work ethic. If he posts pics with a pet, i’ll assume it lives indoors. If he posts pic with a car, i’ll assume he's a showoff and uses his car to lure girls in. If he posts that he suffers from depression or any mental illness, i just see it as a red flag. These are all assumptions but they are also reasons i’d keep swiping
When I was single, this is what worked for me: he’d have to be good looking, and I’d have to know he has a job, a car, and his own place, have good pics of himself smiling. (No drinking pics. No shirt off pic. And absolutely no “tough guy” pics). He’d have to an excellent and engaged texter, be willing to actually call me on the phone at his own will. He’d wait until I was ready to meet up (usually after 1-3 weeks of talking), and he’d be okay meeting in a public place not knowing where I live and knowing I would absolutely not be going to his place afterwards. This was the early 2000s mind you so we weren’t quite as comfortable meeting people online as people are today.
- Dont do the weird small talk
"Hey what's up" it's boring and we get so many at once.
- stop putting group pics as your main photo
- write something in your bio so we have something to refer to for topics of conversation.
- get rid of the damn hunting and fishing photos
- have a shirt on in your profile pic/ all your pics (unless it's a poolside/beach pic)
- if you are pushy then we probably aren't going to go for it
- if you make a date place suggestion and she makes a counter suggestion, you look real creepy if you flat out decline it. (We're going to assume your choice is closer to your house and your only intention is to us in bed)
- oh and uh use your own pics. Most of us are good at detective work 🙂
Turn offs:
1. Acting perverted or talking about sex.
2. Asking or sending nudes.
3. Looking different then you do from the pictures you posted or having outdated photos. It's basically cat fishing in my opinon.
4. Moving into things way too fast. That basically means he's desperate.
5. Saying how great you are in your profile bio or on the first date. Because most of the time people who brag about how awesome they are, aren't really as great as they say.
Turn ons:
1. Being polite
2. Paying for the first date (I don't know I'm just traditional)
3. Asking us about our selves and our interests.
4. Being real
My boyfriend did all the stuff that were turn ons for me and he got me, we've been dating for almost a year now:)
be a pervert, weird, ask for nudes or send nudes videos, asking weird questions about ur body, don’t be respectful “hey sexy”” you are hot”,”head?”... like why just why? lmaoo some guys don’t know how to control themselves like it’s okay if u think this “her body is so hot” but isn’t necessary to say this to the girl it’s weird and what we supposed to say lol
Trying to hard and coming off desperate. a lot of guys will ask girl out before even getting to know her and it can come off super creepy and as if your only after sex. If all your pictures are really over the top to and are all of you posing instead of just looking casual and normal it comes off as if your too into yourself.
Basically as cliche as it sounds just be yourself and if a girl doesn't like that then your one more stone throw away from finding the girl who does
Women have three times the matches because there are a lot of guys on dating sites, particularly free dating sites, who send the same message to every woman they find attractive. So women on dating sites get A LOT of spam. You stand out by sending a personalized message that shows that you actually read their profile and that you have a reason for being interested in them specifically.
Asking for a friend? lol
When I used dating/chat apps, they had to have ‘something’ which caught my eye looks wise.
Then, a humorous bio, or short factual one was good for me.
They needed to be fairly close as I don’t want any long distance BS.
They needed to be able to text whole sentences and ask sensible questions.
Be nice, flirt right (plenty of info on the internet), don't advertise how sexy u r (it only makes me laugh). Show interest in her personality, ask about her interests, hobbies etc and tell about yours. Personally I wouldn't go on a date with a guy i know nothing about. What if he's a weird psycho? 😁🤪 Don't wanna waste my time
My red flag is hasn't no profile pic and pic like haft naked men. Assume fuckboi , complain about women and talk negative about his ex wife. Is a women hater. See other girls in his profile that make he just another player. If you don't put any thing about your marital status. I just assumed that they just want attention. Saying in entitled to date a person with same learning disabilities of you. This what I saw on disabled dating site. Don't even bother yusing it full of unwanted men there.
ROFL.
Having a job may help, as like anywhere else.
Not bragging but being humble may help, as like anywhere else.
Indicating what worth you may add to her life may help, as like anywhere else.
Seriously online is no different than real dating. If not easier as it avoid the first time hassle.
Age 17-29: your face matters only
Age 30 and up: she has limited market value and will now settle. Your face matters less but your pockets matter more here.
What they are doing? They are sending nudes and acting perverted in most cases and that my friend turns me off aff. I would never even meet them after that
Probably not same accomplishments in life. For me I always thought negative of a guy who never finished hs... it's like the easiest fucking thing to finish.
1nudes NO
2 have a real conversation not small talks i haven't met anyone who actual have a good comunication
3 exposed body is deffo a no
4 dont be a perv/thirsty
5 be honest with me dont be like wanna be friends and the next days say ya love me all the sudden. if you have interest on me say it dont hide it.
When I was single and used dating apps most guys weren't interested in the same things as me or didn't have the same goals as me.
OLD is dead and gone. Women behave like they're princesses and want men to treat them like royalty. They make no effort to keep the conversation going or get to know you. They're either there to satisfy their ego or just plain ass bored.
I leaned not to approach women online... For many reasons:
- Many of them wants attention.
- the good girls will ignore you because they think you will send d*ck picture.
Women can’t make up their mind because they’re inundated with men. So they play teases and then wonder why they end up meeting a jerk
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