Maybe I’m just picky. But i keep coming across frat/party boys, potheads, indoor petlovers, gymfreaks, cosplaying animelovers, obsessive gamers, distant military men, manthers/silverfoxes, workaholics, atheists, super mama’s boys, extreme tattoo/piercing lovers, traveling musicians and extreme gunlovers. I’ve been with a lot of those and just realize IT IS NOT FOR ME. It may be yalls type but its not mine. So at this point, remaining single just seems like the most reasonable option. Not My Type, Not My TypeI want a respectful, cute, corny dude who loves music/movie/shows and maybe even collects them. Hopefully he loves the Lord, is close in age, employed, has little to no tattoos/piercings, and wears casual clothing with lots of nice sneakers. I want him to respect his mom but not be constantly under her. A lonewolf would be nice but I gotta say no to the silverfox. Its fun to travel on occasion but i do not want to go out of the country unless it like Bahamas or Australia. Its okay to game, but daily? Weekly? Nah I’m past those days. Anime is whatever but I have no interest in watching it together nor dressing up to mock it. I dont care if he has a gun as long as he keeps it locked up and only uses it in a situation of protection. I dont need a guy whos running around toting guns like every day is hunting season. I dont care if he has pets but I won’t be indoors with em so I may as well date someone who’s pet free. Potheads and partylovers are an absolute no. I dont care if you voted for the sick/elderly to blow blunts, but that doesn’t mean you have to do the same. So see, remaining single is probably for the best #FeelFreeToList#ThatsMyType
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i like skaterboys and surfers who aren't into drugs. (Rare but theyre out there). I also like guys into carpentry/construction as long as they aren't fckboys. I like music lovers who can sit and listen to music all day or make instrumentals and even do karaoke with me. Not really into guitarist, pianists, singers, etc. I like movie fanatics and film writers! I like guys who enjoy going to baseball games and playing some one on one. I like hopeless romantics who love romcoms
In the dating world, what type do you come across so often that it makes you go “I should just remain single.”?
I have never dated---I think maybe darling's not for me---because I have come across too many: 1. Silly and empty headed girls. 2. Girls with tattoos and body piercings. 3. Girls wearing thongs and such. 4. Girls who use profanity. 5. Girls who measure the man by his paycheque/wallet. 6. Smokers and drunks. 7. Girls who would tell me, "Get a woman... not me, I'm already taken". 8. Single mothers---and I can't be sure that the guy isn't still in her life. 9. Girls who frequent places such as bars and clubs. 10. Party girls. 11. Loud, noisy, aggressive girls. 12. Girls who are not Christian. I could date a girl only if she's different from the above!
I oddly kinda like a guy whos a bit airheaded like #1. But i can't stand the rest especially #4. If he cusses every other word its disgusting. I can only tolerate cussing if its from sexual pleasure or a bad day. But just daily use or Cussing and sarcasm is a turnoff
Maybe you should find a nice country man. They have a work ethic but also treasure family and God.
The ones I have been running across are married women wanting a hookup and that is a big no-no in my book or The ones that have multiple kids from multiple that want me to support them but not have any say in how the kids are raised.
I like country men ‘s accent but theyre too outdoorsy for me. Plus i dont like the cowboy boot style and the gun-toting. And so many are mamas boy. Now if i could find a nice southern gent who has the accent but is more indoorsy, less gun-toting, and wears sneakers then we could work
Most Country men do not carry guns everywhere, yes we have firearms but they are usually locked in a gun safe and used when we go hunting to put ORGANIC food on the table for our families.
The boot thing, you have to wear boots when you are outside working it is a safety issue. I would rather wear boots then not have any feet.
Country boys maybe mama's boys but a country man is ALL MAN, yes we respect our mothers but we do not let our mothers dictate ANYTHING to us or our spouses.
Yes we do love the outdoors, I would rather a nice picnic lunch along a mountain river then sitting indoors watching TV. There is nothing better then clean air and natural beauty provided by nature.
All country men do not have a southern accent, some of us live farther North.
Im fine with like steel toe boots. But i dont like how many wear cowboy boots everywhere. If the gun is locked in a safe, i feel a little better but i dont want to date a hunter. My dads side already does enough of that. I love masculine men but the country boys in college always said things like “i want to date you but my fam wouldn't want me to bring another race home.”
If anyone tells you their family would not accept someone based on the color of their skin, you do not want to be in that family anyways. I actually prefer women of color (black) and my family has always accepted everyone. Shoot my brother is married to a asain, my sister to a black man, my other brother to a white girl.
Most country folk hunt, it is not because we like killing animals it is because we like healthy food but we also grow our own food and can everything. I do not buy much at the grocery store because we want to know exactly what we are eating and most stuff from the stores are full of garbage. Healthy clean eating.
So how do you know if someone is wearing Cowboy boots or just regular boots or leather shoes?
Well nice reasoning on those topics. As for shoes, i’m big on sneakers. I just dont like the look of cowboy boots. Shoes is one of the first things i look at on a guy
That is understandable, you like what you like. I like women that are Intelligent, opinionated, have morals, values and ethics. I also think a baseball cap is pretty sexy not sure if I would refuse to date someone for the clothes but it sure does help to catch my attention.
People who care only about having fun, people who aren't invested in the community or other activities, people who talk about sex or unwholesome stuff right away.
It does bother me when all they wanna do is have fun. Life is about responsibility more than taking risks. Im not involved in the community lmao. Im not outdoorsy nor volunteering for free. I talk sexual a lot but i still wouldn't act on it too soon into something
Exactly! What matters is to at least have some goals and direction, and not just think about their own gratification. I can talk about sex without issue - as long as there isn't any vulgarity - but I also make it clear I don't have much interest in it.
The types I keep coming across a lot that I don't want to date would be:
Basic girls (no hobbies, they just talk about people and events and fashion and thats it). Religious girls. Druggy/alcoholic girls. Party girls. Lazy girls. Girls who hate gaming. Girls who hate challenge. Girls who hate anime/cartoons. Girls who hate cosplaying. Girls who hate bugs. Gold diggers Outdoorsey travelers. Girls who want jerks/girls who are jerks/feminazis. Girls wanting casual sex/hookups. Tattooed girls. Prudes. Dumb girls. Indecisive girls. Girls who are good matches but outside the country And girls who want or have kids.
1. She has to be intelligent. 2. She has to be in the united states. 3. She has to be an atheist who loves science and nature/wildlife/evolution/phylogeny. 4. She has to not have kids and not want kids. 5. She has to be std free. 6. She to be completely drug free (including alcohol, cigs, and pot). 7. She has to have no tattoos. 8. She to like what I like (anime/cartoons, comics, superheroes, cosplaying, digital role play, larping, robots, mechs, sci-fi, fantasy, dinosaurs, aliens, bugs, dragons, monsters, and cats). 9. She has to be cute, very kind but not a martyr, loving, clingy, overly affectionate, compassionate, monogamous, loyal, and posessive, the type to stick with someone she loves no matter what hardships they go through. 10. She has to be random and silly and bubbly, very laid back, but dedicated and stubborn on things that are important to her. 11. She has to be an artist. 12. She has to be a skilled hardcore gamer who loves difficulty. 13. She has to like metal, techno, orchestral, and retro gaming music. 14. She has to be a horny perv. 15. She has to like crude humor, nonsensical humor, gibberish humor, witty humor, lewd humor, and childish humor, while still being relatively wholesome from a moral perspective. 16. She has to have no insecurities and know what she wants in life. 17. She has to love glowy multicolor neon/Christmas/arcade lights.
Yeah, most of the female gamers I meet are casual gamers who don't like difficult games or mastering skills because they get angry when something is hard. (except a penis apparrently)
The reality is that you are not getting a girlfriend with your long list of requirements. I was still okay when you listed the girls that you don't like. It is like I am asking for a man who has to be overly affectionate, has to like what I like (fashion, nails, hair), have a brooding flair and be laid back but sometimes possessive. He needs to have no insecurities. Now that's just not even... 20% of what you listed. Do you think you can achieve that? If you can achieve achieve I listed, you have the entry ticket to getting the girl you want but still have a 80% failing chanc.
@Jaketea, Not sure I understand what you are getting at, it sounds like you are trying to proposition me and want me to like girly stuff? I'm more looking for the pretty but tomboyish type of girlfriend, the kind who likes stereotypical strait guy stuff like my exes did. no i don't have any insecurities, yes i think i can achieve that list as i've seen it many times before (just not in single women close to my age in the US very often, super often outside the country though) as far as an entry ticket, to what exactly? and as far as an 80% chance of failing finding a girlfriend, you only fail something when you stop trying.
@DizzyDesii Did I just get hit on and called out at the same time by a stranger who has never even seen me? can you parse any of that cuz i'm confused af rn.
I don't have to deal with any of those. I'm not in a fraternity, I don't go to parties, I haven't smoked pot in50 years, I have my two cats, that about the extent of "pussys" I've had for several years, I go to the gym, once in a while, (have my own Bowflex, weights, and bike for indoor exercise if I ever get to it), I've never played an animal, the only games I play are Words With Friends, on Facebook, Civilization and Beyond Earth, I WAS military, distant? It depends on where you live from me, What the hell is a manther? I used to be a workaholic. Then my wife died. I am A Christian that doesn't use the old testament or the scriptures of Paul. I got past Momma's boy a few decades ago. Now I do what I can to help her in her old age. She's 104. I don't decorate or puncture my body unless it's medical. Now as for the traveling musician, I do drive to my church where I sing in the choir, then I sing with a group of oldies musicians who do, primarily, Elvis songs. If you saw my postings on Facebook you'd know exactly how I feel about weaponry and those that hug their penis extensions. MY problem is, at my age, although I fit many young lady's ideals, I'm too fucking old for most of you.
The only dealbreakers i see here is that you smoked weed (back then) and that you hqve indoor pets and Facebook. I’m personally not into that. I said distant for military because they get deployed. A manther is the male equivalent to a cougar
My weed time was once with some friends who were doing it. It did nothing for me and haven't used any since. My two cats are loving bundles of fur-babies. Nope on the distant military. Been there, done that with Vietnam and North Atlantic tours. I'm a manther only in my dreams.
Angry women who hate men when it comes right down to it. They put up a good exterior. I'd say when you get to be my age about 80% of women are either happily married or just hate men. When you're young everyone is shallow and new. Either you're attractive or girls won't even talk to you. As they get older the not so attractive women realize they need to aim a little lower in the looks dept. or they'll always be single. But one things for sure the really attractive guys can just cycle through the women because he knows there'll always be another waiting in line. As women get older. They get tired of being treated this way. Some women decide they'd rather be with an uglier guy that treats them well. Some still choose badly. Point is those women that don't figure it out eventually arrive at this age with nothing but disgust for all men. Sure they're still hopeful but the problem is they judge every guy by every mistake she's ever made. Ensuring she'll never put herself out there again. Closed hearts don't get filled.
@DizzyDesii I don’t think it’s so sad. I think as women get older, they get smarter. They realise that relationships aren’t all about looks. It’s about a strong connection. Plus, men’s looks fade too. Usually at 40. So, you see men go through this same phase... just a little later.
🤔... maybe.. but your opinion just sounds sad. Like we should take all women over the age of 30 out back and shot them... kinda like the same way we treat old cows.
@Poppykate not at all the question is what type do I run across. And when you get to be my age you'll see there is a disproportionate of women like this that's all. I don't care what they do. But they contact me. Then start judging me off a hundred of their failed relationships. I'd just be happy if they hit on someone else. 😀
Women need to take responsibility for their relationships choices. Yes, sure sometimes you can pick a bad one, but women need to stop ignoring the red flags! 🚩
@Poppykate well it's like anything guys do this to when you start to like someone you get blinded by feelings. WE ALL DO. You know how it is. A girlfriend of yours is smitten with a guy you meet him and from minute 1 you can tell he's a dog. Now you got the choice of telling her and possibly passing her off but you know it's not going to last. Once he gets what he's wants he's gone. I guess the way I should have worded it is women shouldn't blame ALL men for the red flags she misses. Same goes for men to. They shouldn't blame ALL women either. The only reasoni give it worse to women is lack of equality when it comes to dating. For a woman she only need make herself visible to get a date. For a guy generally he has to ask about 100 ladies out and he might get 1 taker. And she is likely to be a dud. Understand?
The type I come across so often, it makes me go “I should just remain single.”
1. FEMINISTS / FAR-LEFT CUNTS
Literally the least desirable (biological) women on planet Earth. I'll gladly tell you I voted for Trump if you'll leave.
2. BISEXUALS (HALF-ASSED LESBIANS)
It's great that we now live in a time where you can be who you want to be. I still don't want to date a lesbian, though.
3. TRANSWOMEN AND "NON-BINARY" PEOPLE
[I can't upload more than five images, but it was Mackenzie Davis here.] Awesome you get to be who you want to be in life. I'm not attracted to dick though, no matter how much you scream "Transphobe!"
4. GOLD DIGGERS & SUGAR BABIES
♫ Now, I ain't sayin' she a gold digger ♫ ... Wait, yeah I am!
5. OPEN RELATIONSHIP/POLYAMORY TYPES (CUCKOLDS)
Look... You guys can be selfish, immature narcissists all you want. I want no part of that, though!
6. ABUSIVE CUNTS
Observe mainstream Hollywood actress, Amber Piece-o-Shit
I am by no means picky, but I refuse to date any of these six types of people. There are others I am less inclined to ever want to pursue, like single mothers, or women over 45, but they are definitely not in the same category as those above. These types above are legit dealbreakers!
I can see how those are dealbreakers but any guy who calls women The B or C word are dealbreakers as well. You should work on expressing yourself more nicely but i hear ya
Selfish people , that only really care about themselves Girls that think sex is nothing to do with love they just say it’s just sex , and I just say yea , and you are just a whore. I think it’s funny how most people today don’t really care about STD’s anymore like it’s all of a sudden a thing of the past , to me it’s friggin dirty , if I am having sex with a girl I want to keep continuing to have sex with just her I don’t need anyone else , but today it seems people just like the convenience of each other and no one really wants to settle down unless it’s on their terms , and most people are already settled down and want a side piece. So is sex different then love? Me personally can’t love someone that is going off screwing other guys , I don’t understand how people think that is normal all of a sudden and just say it’s just sex? If it’s just sex then why are you keeping it a secret from your partner? I have heard so many excuses and lies to the point I think what is the point of ever getting into a relationship again , it seems people nowadays are all about convenience and only really care about themselves , I love my partner but sex with you is amazing , or I can’t leave my partner cuz I have to much invested to just throw it all away , this is shit I have heard after the fact, I just SMH
Why I just go with the flow these days , if I meet someone beautiful and her and I have great connection and chemistry and we end up in bed , so be it the truth never comes out with people anymore in the beginning and I don’t waste my energy trying to figure it out , all that matters is we made a connection and we are getting lost into each other at that moment , if she is secretly Married or has a boyfriend , I don’t care she apparently Doesn’t love or value him if she is having sex with me , that’s her probables if she wants to waste her time being with someone she truly doesn’t love and value is the way I look at it
Honestly, most men that approach me in my circle are husband material. Simply because I present myself as wife material and I carefully choose who to give a shot. I have nothing negative to say about the men I was talking to this past year, they're all great but I could only pick 1 so I picked the one I'm most attracted to and most compatible with. I also think us women shouldn't be overly specific about what we want (just my opinion). Like I personally don't care if we like different types of music or different types of movies. My mom and dad are completely different. My dad barely if ever listens to music and when he does (very rare) he likes the very old school stuff like old Arab singers or classical music or Luciano Pavarotti. My mom on the other hand she likes upbeat young people songs. She also likes watching movies but my dad only watches the news. My parents have different interests but they've been happily married for 27 years. Because what matters is respect and shared values.
There are many good quality dudes out there if we know how to choose our circles and what to prioritize!
Haha I'm sure you can find somebody who is a happy medium.. That's why you don't date online, because everybody seems like their personality is their hobbies.. But yeah with me.. The main types I mostly attract are girls who don't know what they want exactly, or girls who lose interest too quick, or girls who are not the most attractive to me but find me really cute.. And I can't stand how so many girls are "bi", smokers, or party girls.. I also see a lot of girls who put on makeup, have filters, and make certain poses and think they are the finest thing in the world.. And also for some reason I attract girls who are in a relationship.. LOL.. So yeah, there's a good woman out there I just gotta get through the rest.
I wasn't saying dating online. I said dating world as in in person as well. And yea i can't stand the indecisive type. The bi girls are just following a trend cause once they graduate school, they like to play like they never were. I can't stand smokers and partiers from a dating perspective. Yea the makeup can get outrageous but its either that or tomboys. Im a tomboy so he has to deal with me not being the most feminine. I attract sooo many dudes who are already taken. Those men are pathetic.
Aw yeah I know.. I was just mentioning online or long distance cause that's where you'll most likely find characters, instead of mult faceted people in the middle like in real life.. 😂.. But I totally understand you Desii.. Dating sucks today because it's just too many people who are narcissistic, and whatnot.. But yeah I know being "Bi" is a trend.. I almost only see it in young girls.. And if it's in older women it's only cause they watched porn and wanna hook up with a woman, or just don't like men.. And yeah smokers everywhere.. 🙄.. And get there's a happy medium where you like to look good, but don't out on cakes of makeup and think you look like Gods most beautiful gift.. 😂.. And yeah I don't know what's wrong with people in these damn relationships.. Too much porn.. But yeah for now I'm just chilling..
I don’t put much effort with what I don’t want. I put effort into who I want then go after that. it has work for me.
in my 20s, I go on one date. Then I know. He wanted to take me to hard rock concert on a second date. I moved on. Some girls can enjoy that with him. I go on one date with someone who is not responsible financially. I moved on. just focus on looking for what you want, took to them. Get to know them. Keep your core standards. He will show up when you open your heart. enjoy the journey.
I haven't been in the dating scene for a while, like 20 years a while. But the ones that turn me off are: The perpetually chipper, you see this in the yoga / new age types. That toxic positivity. Not an authentic emotion in them. The perpetual doubters. I've lived a crazy life and much of it is unbelievable. But why is it so hard to believe that I blacksmith as a hobby? Or that I have 3 dogs? The social justice warrior, or perpetual victim. I get it, there's a lot of wrong in this world. but to center your life around offense is just to drag everyone around you down. And lastly I am generous, I enjoy eating well. And I certainly don't mind buying stuff. But Im not an ATM , nor am I a free meal ticket. If our relationship is purely transactional then we're not dating. I am a trick or a John. And lets establish that at the beginning.
Is the chipper the college girls obsessed with yoga and yoga pants? Lol. Doubters are the indecisive and insecure. Most Social justice warriors seem to find a problem in eveything. It just never stops. there's no winning with them. And yea gold diggers are just trash
So for me it's ALWAYS one of the two following types:
THE FLAKY TYPE The type that will want to date me, text me constantly, start talking about their ambitions and dreams and then disappear for a couple of weeks (but religiously open my stories). And then they come back. And the cycle just repeats itself. The amount of times I've had to press the block button with those...
THE INSECURE TYPE The type that clings onto me (which is fine) but to an unhealthy extent and its borderline abusive. Telling me I can't go home now while I'm with them, I can't wear this and I can't do that..
@Alyssa_11 Type A is trying not to be Type B and Type B is trying not to be Type A. You're rejecting all of them because they're trying to give you what you want, when you yourself don't even know what you want. You will never have success in romance until you fix this problem.
I find i am always finding freeloaders, gamers, potheads, married, or sad attached guys who want a little something on the side cos they aren't getting it at home. I mean it is super disturbing.
I rather be alone than be with a cheater, dishonest guy.
The potheads oh my god the potheads. I used to not mind, weed isn't bad and the guys I used to be interested in who'd smoke were pretty nice people. But then everytime I met, talked to, or seen a pothead that's literally their personality. "What do you like to do?" "Uh, chill and smoke weed?" WHAT. With that as well I don't date non binaries, genderfuilds and all of those related. They get kind of annoying and I hate feeling afraid of accidently offending them. Trans people I will date though.
Thankfully I’ve never been approached by a trans so i didn't have to have that awkward convo. But i have been approached by pushy lesbians. And yea all lot of potheads just wanna talk about weed. Its annoying. Theyre not bad people but i do feel most are funky or pathetic and just not my type
I encounter a lot of pretty but boring. A lot of women have very little going on upstairs. They tend to be rather dry conversation lists and do not seem to believe that they need to add anything to our relationships except their sex appeal. I also encounter a lot of women who seem to trust their friends opinions on things implicitly. I have lost a number of relationship opportunities based upon women's girlfriends not liking me. I'm never too sure about what I do to upset the girlfriends.
I would think that finding a Lonewolf is easier if you're dating guys than if you are dating girls. I don't know very many women who think super independently that way. My impression is that a lot of women trust their friends more than guys do.
I was pretty laid back in my younger dating days, but I did keep running across girls who were former, what's a good non offensive word for sluts? basically they'd sleep around with like 50 or 100 guys then say, they wished they had found me earlier... wanted to wait until marriage with me now that they are done having all that fun they are ready to settle down.
Right they are done having fun so they picked me to settle down and take care of them. I just came across as a stable good guy, that they didn't think could be a bad boy.
Then when I was 30 and dating again after my divorce from my ex, I had tons of women coming out wanting a stable man to take care of them. I even had one on a date ask me, if we got married if she could use my money to pay her bills and stuff.
When i ask a guy to wait for sex, he's waiting leas than my exes. But still waiting the least amount. I've only had 2 sex partners with no intensions of surpassing 3
I mentioned before how I read lots of reddit AITA posts, and the amount posts I see about people bring relationships that are abusive, manipulative and how they're Gaslight, really makes me worried. Worst part is that such narcissists and abusive people are so good at hiding that side until you're in deep with them so leaving becomes hard. I'm really scared of being trapped in relationship like that so that makes me feel being single is better.
Just yesterday I read one where a 20 year old girl was stuck in an abusive relationship and she wanted help to get our, her 30 year old sister said she'll help her move out. She waits for the boyfriend to leave for work and her sister shows up to pick her up. But when they reach the sister's house, the boyfriend is waiting there. The sis not only told him, she literally held the OP down do that the boyfriend could restrain her and take her away. Her sisters justification was that OP can't just run away from tough things in life. OP was saved cause a neighbour in her boyfriend's building caught him trying to force her into the apartment. Like that's scary as heck!
BUT THERE R FEW TURN OFFS •I DON'T LIKE GIRLS WHO R RUDE TO OUTHERS MOSTLY POOR PEOPLE OR PEOPLE SERVING UNDER US.. •I DON'T LIKE TOO MUCH OF DRAMA ( LITTLE IS UNDERSTANDABLE BUT... ALWAYS AND TOO MUCH OF IT IS NOOOO) •I HATE GIRLS WHO TREAT THER PARENTS OR ANY ELDERLY BAD.. IT PISSES ME OFF 😒😒 •YES I TOO DONT LIKE TATTOOS... •I PREFER IF SHE DOES NOT SMOKE OR DRINK OR DOES NOT DO ANY DRUGS... •I AM SCARED IF DOGS AND NOT FAN OF CATS OR ANY OUTHER ANIMALS.. SO I PREFER SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T KEEP PETS WITH THEM... ITS IF SHE LOVES PETS... BUT NOPE WE R NOT GOING RO HAVE ONE...
That's all i guess... I can't think of more things... But If i remember more i will add them 🤭🤭
I have sooo many embarrassing moments dur to that...
I scream soooo loudly and start running around and hiding behind people...
when I see stray dogs... i end up getting sooo scared and hiding behind strangers and end up doing so many embarrassing things when I end up facing dogs..
Thats too cute. I do the exact same Thing. Maybe over the weekend i’ll share some stories with you. I dont like talking about it close to nighttime cause i’ll have nightmares. And rn im at work so rather not talk about it atm. I’ll wait tomthe weekend
When I did go out... I would make sure everyone got piss drunk at the clubs or house parties.. at you age experience whatever is thrown your way... I realized a long time ago we all want that perfect person etc... it's not always like that but good luck :)
Omg the cheaters. The married men! They make me want to stay single. I've been hit on by married men so much, I feel like marriage doesn't stop the dogs! Staying away and staying single!
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