Is it wrong for a girl to have a height preference? I mean, most guys don't want to date a single mom or fat girls? (Page 2)
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You can like what you like, just don't bitch about the outcomes when what you think you want, doesn't happen to come in the package you demand it does. While you are young and pretty, you can be picky, as you age and your options dry out, then you will either have to lower your standards or die alone.
You just happen to be reaching prime age in a very bitter and divided society and a lot of men are tapping out and opting for being alone. So the pool is shrinking before your very eyes. And don't take the amount of men who are willing to sleep with you as a sign of success. Sleeping with staying with are 2 very different things.
There is no right or wrong in preferences. However, there is an underlying problem in considering height. Height either you have it or you don't. It's not like being fat, if you are fat you can lose weight (for example in the last 5 months I have lost 11kg / 24.25lbs) without moving, in lockdown. Same with your behavior, you determine it. Height is not.
If you want to have a man at least 6'1 "tall, know that in the US, 11% of men are in that height range, if you want him to be 6'2" 5.9% of men are at least 6'2 "tall. I am 6'2 "in a country (Italy) where males as tall as me are 3%.
If you want to make a comparison with height in women, you should neither use parameters of pure weight, nor behavioral parameters. The breast size parameter must be used. A 6'1 "tall man is equivalent to a thin woman with a natural DD cup.
A general height preference like "must be taller than me" is normal. Having a specific requirement like 6'1" is very stupid because thats highly selective. You just eliminated 99% of men, including 6'0" men who also are millionaires who have good looks. Which i dont think women really want to do if they think about it.
Also. Height is not comparable to being a single mom or fat, both of those the women have chose to be. A man doesn't choose his height. Thats why its superficial to be so picky about height but not about weight.
It's not "wrong", but it's often unrealistic what most women say they want, which is mind blowing to me! Something we have no control over that is actually a "deal breaker" for some women. And, what a lot of women believe to be true about height (ie "better genes") isn't true, but so many women actually believe it to be. The only thing "better" is the chances of babies having the height gene only is better, that's it. And who really cares about that? I mean, it's ridiculous to me. But whatever, to each their own lol. I have a height preference for women also, however it's just that, a preference, never a deal breaker. What's really important is the type of person she is, not her height.
I think women place too much emphasis on height. Have your preferences, idc, but I hate the girls who whine they can't find the perfect man but then ignore sexy, successful dudes who are 5'5"-5'8" because they want someone who towers over them.
Yeah, you can have your preferences. I just think people put too much into this one.
I'm 6'3 and I find the rude way people speak on men's height is pretty unfair and uncalled for.
I have no qualms with dating a taller, or shorter woman, I've dated skinny girls and bigger girls and am currently seeing a mother.
I think the difference lies in preference and the way you act on it. Saying "I don't find that attractive, but I'm not going to make a deal of it" and saying "lol, I'm screenshotting this and sending it to all my friends" are very different
Yeah. Smells like entitlement (in a bad way) to me.
Guys tend to be naturally taller than girls, so that preference makes sense.
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/OneHeadTaller
You can have a preference about height, weight, hair color, tattoos or any other physical characteristics you want.
But just because you prefer something doesn't mean you'll get it or that it even exists. If you insist on a particular physical trait & not having it is a deal-breaker you may not date very much.
It's not really wrong. After all the heart wants what the heart wants It's not controllable.
Now it makes for a strong prejudice considering many short dudes are amazing people but it doesn't entitle them to attention unless they actually show off their character.
Not wrong by any means, but you really limit your dating options. because not even 15% of men in the U. S. are 6' tall. To go with that, genetics control something like height. Things like having kids or weight can actually be monitored and controlled.
Ok so, preferences are ok. I don't have many, but I get some people do. SO, just like some guys only wanna date blonde girls or girls w big boobs/ass etc. some girls wanna date only tall guys. And that's completely ok. But look at the 2nd pic u sent. Have u ever heard a guy say that the girls w small boob shouldn't exist/be aborted/ smth similar? Like, it's ok not wanting to date a short guy or having any other preference, but wishing death and stuff is not.
Nah it's not wrong. But just so you are aware, I know a gentleman who dated a single mom mainly because her tubes were tied. She was skinny at first but then sort became a fat girl... but he kept hitting it because of the tied up tubes. And also because, according to him, she had a snapping gyro :)
Two things:
First, height isn't a choice but being a single mom and being overweight are largely choices. Unless that woman is a single mom by being widowed then she made the choice to get impregnated by a guy she wasn't married to. Big difference from being short by virtue of genetics.
Second, lots of guys are willing to compromise on their preferences. Some guys will say they want one thing but will date a girl who's the opposite just because she's available.
It’s not long. Just like many men find a low waist-to-hip ratio attractive, many women find height attractive. It is difficult to stop having preferences like these, which are hard-wired into people by evolution. However, if a person is too selective, he or she can end up alone.
Preferences are fine, but it's sort of a bad example to compare height vs being a mom or overweight. Being a mom or overweight are choices you made or things you can control. You legit have 0 control over your height.
Also okay to turn someone down, but not so much shit talking to them because they don't adhere to your preferences. Just being a bully at that point lol.
I guess it's fine to have a preference, but everything in reason, right? Think about it like this; if you have a height preference of over 6'4, you are effectively refusing to date over 90% of the male population. Guys basically don't have preferences that exclusive. For the most part, guys just want the woman they are dating to be healthy, which really isn't a very high bar to set.
Being a single parent or being fat are choices. Or rather the result of choices, being short isn't.
sometimes it's the consequence of medication and problems like PCOS.
@GirlyGal20 which is treatable.
not really as far as I know
@GirlyGal20 well you have no one to blame for that one but yourself.
www.mayoclinic.org/.../drc-20353443
I'm talking about preference and preference only. Not the cause, nor the cure.
Treatable =\= curable. Although a simple hysterectomy will prevent all symptoms. And yes, not treating it is a choice.
Oh, I disagree
They take it ALL out - just, emotionally abusing (calling out penis size, blaming men, getting them hooked and promising love to just vanish etc).
Some simy spread STDs.
Regarding your (or anyone else's) preference - it is not wrong to look for what you desire. If you cannot get it, to insist or to threaten or to bully - is abusive (no kne inherentky owes you fulfillment of your desires).
"never go out and shoot people"
Adding that last bit in kinda had a sentence structure tourrettes vibe to it, did someone actually shoot up a school because no one would bang them? (I don't watch/read the news, or have cable/sat tv).
Anyway there is a huge difference between sticking to preferences and being a troll, so while yes, it's fine to have height preferences, if you don't want people to complain so badly, then maybe not be an ass about it?
Personally? Honestly? This is what I think: you can have a height preference unless he's more than 4 inches taller than you. If you're a midget -- that was not an insult against little people; just a friendly dig at short girls -- then you don't get to demand a guy over 6 feet tall. Because that's hypocritical.
Most people will support other people having standards, as long as they aren't hypocrites.