Is it bad that I haven't had my first kiss?

Question

So I'm currently 16 years old but I haven't had my first kiss.  With what age did you have your first kiss?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

No it's not bad is really kind of good because after your first kiss will be sex and after sex your whole life will change because now all the sudden you're going to think you're mature and that you are queen bee and that you know everything and it really doesn't work that way guys do the same thing I said take your time don't be in a hurry be a kid as long as possible. Because the moment you start taking on adult rolls it and trying to be that person or act like that person that's what everything starts and that's when you have to start becoming an adult and you're going to stop and go what happened why do I have to do this because you stepped into that role I think it's cool that you're 16 and you haven't kissed anyone I wish I would have been that strong so I look at you as a role model for girls sorry to put you there but all young girls in your role model because they're not getting them at home most of the time I think you should be proud of yourself for being the strong

joaoalves993 · Accepted Answer

That should happen when it feels right. Don't pressure yourself in something you don't feel like to. Emotional and sexual topics shouldn't be played with. Mine was with 16 but some friends of mine did it way older into his 20. It's going to happen sooner or later probably faster than you expect. And no is't not bad. Take your time and don't compare yourself to anybody. You are unique and have your own desires and times. If you take a look back when you are 30's would you feel happy if you did it wit someone who didn't really like just only to do it? Or would you rather remember it to be with someone you like, felt attracted and if it last you loved.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

First kiss at age 8, second kiss at age 16.

90sVibe · Answer

Not at all girl! I know you probably hate hearing this but you're still so young and have a plenty of time ahead of you to ease into the physically stages of attraction and romance. Don't compare yourself to peers around you if you want to be successful in the areas of your life, look to those who you see are successful and making good and wise decisions with their life. Don't let anyone pressure or intimidate you into something you're not ready for or feel uncomfortable with too, let passion go with the flow in your life instead of forcing yourself into it.
I'm 25 amd still haven't had my "first kiss" and stuff like that and I'm happy with myself and my decisions regarding romance because I went the flow and didn't pressure myself or let others influence my decisions with my body and comfort zones.
Take it easy and don't worry about stuff like that right now in your life, you're going through a lot of changes at this stage of development and I understand how hard it can be, but know that trying to be like everyone else and forcing something to happen won't bring the happiness and joy you're seeking. Be careful and safe out there girl 😊

sadstrawberry · Answer

15 with my neighbour I had crush on who was 35 unmarried years old. I loved it when he used to hug me. I could feel my breasts squeeze his cheast and everytime we met ( almost daily ) he used to hug me tighter and tighter. And one day when I was blushing like hell, he kissed me so hard. He sucked both my lips and tongue kissed me ( eww I felt like vomit 🤮 ) haha. I even puked. But after that kiss, i clould still feel his kiss on both my lips and my lips sort of fluffed hahaha. After that. I went to his home just to say hi and all and then he took my to washroom ( coz his parents were home) and he pressed both my boobs with his hands awwwwwwwhhhhhh what a feeling ( my boobs were still small and growing as I was 15) and I used to get so mad and I kept letting him press my breasts and then I started going to his place almost every day , we did not kiss.. we just hugged tightly and he used to press my both breasts with his hands. Today I'm not a virgin anymore rather I love sex but it all starts with what you feel in your boobs and even before that comes the kiss haha.

SnowyOwl · Answer

Of course not. We are all different, we all have different journeys.
"the perfect timing" is also different for everyone
Its normal that you are thinking about this since you probably like someone.
But dont worry "the right time" will come naturally, even if its not with your current crush.
I had dozens of crushes before my first kiss. And my first was at 19. I have no regrets. We're all pretty immature in our teens (even at 19), so I think its better to not date so much when you are too young. There's plenty of time for dating in your 20s and even later

Nik1hil · Answer

I am 24 and still I haven't had my first kiss..
Relax girl. It's better to be an empty canvas than be a messed up painting.

Step back.. All these kids having sex and kiss and being cool around you. Will become numb and mentally damaged and emotionally broken by age 22-24 . But if you did rush into relationships you will still be mentally sane and very positive person and at that age with no Ex you will be a rare jewel that men will want to marry..

Anon621 · Answer

In all honesty it's not that bad you shouldn't feel bad about it. I personally didn't have my first kiss until I was 18 years old. I want to ask you a question that you may consider in thought: what's the rush for you to have your first kiss? Do you want to have your first kiss so you can experience what it is like or do you value trying to save that first kiss for the person you think you will spend the rest of your life with? If I can give one piece of advice from when I was younger: don't take relationships too seriously and just have fun but of course be careful. There's no need in my opinion to rush kissing or touching someone right away if anything I would actually recommend trying to have a relationship with someone without touch or kissing so you can experience a different form of love and you can have a better idea of which form of love you want to pursue.

CuriousBoy2 · Answer

I had my first kiss at 7 or 8. But that was not an intended kiss. My older girl neighbor just forced me into it. You know what it's like to be forced by a girl. I just couldn't resist it. So I don't count that. Figuratively, I haven't had my first kiss. I don't really feel bad about it. It's a 50-50. Now I'm 16. Waiting to be 18. Don't really want my parents to be responsible if I do something wrong 'cause I'm still underage you know. So, no, I don't feel bad about it. I won't give you crap, but do what you wanna do. I just don't feel like kissing now. If you feel like kissing someone, get on with it, if you trust him/her.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

My first kiss was at age 6, I didn't agree to it though, she ambushed me and I had no idea how to react so I acted mean, I both regret that (because her feelings got hurt), and don't (because she shouldn't have done that).

My first willingly accepted kiss was at age 22, it was also an ambush, but a welcomed one, probably partly do to me rejecting the ten or so other girls in between who did the same thing (with the same mean response), and wanting myself to change.

The age 22 one was my first girlfriend, and she was 2 years older than me, and didn't last very long as a girlfriend because she cheated.

Sometimes I wonder if any of the inbetweens would have lasted as a perminent, but oh well.

Jazquee · Answer

Wow... honey dont grow up thinking intimate relations make or break you. Live your life and enjoy who you are and when the right person and moment comes it will be all the more special. No its not bad you haven't had a first kiss. Its rare and relieving to know not all youth is sex focussed. xo

Bella_Iris · Answer

Don't even worry about not having your first kiss yet... I didn't have my first kiss until I was 18. You are so young... you have your whole life ahead of you! I would rather wait for it to just happen rather than stressing over not having it. It's not a race at all. :) Don't rush it.

RawIronhide · Answer

My first kiss was actually kindergarten but that was a pitty peck. I consider my fist to be at 10 with my first "girlfriend" lasted a couple months. But then I didn't kiss anyone again up untill 2 weeks ago and I'm almost 25. Don't feel bad about these things, there's no right or wrong just live your life and I'm sure unless your grotesquely hideous (probably still even then) it'll happen! Keep ur chin up and if it feels right go for it.

The_Maphio · Answer

Don't toss away your first time for the sake of appearing cool to your friends. You'll give it when it's time. No matter how long you need to wait still. Or not, your choice really.
When others gave their first kiss should be of no importance to you, since occasions in life, and love goals vary from person to person. It's no race.

Anonymous · Answer

I was in my 20’s. My first kiss was awkward. I know guys who didn’t date until mid 20’s, and, while rare, it’s fine. As a friend, I do want good things to happen for them, and so I’m curious if I hear they had a date, I want to know if it went well (some details (though not too personal, and not too many)).

It might be... rare, but in my world, it’s not out of the realm of possibility. Finding out some teen who is 16 and hasn’t kissed anyone - No big deal. I know it seems unusual by today’s standards, maybe... but back in the day, I wasn’t even allowed to date until 16.

Don’t worry about the timing - I’m sure it will happen without “forcing it” and I’m sure it’ll be great if you really like them. It’s all good.

IndieScent · Answer

Everyone experiences these things in their own time, don't feel like there's some kind of life script you have to live by where certain things happen at certain ages. When you're ready then go for it and do it in whatever way feels comfortable to you.

nonratracereality · Answer

Neither bad nor good. We're all on our own individual selected path in which our upbringing rearing, and fortifying by our guardians with love, attention and respect will yield intelligence maturity and responsibility. When the time is right for you. You will know and it will be the right time. We all run by the clock but we all have our own individual time schedule independent of others. You're fine. Enjoy life and don't let statistics or policy dictate what's best for you.

2018life · Answer

... pls don't judge... but...3? ehehe

i was in preschool and you know how there's always that one snotty kid in preschool? Well, it was winter, and i liked THAT dude... so uh we were "dancing" around and then we kissed... in front of my neighbor's kid... ugh he would not stop teasing me about it until i had my next crush lol

in fact he still teases me about it but oh well

next kiss was eleven

Leavesbound · Answer

I was six years old. It was weird but I liked it. I didn't get my next one until I was around 10. I liked that one more. I am not typical. A lot of people don't get their first kiss until they are adults. A friend of mine never kissed anyone until they were in their thirties. Don't worry too much about it. I'm sure it will happen soon.

oper8erx · Answer

No. I was 17 before I kissed a girl. I know this is difficult, however try not to obsess about it. It will happen and these things usually happen when you aren't looking for them happen. Take care of yourself and love yourself. Everything else will fall into place.

BUNroaster · Answer

Never had mine. Kinda was and am a bit embarrassed by my family honestly. They are the most closed off, yet smart fun loving and caring. But closed off there's just always been a heavy but lowkey disconnection between me n them and I want to separate myself from that as much as possible before I get out there. So no kissing, sex, whatever whenever. Won't matter.

MarkRet · Answer

It's not a problem. I guess I was around 18 when I had my first kiss, and it just spontaneously happened. It's not like I was angling for it, or anything.

serious · Answer

You are only 16!. Come on. I have never had my first kiss and I don't regret it, I never wish to have it either. Its okay you have your whole life ahead of you.

magiusX26 · Answer

no its not a bad thing. your still very young considering average human lifesoan is between 80 and 100 years now, at 16 your barely past the 1/8th mark. though it really still would not be a bad thing, i would be a little more concerned if you were in your 30s or later and same question. worrying about thus at 16 is something like worrying about driving your 1st car when your 3 or 4.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

As a girl that would be very easy for you. As a guy its a bit harder. I had my first kiss at 21 and it wasn't even from love

SphynxUK · Answer

19. Waited until I found the right person, not just any drunken idiot from parties with my friends.

NorthAfrican · Answer

Why would it be bad? Kissing someone is not on itself an accomplishment.  I'm 25 and never kissed.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

No I don't think it's bad you haven't had your first kiss yet I mean who cares. I was 13 when I had my first kiss. Don't feel bad about not having yours yet. Doesn't mean you're less than any one else.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

I was in my 20s. No, its not bad, in fact I would say your a bit to young. Don't rush things, just let them happen and you will be fine.

tata1993 · Answer

I had my first kiss when I was 25. Every person has different experiences and no experience is better than the other

melanieeeB · Answer

That's totally fine! You should have your first time for everything, when you feel it's for you the right well timing kinda

iceland1 · Answer

My first kiss was when I was 16 and it's not bad. You are taking things slow and it's perfectly alright.

na2398 · Answer

Ain't bad at all. I'm 22 and haven't had my first kiss or even a peck. :) Don't let it bother you. You should crave unconditional love, benevolence, altruism, compassion and respect in a partner. :) :)

Coulis · Answer

No. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't be in a rush. You'll thank me later.

Kayla45 · Answer

Considering you are likely under 18 years old, I think that's pretty normal.

Anonymous · Answer

how is that a bad thing? you're being a bit over dramatic. before i read your age, i was thinking maybe they're like 40 (which isn't bad either). but 16? come on... had mine at 23. feel better?

Shiver · Answer

It's fine to not have had your first kiss at 16. I had mine at 13, but the first that actually meant something was at 17. Don't worry about it.

emilym12345 · Answer

I was 14, a little bit younger but it was like magic... Be glad you haven't slept around or have a disease.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I still hadn't had mine lol you have plenty of time but ok if you feel like have it with a person you feel comfortable and better if you are nearing 18.

samael_kmarty · Answer

I am 21, I haven't had kissed anyone yet😅😅. It's not weird at all. So don't think o this stuff

Anonymous · Answer

I had mine at age 21. Like everyone has said, don't rush into it. I always wanted mine to be meaningful and with someone I really liked. And I did. So I don't have any regrets about it.

livelife1018 · Answer

Not at all, my first kiss was at 22. You'll do it when your ready don't let society get to you

Changiis07 · Answer

Oh I didn't have my first kiss until after high school lol I was probably like 20 years old

Nicegirldaqui · Answer

It's not necessary for your survival. Relax, someday it'll happen and you'll not be so worried about it.

GirlyGal20 · Answer

nah don't worry about it, I think I had mine at 18.

Anonymous · Answer

I was almost 19.. nothing bad if it is because you did not get close enough to a guy you like. If there is a guy you like and he likes you back then not kissing would be a shame and kinda bad :D

Miristheiss · Answer

No, it isn't good or bad.  The youth try and grow up too fast anyway today.

mattclark242 · Answer

um never at this point It may be bad for me if I did I never had a girl so. well I had a girl but she would not let me she a special girl. It fine if it dose not happen it be ok or maybe it will in the future.

AdithyaR · Answer

There's no specific time for it. Let it happen when you feel you're ready and you feel you have the right person.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope not at all I didn't and I know plenty of people who didn't either. I had my first kiss when I was 20.

JHNS98 · Answer

I am 22 and still haven't had my first kiss. There you go...

Rok4bakAR · Answer

No.. the early you start romance the early your body ages.  I was almost 20 when I first had a kiss/ girl and etc..

JackofSpades · Answer

I'm 25 and have only ever been kissed my mom when I was a kid. I don't think I'm exactly normal tho.

jahaims · Answer

Nope. And 19. Don't let societal pressure determine what you do. Do what feels good for you and not what you think makes you looks normal to others.

WalkingBassist · Answer

Dont worry about that shit. Do you like someone though? Its difficult to talk about these things. i wouldn't advertise it, but it ain't nothing to be ashamed about.

potatoe111 · Answer

It's not bad that you haven't had your first kiss I had mine at 14 with a guy that was a ass kinda wish I would have waited to have it with someone special but it is your choice so just trust your gut

Hikki101 · Answer

No. It is not. Don't be pressured to. Go at your own pace.

Massageman · Answer

Me? 16. She was as skinny as a toothpick, but her tongue could do things you wouldn't believe.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

First was at 5, we used to play ‘Catchy Kissy’ at school. proper kiss about 9. I would not sweat it, these things just happen

kamalravi25 · Answer

There are people above 40 years old n never kissed anyone.

lonestar_01 · Answer

No. People give things away far too freely now without it even meaning anything. You just carry on with what you're doing

EaterPeter · Answer

Not bad. You are beautiful young girl. Be selective.

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