How early on do you have to tell your partner you're transgender? (Page 2)

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How would you react if your partner didn't tell you they were transgender and how early on in the relationship should a person come out? Obviously I'm cis but I thought this would be an interesting conversation.

The_Maphio · Answer

You better let them know soon that you're touched in the head. Considering the nature of your issue, they'd end up finding out soon anyway.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Certainly before they go to suck on your clit which you no longer have. (You can work that one around to suit which ever way you need it to apply)

RationalMale · Answer

That is something you want to tell a person first or second date and before sexual activity. Waiting until after sex would be akin to rape by deception.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

Before agreeing to date at all.

discobear · Answer

In my opinion? Straight away just to avoid sadness of loosing someone we already got to know. On the other hand... that straight forward approach might close some gates therefore ending the relation between the two before it was born.

Guanfei · Answer

Right at the beginning. If you're on a dating site, put it on your profile. If you meet the person, right when you're interested. It needs to be said immediately.

Backstage_ · Answer

Immediately I would say for sure and there's no matter which sexual orientation my partner has, just I would definitely accept her as being herself however if she was a transfender person.. I support LGBTQ..

Soremain · Answer

I like how you didn't even consider it should be told BEFORE you are partners. Because obviously that's the correct answer.

Kaamraj · Answer

I think I can answer on behalf of most men when I say that the information of one being a "trans-woman" should come before the first date.

Gray-Wisp · Answer

Traps are gay and I'm not a homosexual. So personally, I would be extremely pissed if someone I was trying to date didn't disclose that they were a man.

Fuentes · Answer

I would know you'd have ti be a real dummy to not know ahead of time and no i would never date anyone trans in the first place but there will never be a situation where i don't or did not know I'll always know

Catlover1999 · Answer

As soon as you’ve met them to get it outta the way.

Anonymous · Answer

If you think they will be accepting. Bring up some news stuff to find out their thoughts on it and if you think they'd accept you you can come out safely.

Honesttguy · Answer

To guys it feels like, someone kiss you then say "yeah I have aids by the way" so what do you think?

noob__master · Answer

Before you go out with them. They should know that before they get in any type of relationship with them. It’s evil to not tell them.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Hopefully the second the person is asked out on a date.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

During the first few dates, same point when exes and family issues are discussed.

clampfan101 · Answer

If a trans woman wants to date me, she’s going to have to tell me she is one better she asks me out. Otherwise the relationship will feel like nothing but a lie when I eventually do find out.

Pink2000 · Answer

Immediately. That’s not something someone should keep a secret. Some of us like real men and women.

rjroy3 · Answer

Same time it takes for you to tell them if you have an STD. Before you have sex

jspl90 · Answer

at the latest first date preferrably before the date like straight up in your tinder bio

LonelySoul4 · Answer

If you know you're in this for a relationship, like dates and all, then immediately. This is coming from a transgirl.

Ryfyle · Answer

No matter how many horse piss pills you take, dresses you buy, and make up you wear, A man can always tell. You can straight up smell it and the patterns of male socialization are painfully obvious.

Iwantsis · Answer

I'm not into dating a transgender person. In fact, I believe you are whatever gender you were born into. I would be angry if I spent any amount of time on one (ie, even a 1st date). It's better to be straight up about it right away.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually you don't have to say anything , everybody already knows, but if you really don't think your boyfriend/ partner doesn't know you gotta tell them right away. Like first date.

cth96190 · Answer

Tell them the moment that they show interest in you.

Anonymous · Answer

You should tell your partner immediately. If that was something I didn't learn until later, I'd feel deceived and angry.

Browneye57 · Answer

Upfront. It's about being genuine. You can't be something you're not.

joeldalton · Answer

The first date you should disclose this information.

Brett18 · Answer

Well before the first date. Most of the time you can tell. But being honest and upfront is the way to go, well before even meeting in person.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’d say after 5-6 dates I’d reasonable or once you notice the other person is very interested.

RHK36 · Answer

When you're in the talking phase, way before dating.

Nadim171 · Answer

From the very beginning. It will save you time, many people wouldn't date a trans person so it will even save you time..

Anonymous · Answer

I think right away, or if you two haven't kissed yet.

Anonymous · Answer

They need to know from the outset. Being caught off guard is very jarring. Establish that they’re comfortable with it from the start.

loud_proud_feminine · Answer

I am trans and I tell a guy as soon as we have gotten to know each other that I am trans.

OfDeath · Answer

Obviously before sex would be a helpful time to disclose you might not have the desired genitalia.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

As soon as possible because this is a dealbreaker to me, sorry.

StunningANDbrave · Answer

Before you even start dating. I'd punch them in the face, if they didn't tell me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Please tell them on the first day. It's the only ethical way.

Joshua0213 · Answer

First date, if you don't you break trust and he will leave you.

friendzoned4life · Answer

On the moment you want to start dating someone and ask them.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

"Obviously I'm cis." No, that is not obvious to me.

anylolone · Answer

As early as possible. There's a list of things like this.

Synikal · Answer

Off rip. I don't have anything against someone being trans but I know for sure I want a biologically born woman.

Sarah696 · Answer

Before the first date

Anonymous · Answer

Well, given that everyone is supposed to be announcing their pronouns all the time, shouldn't the answer be "immediately?"

Anonymous · Answer

An immediate warning should be required by Gender Dysphoric's, even if they are in the process of getting normalization treatment.

SlavBoi · Answer

Immediatelly, before first date, before even engaging in conversation probably.

drexel420 · Answer

You want a strong relationship be up front right away hiding anything from each other is not good

Anonymous · Answer

I went on a date and an addams apple popped out. awkward moment and we left immediately. I was not told this was a transexual. I said to a friend what would he do he said "punch her face in". I was shocked he said this.

Anonymous · Answer

Ideally the first date since that's when you get to know each other, definitely before the second date

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Early as possible, things like that should not be delayed!

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Uh... you tell someone BEFORE they're your "partner,"

Asianguy123 · Answer

I think they should tell their partner before they develop their relationship.

meryem20 · Answer

i dont think you should wait longer , maybe 2 or 3rd date.

Alecosun · Answer

Something like that should be from the very start even before 1st date

Nachowedgie · Answer

The moment yous start talking with the intentions of dating

Anonymous · Answer

This application is only for male and females, they didn't say anything about Transgenders!

Anonymous · Answer

First date. Anything else is deception and will end badly.

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