How early on do you have to tell your partner you're transgender? (Page 2)
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Okay, lets flip this concept around. If someone is celebrating pride month, but not telling their partner (s) about the significance of their pride and self esteem in their identity, isn't it more about shame than pride? A partner is identified by the possibility of an existing relationship. Relationships are more about communication than sexual gratification. If you do not care about genuine communication, then all it becomes is a hookup. First identify the value of a relationship, as early as possible. Be the responsible one. Allow them an out and respect their decision, also do not engage with anyone who could not listen or respect your life choices. Finally, any signs of aggression previous to "the conversation" is a sign of their actions toward a conversation so pivotal. Even brash or emotional behavior is a good sign to break off a relationship to protect yourself.
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If you can't tolerate what God decided for you, we shouldn't be dating. It doesn't have to mean war. That's your choice. Alas, woke activists won't settle for agree to disagree. They want all the Finkles to be Swiftian, and as gross about it as Dan Savage.
Well let's see we don't want to frighten them awayi say right away why deceive them let them decide if they want to continue with relationship not fair to wait till feelings are developed and while chatting say oh yeah on transgender pass the salt please, so how was your day, nah not cool you wouldn't want that done to you honesty is always best you know exactly where you are with someone
As soon as possible, if they can just right after you met them. This is not the type of thing you can hide from your partner, sooner or later they will find out. It's not fair to them nor to you, they might not want to be with a transgender person.
If I was dating and if my boyfriend told me that he was transgender, I would break up with him. I would feel deceived and betrayed. I see no problem with being friends or working with someone who is transgender but I wouldn't date one.
Everything important or different in your life should come out early, this is one of those things. If there is a conflict of opinion in this between you and your potential partner, you should get them off the table and not waste each other's time if they don't match.
They don't need pass themselves off from the very start as anything but trans or trap. Bottomline.
The longer they wait, the more difficult and even dangerous they make it on themselves. If they do anything sexual, it could become deadly for them. There is no gray area of having others accept them. And most know this. At least the ones not suicidal.
Should be right away before even dating. While been Trans is a right, People also have the right to sexually not be comfortable with a trans person so therefore it should be brought up right away to make sure if there okay with it or not. No point making anyone uncomfortable and dragging on dates for no reason.
I mean, if they’ve transitioned and are out so to say, I would hope the first date or sometime in the first few weeks. If they’re more in the closet and unsure etc, maybe a few months? I dunno, it would depend more on the person and how much I like them
before you even meet for the first time. nobody wants to waste time. would you want to waste the time of your life with someone intentionally leaving you in the dark about something that you are 100% aware will be a dealbreaker for most people?
just be honest. nobody likes manipulative liars. doesn't matter the sexuality.
I don't see why a trans person would want to risk spending time on someone who didn't respect their identity
I'm pretty sure I wouldn't mind but considering I'm not exactly sure what my sexuality is, I'd like my partner to let me know at the earliest, when we first meet. I'd like to know as an FYI and then wait and see how we match and if I'm attracted to them.
First date.. Because once i found out, it would be over between us.
Im simply not attracted to a man, No matter how badly they mutilated their body to look like a woman.
sooner the better. and if you could do it when you’s are not face to face. some men are quick to anger and I've seen so many stories about transgender women telling their partner and them getting physical. It’s best to be safe about it, sadly.
Before you go on the first date.
Like it or not, some men will react violently if they feel they were tricked into dying a guy.
To maximize your safety and not waste your time with a guy who won't date trans, you say so when asked on the date or before going on that first date.
"Partner?" Do you mean "date?" This should be disclosed before the first date. "You know I'm trans, right?"
Before dating. A person has the right to know before dating the gender of said person. I'd be fine, but if the waited to tell me till we've been together I'm gonna be pissed because that is a major thing to let someone know
I have it right in my dating profile. If I meet someone in person and they ask me out, I tell them right then and there that I'm trans. If that's a deal breaker for them, I want to know right away so I'm not wasting my time.
Good man
That’s a piece of information that should be disclosed right when you meet someone, or at least when a date is proposed. And it should be explained clearly in any online dating profiles.
It should be right away. Usually (at least to me), it's pretty obvious and I can tell anyway just by looking, but voice it anyway. To each their own is how I feel about it in general, however I'm not interested in dating one, regardless of personality, so I would find it deceitful if they didn't tell me immediately. Then I'd wonder what else I don't know.
When you feel safe, realistically. So maybe after a few dates to gauge whether or not the person is trustworthy enough to not react violently. I do, ideally, hope people wouldn't wait until its well into the relationship.
As well, for people saying you need to say it up front, I think in an ideal world that's what people will do. Unfortunately though, even people open to dating transgendered people can be so influenced by stigma that they instantly reject or still feel the need to be abusive. I've had trans friends be open from the beginning only to have some psycho find their socials and find out where they live and stand outside their houses.
The sad truth is that its a dangerous place for trans people, so instead of us cisgender folks saying how they should or shouldn't date, we can offer gentle opinions but also keep our minds open to their experience and provide SUPPORT. Damn.
Probably should have gave that support when they were failed men and damaged lesbians. The only thing you support is big pharma.