Should people disclose if they're transgender?

[Queen_naki5]

Transgenderism has been in the news lately after POTUS Donald Trump passed a law regarding not allowing transgendered men and women into the military. However, this is a more personal situation: Say you were dating a man/woman who wasn't biologically male/female from birth and you're really interested in them, but they don't disclose their situation to you after you've gotten into a relationship with them? Do you feel that it's imperative for someone to disclose something like this?

No arguments and/or name calling. Please let's respect each others opinions and be adults. Its just a question that I'm asking out of curiosity for the publics opinion. Thanks.

My opinion: I personally feel it's only fair to disclose this information, hence the other party doesn't feel threatened by it or have an issue with it, I don't feel it's particularly a bad thing, especially if they aren't interested in having biological children.

Yes, I believe it is only fair

No, I feel that is not anybody's business

[Lancaster4201]

The fact that they are transgender will have to come out eventually, but the question is how soon. If they are going to be a one night stand, it needs to be before you leave the establishment you would be leaving. Don't surprise them at their place or yours. Plus if they are against it they can just get move on to someone else, and if they do freak out it would be safer for the transgender in public. If they are trying to date each other, I would either say after the first few dates or before sex (which ever comes first) or before kissing. I don't have as good of an answer for that one.

There are guys that cannot handle a cock even if by all other visual metrics the person is a girl, but there are guys that do not care about genitalia as long as their partner is visually a woman. I heard about one guy that stabbed his one night stand because she was transgender. I think that it was a horrific over reaction that should never have happened, but the fact that he felt violated is completely understandable if she did not disclose that.

The second that you are bumping uglies or are going to it does become the other person's business at least a little bit.

[ThisDudeHere]

I've asked this kind of question before and got some pretty salty responses. Personally, I do think they should do it.

[Queen_naki5]

Really? Yeah some people are very touchy about this topic. That's why I made sure to put out there that I didn't want any fighting. It's only a question, not a big deal, but people make everything a big deal.

[DeeperMeaning]

Of course a transgender person should inform every romantic interest that they are trans. Otherwise they're forcing heterosexual people to engage in homosexual behaviors and that's a huge violation of another human being.

[WednesdayArtemis]

How are they forcing straight people into doing gay stuff? If a man sleeps with a woman it's not "homosexual behaviour", even if she's trans.

[DeeperMeaning]

@WednesdayArtemis Trans "woman" is a man with an inside out penis.

[WednesdayArtemis]

You do realize not all trans women have penises, right? 😂😂

[DeeperMeaning]

@WednesdayArtemis If a trans "woman" is post-op the doctors slit their penis and fold it inside out. It's still a penis, just a disfigured one.

[RegularTK421]

@DeeperMeaning It's sad people don't understand that.

[Rissyanne]

@WednesdayArtemis not every one sees transgenders like you.

[Anonymous]

I think they should disclose it because depending on the person they are with if they don't it could have dire consequences.

[SamtheDnDgirl]

He never passed a law. And until it goes through the proper channels, Military policy doesn't change.

[SamtheDnDgirl]

About disclosure, It's a mixed bag, it opens up people to danger, but then there is the element of honesty. I think the only people who should know is a person's doctor and a person's lover and that's it.

[Queen_naki5]

Yeah that's true. I should've emphasized on dating.

[SamtheDnDgirl]

Disclosure for anything takes a huge thing of trust.

[DefinitelySane]

They should be honest, but it's important to remember that it can be scary to tell someone that, especially for trans women, since it's fairly common for them to be assaulted or even killed when the man finds out. It can be better for them to wait until they can trust the person they're with.

[DeeperMeaning]

Or they could tell them upfront. Most of the time they're assaulted is when they lie to people about who they are from the beginning and then the person either gains feelings for them or they've already done something sexual. If they were just honest when initially meeting that person it would save everyone involved a lot of trouble.

[DefinitelySane]

They're not lying about who they are, they're just not telling the whole truth.

[DeeperMeaning]

Withholding the truth is the definition of lying.

[DefinitelySane]

No it's not. They're women, and they say they're women. They don't necessarily have to say anything up front, and often don't out of fear, which should be respected.

[DeeperMeaning]

They're lying and no, they're definitely not women. Just because you flip a penis inside out doesn't mean it's still not a penis.

[Queen_naki5]

I agree with @DeeperMeaning all the way. This usually occurs when a person is not upfront. Men don't just go around killing transgender for the hell of it, but not telling the WHOLE truth is not being honest.

[Rissyanne]

Dude they're not a woman. They have a penis. Any straight man would be pissed.

[fsu19]

Please tell me people, what would make you okay with dating someone who is really the opposite sex and they didn't tell you. Yeah, I understand that it's risky but they made that choice to change their body. They're still the same sex as they were when they were born. They should have to disclose this. The reason why they get killed or beat up is because they hide this stuff and disclose it at a later time. That would make anyone angry

[RegularTK421]

They should have to disclose it. Otherwise they are being dishonest and misleading. If you are not a real woman or man, you need to inform a potential partner that you are a transgender.

On a side note, I will never accept transgender people or their "movement."

[pim217]

if dating then yes. its who you are and that should be discussed. as should other major life topics. they will find out anyway and a good relationship doesn't work with secrets

[blondfrog]

I mean its only fair trapping people into a relationship never works. Now I don't like it when people are transgender but what people do is their business and I will tolerate it. If getting a sex change operation could actually mean they could genetically alter your gender biology then by all means I support.

[Teenage_Elmo]

I personally don't care about someone being trans, Ill love you just the same but I don't feel they should have to disclose unless they are going to get intimate or if the other person wants kids.

[Intraluminal]

In the context of having a potentially sexual relationship, yes, they should disclose.

[Anonymous]

They should to someone they are dating

But there's no need to disclose it to an employer

[Kuraj]

This kind of information including your sexual orientation should be stated right in your dating profile.

[bloodmountain1990]

If they're interested in dating me, I'd prefer to know.

I have nothing against transgender people, I just wouldn't date one.

[Anonymous]

if you dont disclose this information. couldnt you agrue you were raped. by the trans person. you conseted with a woman.
and if you think about it they lied and tricked you becuz they knew if they told you. you wouldn't be with them

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Of course. I'll probably kill them in a rage of anger if I was deceived like that.

[ThisDudeHere]

And yet again you prove that you're nowhere near the good Christian you claim to be.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@ThisDudeHere: Dude I'm human. You think I'm super human or something. I don't know about you, but if I kiss or marry who I think is a woman and they tell me that they are transgender. Any straight proud man in a moment of anger can end up doing something stupid and irrational.

Maybe, you will be cool knowing you tongue kiss a man and being deceived by him no big deal, but with me that grabage isn't going fly.

[Queen_naki5]

Killing is wrong though. People have done worst things in history. I could understand you hating them, maybe even beating them up, but not killing them. Why risk spending your entire life in prison over a liar?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I said in a moment of rage. Moses murdered someone in the Bible when He saw abused taken place and Moses was a good man. Sometimes we as humans can do things in the heat of moment when we lose our cool.

How can a man decieve a man into thinking he is a woman. Smh. If a person wants to be gay or a tranny so be, but don't go around deceiving others. That's just really wrong and a vile thing to do.

[ThisDudeHere]

Is your masculinity that fragile that you'd murder a man for kissing you?

[Rissyanne]

Hell yes they should tell them

[CT_CD]

Yes, I believe it is only fair

[Anonymous]

No. It can put them in danger.

[Queen_naki5]

How? So lie to get your way? It's not fair to the other party. It'll put them in danger if they've been lying all this time and the other person finds out.

[Anonymous]

It's nobody's business.

[Rissyanne]

No straight man wants to date a tranny with a penis.

[Opinion Owner]

@Rissyanne As things progress while dating, then it is natural, but no one should be forced to certify their sexuality in the beginning. We also have people who are on the child sexual predator registry who go out to bars and date all of the time. Maybe they should wear a t-shirt that says "WARNING: I'm a child molester" Maybe, guys should wear shirts that say "I'm a tit man," or "I'm a leg man"... or "I'm into golden showers."..."I'm into S & M." That's ridiculous. Do we all need to have ID cards or something?

[Rissyanne]

Dude when I was dating I got to know somebody before I even went out with them. I ask important questions.

[Opinion Owner]

It's intelligent to ask questions, but nobody has to say up front... "By the way, I'm a tranny!"... or anything else. If you suspect, then you ask. I know I would ask! If they don't want to answer or bullshit you, then you keep walkin'... simple!

[disgustingweebtrash]

Yeah