What are some dating and relationship words of wisdom that have stuck with you all these years?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. When someone is courting you, this is as good as it gets.

2. She may be a hot looking babe but there's a guy not too far away who got tired of putting up with her shit.

3. You don't really know a girl until you've had a few arguments and you see whether she throws things, calls you names, trashes you to your friends, or just waits to cool off and then talks things out.

4. Never let your girlfriend see you sitting on the throne.

5. If you send her flowers, send them to her at work. You will score most of your points when she has those flowers on her desk and is telling the other ladies, "Oh girls! Look what my man sent me!"

6. She really does want a dessert and it kills her to say "no thanks" to that Triple Death By Nuclear Chocolate concoction on the menu. Just tell her that you'd like a dessert but you don't want a whole one so ask her if she'd like to share a dessert. She'll jump on that like a chicken on a June bug. Let her order the Mega-Chocolate Death thing and eat two-thirds of it and you have scored major points.

7. Some women need a considerable amount of arousal to have their first orgasm, but then they are like the pump that has been primed. The next orgasm will happen much easier, so give her a lot of foreplay and what happens afterwards will be much more fun.

8. Don't ask her if she has a vibrator because she may not want to admit it. Just ask her to pull it out so you can use it on her and she'll grab it real quick.

9. NEVER tell your family or friends about the arguments and disagreements unless you are absolutely convinced that it is over, dead as dead can be, and your split is imminent. As soon as you tell others, they will start disliking her and then, when you reconcile. . . they'll still hate her, and your life will be much more difficult.

10. Before you start to yell at her about why she can't put the cheese back in the same place in the refrigerator, think about how much shit she tolerates from you.

What are some dating and relationship words of wisdom that have stuck with you all these years?

DiegoO · Accepted Answer

#1. Old school dating is by far the best option.
#2. Online dating will always be deceiving and emotionally unsatisfying.
#3. Unreasonable jealousy is the first sign of an unhealthy relationship.
#4. If your partner isn't showing sexual interest, it can mean:
A) She/he is sexually inexperienced.
B) She/he is sexually experienced, but s control freak that wants you crawling to her/him.
C) She/he suffers from depression.
D) Has a physical condition that unable her/him, to enjoy a sexual experience.
E) All of them.

*Eather way everything reduce to the impact it has over your mental health. Never comform to someone, or something that endanger your mental health.5) Chill, a breakup is not the end of the world. Life goes on. Oh my days, life goes on! 🥳6) Date at your pace, otherwise you'll head to nothing, or a disaster.7) Appearance is only a mask.8) Practice self-care. Let it not be for dating, but for your own self apreceation. You'll attract more people than others. Possibly, potential dates, partners.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Based on my own bad luck and experiences:

Don't date someone out of desperation or loneliness! Or settle for someone because you assume no one else wants you.
If a guy (or girl) says they "just want to be friends," or "aren't ready to date you right now," believe them. Don't go trying to change their minds or prove why they should be with you. If they wanted you, that wouldn't be necessary.
Contrary to the old saying, just because someone owns a pet (ie: dog or cat) doesn't mean they're a good person. Or responsible and mature enough to be in a relationship. You think someone with a dog is more "attractive" because they've got a soft side? You can still be an ass that's an animal lover.
If someone really likes you, they make time for you. I'm taking about the ones that are too busy text you, check in, or go days or weeks without talking to you... yet they claim they like you. No. Don't fall for that trap. That's called stringing you along.
If something feels off about your partner or relationship, it probably is. Listen to your gut, and talk to your partner! Which takes me to my next point-
If you're not happy about something in the relationship, SAY IT. Don't assume your partner is a mind reader and can just tell what's bothering you. If you don't say it, they won't know.
It's better to be alone and single, than in a relationship with someone that doesn't make you happy.

Yes, most of this is common sense, but some of y'all still need to hear it again for emphasis until it sticks in your little heads.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Don't expect more out of a relationship than what you're willing to put in...
Don't let what "others" think matter more than what your partner thinks...
Don't expect someone to accept your flaws without also accepting theirs...
Don't argue over the small things, laugh about them instead...

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I heard a guy say real lovers will disagree with you but they will not disrespect you by raising their voice towards you or being rude to you. Also I heard somebody say nobody will respect you if you do not respect yourself. And I heard somebody else say you respect who you are.

tiamat5 · Answer

1. the more you sleep around, the more it'll harm your next relationship.
2. there is no "love" at first sight, only "lust" at first sight.
3. if you can't be exclusive, you shouldn't be in a relationship.
4 . I'm taken, not dead!! (looking is fine, fantasying is ok, but touching is forbidden!!)
5. your spose comes before your children. they will leave the house one day and then you'll either be together still or you'll be alone!
6. a large or major decision takes 2 yeses, but only 1 no!!!
7. don't talk bad about your partner to ANYONE else. they only hear the bad stuff you tell them, not the good stuff your partner does. So they are rooting for your relationship to fail!!
8. Your family isn't always right. Unless your partner is ruining your life, side with them over your family. (also see rule #7)
9. ABSOLUTE HONESTY is the ONY way... *except for things like surprises
10. Men are simple creatures and women need to understand this. if you want to know what we are thinking, just ask, most of it is dumb, and sometimes it REALLY is "Nothing". we can space out like experts. Also, if we are given food, sleep, sex, and entertainment, we are happy people!!
11. If you drain your man's balls before he leaves out, you won't have to worry about him looking around (well, almost all men, there are some jackasses out there). think of it this way: he can't play basketball if his balls are flat...

there are more, but I can't think of them right now...

Comesaveme · Answer

Never make big drastic changes to your life based on your relationship. I traveled across the world to be with my partner, a few months later he left me for someone else and now I’m stuck in another country away from home unable to go back because of border closure. I’m lonely and have lost all hope.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

1. Never invest feelings and time into someone that wouldn’t do the same, they’ll never change.

2. No one can change anyone, you can only control your actions and change yourself.

3. love is not staying with someone to work things out, love is not easy but you shouldn’t have to try that hard.

4. Don’t wait for someone to treat you a certain way, demand that from day one and if they don’t treat you the way you deserve walk away.

5. No words make it acceptable to get physically hurt in a relationship.

HiveBee · Answer

Dont date goth girls. They are mentally ill. Sorry to the goths lol. I lived that alternative life and was in that whole world my entire life. A goth or alt chick was what I thought was ththe perfect match for me.

They all nuts. Depressed. Self harm. Drugs and alcohol. Negativity everywhere they go. Uhg.

Still wish I could date a goth girl but a mentally healthy one which is probably very rare lol.

NathanDavis · Answer

my first crush in middle-school gave me a lot of "wisdom" and it's something I've always been grateful, those long talks we had were of great help, but there's two things that defined how I would see and how I would be later in life...

first was "true love is about two people actually in love, and not a one sided infatuation" and to me that has been key in my life, along with the other thing she made me understand "if you don't really know me for how I truly am then you're idealizing me, and that's not being in love with me but someone you made up in your mind"

both of these are things that I never forget and I always keep in mind when I approach relationships, at least the kind of relationships I get into, I really think it has saved me from heartbreaks, nasty breakups, disappointment or "wasting time" in a relationship that wasn't worth.

Anon621 · Answer

I had a friend who I looked up to back in the day and she told me to not let anybody touch me since I didn't like physical touch. I kept those words but I didn't apply them too drastically I still let people touch me but if someone gets too touchy then I let them know how I feel about communicating love with physical touch since I personally rank low for physical touch when communicating love but if they just tap my shoulder or my back or grab my sleeve for a little bit to get my attention I don't mind that much.

Browneye57 · Answer

Browneye's relationship hard-truths...

• You cannot negotiate attraction and desire. It is either there or it's not.
• Love can't start till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation.
• Any woman can and will fuck any guy they want, any time, any place. Just ask them!
• Once a woman loses the vag-tingles, or if they never had them - they are NEVER coming back. A woman doesn't go from 'no' to 'I got the hots for you', EVER. It's the way their brain is wired.
• If your woman doesn't think you're the most important thing in her life, and absolutely adores you, then cut her loose and find one that does. It's just never gonna get there.
• If a woman wants to get with a man she'll break all the rules to do it. If she doesn't, she'll make up a new rule every day why she can't.
• It is ALWAYS and ALL about the FEELZ.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Be straight up true Be yourself Communicate before you fornicate And clean up any unwanted baggage before you start dating or begin a new relationship ✌️

have_a_good_day · Answer

Don't go to sleep angry at each other. Rather kill them

MCheetah · Answer

I am not sure I'd call it wise, but a woman, about nine years ago now, once told me, "Not being as tall or what women physically tend to look for the most in men is like a shallowness filter." Ehhh... 😐

ChiTown33 · Answer

My greatest bit of advice came from a woman ironically. She said " all women have a bit of crazy in them.
So it's kind of a wait to see the crazy side if she doesn't show it right away. And then when she does, how potentially crazy CAN she get? I mean basically it's Risk vs. Reward some women are great women but you always want to make sure the good in them exceeds the crazy.

pleaseloveme · Answer

-Dont mold yourself to what you think they will like.
- Don't pretend to like things just because they do
- Dont assume they have bad intentions
-If they say they dont like you, dont try to convince them
- Dont lie
- Try not to be jealous
- Before saying something reflect if it would be hypocritical if the genders were reversed

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

. if it hurts to love them it's not ture love
. don't ever drop your standards and values for someone else
. there's someone out there for everyone
. the little things count. don't date someone and expect to change them into who you want them to be instead find a person who you don't need to change.. If they let you down once they'll let you down again.. no means no. Find your best friend and be with that person forever

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

You have two ears and one mouth.
Let you ears do what they are good at.

Trust & respect are hard to earn but easily lost.

relationships are built upon trust and respect, if you are going to or likely to affect either one by your actions then, stop or finish the relationship.

A cuddle and ‘I love you’ should be given without being asked for or expected.

Siren777 · Answer

Never go to bed angry or sad. F the living life out of eachother and love back into eachother. Lol oh and don't raise your voice when you're mad, so things can always be said in a respectful manner. Everything will be resolved in a peaceful manner.

FreyaRed · Answer

If a relationship is too important for you, it will end up surely in a disaster. It's always a Tango of both, if someone doesn't really like to dance with you anymore, go away and don't look back.

blank_expression · Answer

Dating…”it is a dangerous endeavor” Relationship…”life hangs in the balance of life vs. disaster” gun on the table syndrome

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

I never heard part from one or two . You just not your time yet and sometimes you have to through bad frogs to get find rifht one for you. Even know my bad experience with dating and relationships so far.

AgentRED · Answer

Nice guys finish last. Plain and simple.  I don’t know, women seem Allergic to any guy who treats them like human beings from all I’ve seen so far.

es20490446e · Answer

Dirty room, dirty pussy.

Which means that if a person acts in such way in certain area of their life, most likely they do the same in the rest.

For example if they lie at something, most likely they are liars. Or if they have conflicting relationships with their family, most likely they generally have that kind of relationship with other people.

Jxrdyn_13 · Answer

If they aren't trying and fighting for you, then dont waste your time

exitseven · Answer

My father used to say when you first start going out with a girl, check out her teeth. If her teeth are bad it means she does not take good care of herself. If she doesn't take care of herself, she won't take care of you either.

Knighted2170 · Answer

Know yourself, then be yourself.
Know what you looking for in a partner.
Know what type of relationship you want.

Saves a lot of time and heartache for everyone. Solves a lot of problems before they even start.

grega239 · Answer

None. Never heard any advice on how to go about dating or whatever.  I guess I was told that being chivalrous and a gentleman is what women like. Turns out it was all a lie

Citizenkirk · Answer

Be polite, compliment her in her appearance,  be yourself, always listen and pay attention when she says something to you.

melanieeeB · Answer

Well  1. put yourself and your needs, standards and morals first and don't bend them for someone else  2. date to enjoy the journey.. whatever happens, happens

The_Maphio · Answer

I want a woman to make me feel at ease and to not bitch day in, day out.  It's only common courtesy to not do the same to her.  Seems to have worked well, these last 16 years.

pjf1958 · Answer

If you cannot enter a new relationship with an aura of self respect, then you must have the courage to admit it. It will become the first litmus test you both will encounter.

Anonymous · Answer

My nana was very wise and she passed on her wisdom to all the grandkids

Nobody buys a cow when they get the milk for free. Then she would glare at my cousin La Verne
Always wear clean underwear and then she would say that means you should always wear underwear in the first place.
Always Remember that Bitches be Trippin.
and
Don't trust whitey

Anonymous · Answer

The absolute worst reason for starting a relationship is because you are lonely! By far, this is the best advice I ever received!!!

thathonestman · Answer

Always be on the same page with the important things such as where you will live, family, children, when you'll get married or if it's just simply a fling. If you are not on the same page, that is the number 1 element that will ruin your life.

Marhaban-1 · Answer

Time flies so don't just let it pass by All that glows ain't always gold Don't look out for money looks and power. It's not until you fall that you fly.

Anonymous · Answer

You are two souls becoming one. Let him live his life while you live yours, but still come together as one.

FlowerSeeds · Answer

You cannot force someone to like you.

GhostKnight666 · Answer

Never show too much interest and dependency on the other person until you are 110% sure that person will be with you till each other's death. That can be weaponized against you heavily.

Askme45 · Answer

Communication…. Always communicate with your other half consistently and truthfully. There will be ups and downs but communicating about it and being honest will help the relationship grow to the best it can be.

hellacray · Answer

Lol are you trying to harvest GAG for advice so you can sell it to your clients?

LivingExample · Answer

Don’t waste your time dating someone you Wouldn’t marry!

Anonymous · Answer

Keep on eye on the best friend they can be your worst enemy

Enochian · Answer

Keep your expectations low. That way you don’t get hurt

MannMitAntworten · Answer

“Stay single...” and, “Never get married...” both shared by married individuals.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Communication and common sense will take you a long way.

friendzoned4life · Answer

I found out that the dutch phrase : Vrouwen? , je kan beter kippen houden. Women?, you can better have chickens Is very true.

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy you have to be either hot or have money for getting or sustaining a relationship. She might say she don't consider money as a problem but will most likely leave you when you are struggling and she has options

Nerdvana · Answer

"Never trust a big butt and smile" - Bel Biv Devoe

Wiredone · Answer

Don't expect anything and you will never be disappointed

purplepoppy · Answer

If he owns bees he's a keeper.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Don’t date crazy or addicts You can’t fix broken people Don’t move fast

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Love is a trap, when we see it we see only it's light and not it's shadows

Asianguy123 · Answer

I thought of respect and love but these white guys are really bad. I think they only think of fucking and done

jimmy2 · Answer

Never forget why you are with her. Alway love and forgive her, yourself you mot perfect. You both need each other and your children need you both

bamesjond0069 · Answer

can't make a ho a housewife.

Anonymous · Answer

(as a male) Never ever get married  marriage only benefits women.

BUNroaster · Answer

If she's worth doing she's worth doing right

Anonymous · Answer

Never get back your ex. You will only remember why you dumped them

hhadeshatesme · Answer

happiness over history

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Never use chunk style peanut butter as a lube!!

SpaceNinja04 · Answer

Simple and easy, Listen.

Goatmeal · Answer

you snooze you looze the cooze

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