I had sex with some else? How do I fix this?

[Anonymous]

I had sex with someone else while I was dating someone. The sex meant nothing and it was a moment of weakness. The girl and I have been dating for 3 months and I was ready to make it official. I have apologize. The sex was terrible and not worth it. I did it cause she hit me up late night and I was a little drunk but I dont think what I did was a big deal to just walk away from 3 months of dating.

I told the girl Im seeing and she said she can't move past this and no longer wants to see me.

I told her thats not what I want. I want to be with her and I realize that now.

What can I do to fix this?

[Miristheiss]

Nothing. You cannot do anything. Sex is a very special and unique act that differs from everything else in life. The amount of intimacy, feelings, connection, revealing of ones private self, intense, personal sensations, access to private parts of our bodies no one else is allowed access to.

You can't just say "it meant nothing" You don't get to decide that for another person. To them it may mean everything. If cheating is a hard deal breaker someone and it sounds like it may be for this person you are talking about then there is no taking that back. They are done with you and that is that.

[Caliguy88]

I’d try to rebuild the friendship. Maybe not date but go out for dinner etc. She’s gotta get comfortable again. And I wouldn’t talk about it much either. For me I’d never want to hear about it again. But that’s me and I’d probably feel the same way she does.

[forthright]

Betrayal isn't exactly a surface-level wound. And if they do get over it, it wouldn't primarily be because of anything the untrustworthy person did. It would be because the victim has changed. So, for the time being, I think the best thing you can do is to authentically apologize (which you've said you've done) & leave her be to cope.

Because so long as you're around, she will never fully feel relaxed. Jordan Peterson said it best when he said that humans are like chimps full of snakes. And the only way we don't run away from each other screaming is if we simplify each other. Just enough to where we feel like we understand & know each other, even though that's never the case. We don't even fully know or understand ourselves, let alone others.

[humpbackjack]

You realize that you want just her now but she realizes that now she just doesn’t want you. You fucked up so give her space

[Luopio27]

All you can do is tell the truth and say you are sorry for cheating. When you are done, you may lose your partner but its better not to live in the webs of lies.

[MountAverage]

All you can do is give her time and space. She'll either forgive you and be able to move on with you, or she won't.

[K-I-S-S]

Yeah, you are shitty quality woman.

How to fix this situations, you don't.
Healthy would be to avoid it, can't just fix everything.

And get a therapist to sort your personal issues out.

[Browneye57]

Urine. As in urine idiot.
If you're a girl you need a guy, otherwise there's just nothing there. And you don't kiss and tell, EVER. Telling someone else was just beyond dumb. But then, you don't seem too bright anyway.

[Anonymous]

You don't.

You fucked up and now you live with the choices you made.

[stevie123]

Never tell a girl about a moment of weakness.
They don't take it well.
Try begging and see where that goes.

[Jamie05rhs]

So you're the other girl. Interesting. I told your girlfriend to dump you.

[slatyb]

Why do you have to fix it? You don't have to tell anyone.

[Georgepithyou]

Women these days literally will rationalize anything just to not take accountability

[jspl90]

soo swap around what if she fucked someone else do you still think its not a big deal

[Anonymous]

Ah, Cheating 101. I even confuse which person is A and B. Nevertheless, its still cheating. Either you lose either one of em or both.

[TheFlak38]

whore alert. as I always say women dont deserve loyalty.

[Fuentes]

Cheating is cheating i hope ur boyfriend leaves you

[Finchie40]

You can’t fix it , you already fucked up

[exitseven]

That ship has sailed I'm afraid.

[Wise4myage]

Confess, you will feel better, sooner or later.

[anylolone]

You probably can't. Almost certainly.

[Luckycharms12]

Ya it's over in afraid