Distant? When can I reach out? Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been officially dating this guy for close to two months and things have been going GREAT. Like, we’ve both made it clear that we like each other a lot and it seems to have promising potential to continue. He actually even introduced me to his parents on Saturday (it was pretty casual, but it went really well 🙂). We made plans for this coming weekend as well.

Anyhoo, we normally talk or at least text every day, but this week has been weird…he’s just seemed more distant (I don’t think I’m imagining it 🤷🏼‍♀️) and I haven’t heard from him in over a day now. That’s a first.
I know he’s busy and I don’t want him to feel like he HAS to check in... And honestly, I don’t expect to have a full conversation every day (our lives aren’t that interesting).. I just want to know he’s okay because it’s so out of the ordinary. (I mean, honestly my insecure side wants to know if I did something wrong an am oblivious to it, but I’m trying not to let my past trauma affect this 😒🙄)

Anyways, at what point can I reach out without seeming clingy or crazy?
Also, is it normal for communication to go up and down as a relationship progresses? At what point am I supposed to take a hint or be concerned that he’s having second thoughts?

(My dating experience is obviously minimal, so this is all in chartered territory for me.)

Updates

+1 y

I sent a text, just saying I was checking to make sure he was alive and whatnot because I usually hear from him at some point. I tried to make it sound super chill, but now I’m afraid I sounded too clingy. Is that clingy? Ugh. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

[Queenzee22]

Though, same applicable to me but the advise is
Try talking it out with him let him know how you feel about it ɗnt make its seems you complaining, make it feel you are concerned about him den watch and sit back to hear his reply.
If he really likes U Nd he meant business he will share a little but of it.
But if he doesn't Nd insist nothing is wrong then just try and keep yourself calm ɗnt b too clingy
Let him no you worried about him but not too much
Show a bit Nd relax the more Nd focus in yourself.😘

[Asker]

Thanks. I’m just so afraid I’m gonna find a way to screw it up. I’ve always gotten dumped and/or ghosted around this point with no explanation. I’m paranoid now. 😕

[Queenzee22]

Ɗnt be dear just be yourself do not complicate things
Relaxs and watch

[Wise4myage]

No one is ever too busy to send a quick text, but send something to him and see how it goes.

[cloudspy]

My advice is don't text him again.

[Asker]

Really? I assume he’ll respond…

[cloudspy]

I'm sure he will respond to you but don't text or call him again. Whenever you feel the urge write what you want to say in a journal or something instead.

[Asker]

Oh, I see! Okay, yeah, I agree. I mean, do you think I shouldn’t have said anything? Like, can I recover from this? Lol
(I’ve been abruptly ghosted by guys I was dating a couple times, so it’s made me so paranoid. I literally don’t know how to act to keep that from happening again 😣)

[cloudspy]

Yes, you can definitely recover. Stay strong with no contact. And if he's going to ghost you he's a prick and you can do better anyway. Guard your heart. 😘

[Asker]

Thanks 😊

[IncognitoBandito]

Checking every few days seems normal

[In_Trance]

Call him