This guy I've been talking to for awhile, things were going really well. It's been awhile since we last talked but I can't help but to think about it from time to time because I miss the conversations we had.
We were long distant and our conversations were going extremely well. We were both excited to have each other in our lives but things changed. I bought a flight to visit and see him for 2 weeks and this was something we've talked about for awhile and were super excited about.
One day, I was going to dinner with the girls and we talked on the phone (Facetimed) as I was getting ready and talked about the things we'd do when I came to visit. Everything was normal and sweet. Then all of the sudden I noticed I was blocked on social media + iPhone. I tried to reach out via email asking if everything was okay - emailing is normal for us because with his job, he can't be on his phone so we'd email while we were both working..
No response. I got completely ghosted with no explanation and it honestly broke my heart. I didn't know what happened, I had no explanation, or let alone a goodbye. It was cruel and I didn't deserve that and I've tried my best to move on but I do still think about it from time to time and just wondered what happened... This guy felt like someone who was so genuine and kind. I felt like we could have honestly fell in love and build something beautiful. I know that it was nothing I did wrong and more of a reflection on him but I won't lie and say it doesn't hurt to think about from time to time..
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I ghosted a girl that I liked cause I couldn’t handle rejection at the time. We would talk about things we could do when she would visit cause we were on opposite coasts. At some point I ended up blocking her number and unfollowing her on social media cause she triggered a painful abandonment wound. Looking back I wish I had handled things differently. She reached out at one point via email but after I responded I didn’t hear from her again. Your situation just reminded me of my own and maybe in a weird way it can provide some solace. I would never do that to anyone ever again considering how it could’ve made her feel and how I’ve felt since then. I think this is why we’re occasionally reminded to choose ourselves. I hope time mends is well.
Your situation sounds pretty similar - we were also on opposite coasts. He did mention how he's had some painful relationships and I did my best to reassure him that I wouldn't intentionally hurt him or anything. I REALLY wanted to make it work with him and I understood how much work and how hard it could be but I always saw the light at the end of the tunnel. I think he let his past trauma hold him back and ended up ghosting. I wish he didn't do that because it was cruel but I was and will never be mad or upset at him. Hurt, sure.
I reached out maybe twice after he blocked me on everything and did let him know that I wasn't upset and that I hope maybe in another life things between us works out.
If he was anything like me past trauma is a real possibility. I think guys typically respond to trauma that way.
So this has only happened twice. First time, he did the same thing but came around 3 days later apologizing that he had an "internal freak out" so past trauma like you said, is a real possibility.
What is the possibility that we could reconnect? I've always felt like he was the one that got away or at least it feels like one of those situations.
When we first talked - I swear everything felt so unreal. Something I haven't felt in awhile when it came to dating.
people are so fake anymore, they dont have the balls or skills to use communication so they just ghost. its absolute load of crap and he is a coward. any human who cares or had a soul would tell you whats going on not just up and poof gone. sure you think about him and the situation you are confused as to what happened and you may never ever find out, but what goes around comes around.