Do women really only want to date the top 20% of men?

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I actually heard about this before and went to look it up & women basically only want the top 20% of men (meaning men who are financially stable, good looking & good physique, height & social skills and confidence) while a large portion of men around 80% are invisible. It's called the 80/20 rule & i gotta say it's kind of discouraging. I've never been that successful with women in dating & reading this, just makes me feel more intimidated. Seems believable but at the same time I'm still uncertain.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Yes; yes this is true. It's called Hypergamy. Often times, the standards are far higher than just the top 20%.

Women DO settle more often than not (that's why you see people of "equal attractiveness" with each other more than the woman with someone out of her league), but they are not happy with those men and are always looking for something "better." I have experience with that myself, but have seen it more through the telling of other men.

Not to mention, even if a woman DOES settle for someone less than an 8 out of 10, that man is still, more than likely, putting in all the work and doing everything in his power to "keep her happy," while she doesn't have to give back anything in return. Other than maybe occasionally giving him sex, but nothing beyond that. It's why so many men are unhappy in relationships nowadays. Women are unhappy too, but that's only when they settle and don't get their 10/10 man they want so badly. And even then, they're usually looking to "do better."

This isn't even getting to how many women out there are now queer ("bi"), polyamorous, or transwomen. Those three alone are dealbreakers for any self-respecting heterosexual guy. You've got to navigate through a minefield of lesbians, adulterers, and trannies before even finding a half-decent woman nowadays. And even IF you make it through that jungle, will only find out that the real women out there only want the most desirable men on the market, but "might be willing to settle for your 5'10 ass who works as a delivery man if you can give your entire paycheck to her."

Not to sound sexist or anything, but this is the hard truth and I won't bite my tongue just because some woman reading this might get "offended" by it. Dating SUCKS for men nowadays who aren't an 8/10 or higher, six feet or taller, or rich.

(I honestly started this message with only the first three sentences...)

Do women really only want to date the top 20% of men?

Yeah I'll keep using these memes because they're funny and sadly accurate.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. So do the work, hit the gym, HARD, and make a shit-ton of dough. You'll gain the confidence you need for the effort, and you'll have all the pussy you can stand. I guarantee it.
You can't win in the game of love if you don't play the game. And you have to be worthy - so do the work.
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. So start acting like it.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I will date any guy that is healthy, intelligent and loving, he doesn’t have to be hot or rich or funny.

Kkaos · Answer

If you go on tinder and you're not at least in the top 20% of guys, sure, you're not going to do nearly as well as someone who is... But go outside. Look at the average couple. Every woman you see isn't getting out of a Mercedes with some A&F model. Far from it.

People regularly fall with someone who happens to come into their life and makes them feel a certain way. That's how it always has been. Swiping through person after person and choosing the best ones like people do on dating apps is not how things normally would have been.

I see plenty of successful and attractive guys who are single and I see plenty of more "average" guys who are in relationships.

So is it true? Maybe in some cases, definitely not in many others. But even if it was true, you're going to write off your entire self and bar yourself from ever being with a woman? I don't man. I think it would be better to keep living your best life and improving yourself regardless and see what happens.

Jake99999 · Answer

BS polls are no way to run your life. One study concluded this…? That does not make it true. It’s just a premise backed by some limited data. Some small sampling of women and them they publish it to get attention. Don’t worry about such statistics. It’s not a fact. Just be yourself and get out there and live your life.

BCA6010 · Answer

Every time "height" gets thrown around on here, it's usually 6ft or taller. That alone narrows it down to about 15% of the male population. Height alone doesn't really go hand in hand with any of the rest, so by the time you factor those in, you're really looking at probably ~7% give or take a couple.

So in summary, I question the validity of your source if they're factoring in height.

forthright · Answer

It's not that they "only" want to date them. It's that those guys will always be their preference. Generally speaking. So, that's why guys like that thrive in this day and age. The internet has made it harder for the ugly, shorter, (etc) guys. But not impossible. Unless the girl is top tier/highly valued. Then it would be almost impossible to get into an authentic relationship that will last.

MzAsh · Answer

There are women who highly prioritize those things, but I’d much rather have a man who is loyal and domesticated rather than some rich, high flatulent playboy who thinks his shit doesn’t stink. It seems like most men thinks that’s the standard and frankly I’m not interested in that.

Robin83 · Answer

It would never have happened if it wasn’t for social media. It’s a mix of entitlement and unrealistic self image. It’s a problem, and fertility rates are dropping fast.

emilym12345 · Answer

Ehhhhh I acted like that I did to a guy I feelings for but he was just trying to play me. These dudes were like the town bums but I still can’t conjure feelings for the top 20 guys.

PoliteSpeaker · Answer

I think a better question is who are you willing to date? Because perhaps your checklist has lead you to believe this

genericname85 · Answer

yeah. but only untill they realize that they can't attract those men. women also have to adjust their standards according to what whom they can attract. just like men.

CasaNorba · Answer

obviously, women are attracted to resources that other women are attracted to and of course its obvious that only 20% of those men are able to have all those resources

Archerer · Answer

I have a question for you, do you only want the top 20% of women? Or are you ok with a fat ugly broke woman with no education?

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

It would be nice to believe that it's true but it's mostly true. Lots of women would settle for less but divorce rate is high and more people are just into casual sex relationships it seems.

KellyKOO · Answer

Have you ever been out in public? Guys of every background *looks , social status , wealth * has a girl. So how would an 80/20 rule be a thing?

es20490446e · Answer

Exactly, independently if they fit that category themselves.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

If that's true, then that's all that needs to be said about these women...

Anonymous · Answer

We won't see women with ugly old deadbeat who beat them if they really wanted to do it

bigchanges · Answer

if you're under 6 foot just become gay retard

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