If women "never" approach or make the first move, then how do lesbians and bi sexual women get together🤔?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Well THIS is a question I never asked myself.

First, I'll say that two women that I wound up in relationships with approached me first. I've had other women hit on me, too. So it's not true that women NEVER make the first move. Also, almost every other girlfriend I ever had gave off signals to me before I asked them out. It's their way of making a move.

But in regards to the point of your question, here's a thought.
Women are good at reading body language. So they are good at picking up signals from each other. They can sense interest before approaching.
Whereas a lot of guys are knuckleheads. They they are bad at reading and sending signals. They need things spelled out. So girls are hesitant to just walk up and hit on them without any indication as to whether or not they may be interested. Rejection sucks.

You also have guys who think any woman who would hit on a guy is a slut. There are a lot of guys out there with some pretty fucked up opinions of the female gender. That makes it even tougher on ladies.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

Awww. Are you hurt because no women are making the move on you?
lmao.
In a lesbian environment, such as a lesbian night club, I think the "rules" are different. They are allowed and encouraged to make the first move.
So you can just go to a lesbian bar! :-)

Sawyerblu · Accepted Answer

I’m straight, but I’ve made the first move many times on guys. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, but you get over it quickly once you realize how many other people there are. Some guys are threatened by a woman making the first move, and others are entirely relieved that they didn’t have to do it. We put so much pressure on guys to HAVE to make the first move as if it hurts them less to get rejected by someone they were attracted to. Anyways, lol, I’ve also been approached by women in public; it was definitely flattering.

I’m assuming that lesbian and bisexual women are used to approaching other women and testing out the waters, and if not, can probably be found on dating apps.

Long story short- ladies, don’t be afraid to make the first move; it doesn’t have to be a huge ordeal either, short and sweet will get the job done. :-)

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

As a woman who is sometimes into other women, women are way less intimidating to approach lol. Especially at gay event but even then, if you make a mistake and the girl is not gay, it's more of a "don't worry bestie everything is fine!" response. If she does like you, it's a lot more mutual and appreciated than with many men.
With men, if they like you back, they are like "Yes I don't have to do any effort anymore bc she likes me anyways. She wants the D". If he doesn't like you back, shit can get awkward really fast. Most of the times, a guy clearly likes you and you ask "do you have romantic feelings for me?" they get SUPER DEFENSIVE and basically call you a stuck up bitch for EVER thinking such a thing (even though sometimes it might actually be true).
Anyways very inclined to explore my bisexual side more.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Wow, have things changed since you were in college! We definitely make the first move. Mostly people don’t ask people out face to face, they use apps. I prefer the old fashioned way of a guy asking me out! Things are definitely different at college. It’s way more of a hookup mentality. A guy literally asked me what dating app I was on? I think he thought that counted as asking me out!

silkjames · Answer

There apps for everything I'm sure everyone linked up 😂 and woman most definitely approaches man and females maybe back in the days it was not like that everything evolves... shit I think I seen ET at club this one time his ass never phoned home he lied he still partying on earth🤣🤣🤣 he kicking it with all species he a dirty dog 😂😂😂 jk!

Anonymous · Answer

Good question

I disagree with the fact that some men say: women never make the first move

Wrong! I have made the first move TWICE and have gotten rejected gently. I even know a few women on G@G who made the first move and they are still together with their partner. I think they have gay bars, and they approach them there? Or they meet on Tinder and start messaging? I don't think it depends on a specific "sex", asking out, I mean. It all comes down to the person.

Anonymous · Answer

The men in this comments section really are something else lol. When I was interested in this guy at work I initiated a lot if conversations with him. I was the one to ask him for his number yet here they are acting as if women never make the first move

Ttrthseker · Answer

Its changing with the passage of time there are many woman approaching men nowadays! I once met a Brazilian and she told me that here women doesn't wait to hit upon guys!
On the other hand if a woman is not approaching, she'll must give signals to be approached
So simply we can apply that rule to homosexuals!

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

It's all scent based. We just secrete pheromones until eventually we get to the part where Farrah moans.

BossThe2nd · Answer

By being butch and acting masculine, something that would turn the average dude right off.
The desired dynamic in heterosexual relationships (by both genders, I should point out) is typically quite unlike that in homosexual ones.

Or maybe not, who the hell knows what the men who wish for women to approach them actually respond to.
I can't imagine a way it wouldn't immediately turn me off personally.

JosyJosy · Answer

A middle man of course. They have a shady looking fellow in a long coat, with a fedora and sunglasses approach the woman they like giving her their contact info on a card.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I appreciate it’s likely bit tongue in cheek. here however it’s fairly common for girls to ask guys out. my current girlfriend asked me, just as well as I had not thought about asking her 😂

Ninaface · Answer

Uh, by approaching them. Lots of women approach men, myself included. I'd have no problem approaching a woman either.

MCheetah · Answer

Women never approach or make the first move *TO GUYS. With lesbians, at least one of them is the "Alpha"/"male." But with straight couples yeah, women almost never make the first move. Why risk the loud public embarrassment and rejection, as a female, if you don't have to?

ohshee · Answer

That's what I'm talkin about. And I'm so curious why they won't let me in their group I like women

loves2learn · Answer

Hmmmmm. Indeed. Which came first? The chicken or the egg? 🤔

Zigzagwigwag · Answer

you would think that a woman would be able to know when another woman is checking her out, so assuming that neither woman is going to make the first move and the chicks are bi, lesbian, etc. would it not be natural to think that they would get together as a result of mutually making a move on each other at the same time

genericname85 · Answer

Cause there's always a butch lesbian that takes the male role XD but seriously speaking, women do approach. Just not as often as men.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

The most brilliant question I have read! Women _always_ make their moves - by eye contact at first, typically, then by where they are in the space/how far from you, the whole mating dance thing

Jessica405 · Answer

i believe it is the same as I was told by a gay male friend at uni. They can tell another girl is gay, or open to be approached, just by the way they appear.

loveslongnails · Answer

Lesbians DO approach each other, otherwise there would be no lesbian couples, duh? LOL

AndrewMG · Answer

I've found as a shy guy when it comes to asking the opposite sex out alcohol is a great leveller lol

Jlegacy · Answer

Many girls have made the move on me. Girls move first sometimes.

zagor · Answer

Who says they don't? I've been approached; I've also been out and about with VGL friends, and they DEFINITELY get approached by women.

JSmuve · Answer

Because women are much more comfortable around each other than they are around men. It's like they're scared of us.

A woman is far more likely to compliment another woman than a man. If you observe public transit, a woman is far more likely to sit next to a woman she doesn't know than a man she doesn't know. So it makes sense that a woman would be more likely to approach and make a first move on another woman than she would a man. It's a comfort thing.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Maybe they find it easier to approach their own gender 😏
Also a relationship between the same gender isen't truly considered a relationship since love and sex are only present between a man and a woman 😌

These people who are homosexuals are just abnormal so i expect anything from them...

For once let's just stop lying and pretending that they are normal cause they simply aren't...

fonduegirl · Answer

Because if I approach another woman, they won't interpret it as a sexual come on.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I honestly have no clue that is such a good question @Brainsbeforebeauty

Anonymous · Answer

"never"? So that's not actually never, right? Cause many women make the first step. Some apps are even designed for women who like to date online and make the first move. Same goes for Lesbians. It all depends on the personality. Some guys can never make the first move but there are still gay couples out there lol
What was the question?

ChiTown33 · Answer

If @311wasaninsidejam was still on I'd have you ask her. Because she thought her and this other woman had something brewing between them and she didn't know whether to approach her or wait for her to approach. I Recommended the most butch approach. I mean the butch is clearly the guy in the relationship right?

M0use · Answer

I think that sometimes they do make the first move or else it would never happen?

Anonymous · Answer

Good point. We'll need to correct that.
STRAIGHT women "never" approach or make the first move :>
I even heard how some women can get so lonely, that they decide to live together with another woman or be in a relationship with one.

t-8900 · Answer

You will always find more familiarity in your own gender. And since women feel safe around other women it makes sense. I think this is one of the reasons women go that route to begin with.

m33lad · Answer

Women have no skills to approach a guy when I was younger and I was way better looking girls with approached me all the time and they were very attractive except their approach was terrible but I guess that’s what being a girl is.

They don’t require any skills

bulletbob555 · Answer

I knew a man once worked as a bar tender all his life. He said he doesn't know what the one woman would wisper in the other ear but he said it must of been pretty powerful. He said while the boyfriend was in the bathroom they come up to a straight girl and they leave before they got back

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe that Women can go out to Clubs/ Bars and get together where they start feeling good from drinking, and one lady kisses her girlfriend ( not lover ) on the lips but their not looked upon as being Bisexual or Lesbian yes it happens

ChiPaPa · Answer

When people say that they don't approach, it's in reference to being with a man. I thought this didn't need to be said as if it were a given. Sure, things do happen spontaneously, but most of the time, one does or both do the courtship.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Those types of women are more “visual” when it comes to physical attraction than straight women are, so they are more inclined than straight women to make the first move.

Azura_88 · Answer

It's just a stereotype. Anyone who doesn't approach first is either shy, afraid of rejection or simply egoistic with superiority complex.

ToriAka · Answer

I think they probably either ask a friend for help, wait until their crush makes the first move, or actually have the guts to make the first move themselves.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Who ever said that women don’t make the first move?

Anonymous · Answer

I'd never approach a guy and give up my power to reject him It's fun rejecting them and then watching them slink away. It makes me feel good knowing I'm wanted but they can't have me I don't know why some women both going up to guys I guess they're not attractive enough for guys to come to them.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

my take is that weather you a bi girl or a bi guy it is just sex every day feel good lets try it sex. The same rules as girl meets guy , guy meets girl guy meets guy and girl meets girl it all starts the same and end as enjoyable sex.

slatyb · Answer

Obviously the premise is incorrect.

spartan55 · Answer

Matchmaking services... 😂 😂

humanearth · Answer

I think one of them have a hidden penis

Massageman · Answer

with a double-ended dildo?

KatherineJ · Answer

Well, I guess one of them has to make the move.

dolemite89 · Answer

they do make moves because they have to in order to make things happen for themselves like guys do, straight women get to be lazy af 🤣

InferiorElegy · Answer

Those are situations where they'd have to approach but heterosexual females won't ever do the approaching because they don't feel they need to.

Anonymous · Answer

With guys. With other women it's different I think and likely they are friends first or meet some way.

Djaay · Answer

And just remember the KIND of men wait for women to ask them out or why can't they ask first for themselfs. Then again... if your the type to ask first... then do it.

Angiee7741 · Answer

This girl I used to go to school with told me she was always attracted to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Have you never seen it? It can be ugly, some do not have game.

BoobMan · Answer

That meet at three-ways with men, silly!

b5fan · Answer

hmmm my money is on the butch lesbian makes the move... The gender roles are still there even if it is 2 males/ 2 females in a relationship.

LogicBomber · Answer

You can’t use how lesbians act towards other females as a comparison of how women act towards men.

PinkPeach · Answer

Because the premise is false.

OddBeMe · Answer

They don’t make the first move toward guys, because of chivalry or some bs.

Grubhub · Answer

Fantastic point. Women are just intimidated by guys. Cowards

anylolone · Answer

Back in my day I had to hit on people for my lesbian/bisexual friends. Nowdays they mostly use grindr/tinder.

EaterPeter · Answer

Come on brains. You know it. Women women doesn't count in above equation.

Caunsos · Answer

They data men that want a 2w1m threesome and then leave him high and dry.

If women "never" approach or make the first move, then how do lesbians and bi sexual women get together🤔?

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All women are either bi or gay but never straight?

If women "never" approach or make the first move, then how do lesbians and bi sexual women get together🤔?

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All women are either bi or gay but never straight?

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