Is going on dating apps good for women?

[Alyssa11]

Or is it a totally bad idea?

I made a profile because well I’m bored, and i kid you not within the first half an hour I got requests from four fuckboys that all my friends are familiar with.

That put me off using the app so I deleted my profile.

Do you think it’s a bad place for women because that’s the vibe I got? Guys just wanting to find someone to have sex with.

[CuriousJC]

Well it depends. Some women prefer talking face-to-face to people and some people prefer using dating apps to enter a can get to know people from there. There are tons of gun-shy Women who have social anxiety on an epic scale. Especially the quiet ones who don't like talking, and prefer to just text the person a conversation happened to me multiple times cuz I'm socially awkward every time I try to approach a girl for the first time I've never seen before my heart starts beating so fast like it's trying to jump out of my chest and run away. Like Eminem said in the song:

Look
If you had
One shot
Or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted
In one moment
Would you capture it
Or just let it slip?
You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime

He was right because love and dating does come once in every lifetime depending on if the woman or man finds you or him attractive.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If your goal is a serious relationship then it's not loading the deck in your favour. If you want casual hookups then it's a cornocopea for any halfway-attractive woman. I've stayed away from dating apps so far because something about them always felt kinda slimey to me. But I might relent and make an account of Bumble or something, since I believe the women initiate conversation on that app, so it's less of a game of "how many girls can I swipe "yes" on before I hit my daily limit"? I'd rather have a few genuine interactions and try to explore the "successful" ones more over an IRL date.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

And fwiw I like your vibe so far from some of your posts on here, so if you need a date then I'd happily act as guinea pig for the "GaG as dating app" concept lol. Thing about dating apps is that you only really see the persona that's presented on their carefully sculpted profile. At least on sites like GaG you get a sense of who someone actually is by the words they string together, and not just a selection of the most instagrammable (eugh.) photos.

[Alyssa11]

Thank you! And I totally understand, one reason I stayed away from apps for so long was because I found it degrading to just summarise myself into a couple of bullet points and some of my best photos... just for guys to judge me... but then I guess I gave in lol.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Yeah I feel that. But I guess, "if you can't beat 'em..." 😅

[Alyssa11]

loool yes

[Xoxocutekitty]

What you have to realize is that while most men are decent human beings, the majority of them in a dating context will still be trash for/to you.

You can go on any number of coffee dates or beer dates and men will show up. and parrot exactly what you are looking for. With online dating, you have to be smart, and really know yourself and your boundaries and actively move those frogs out of the way to find that gentleman prince.

You can say any of the following: (they will think)

I'm looking for companionship (but his sexual needs take priority)

I want something committed (routine sex sounds great)

I want to fall in love (but I'm not in the mental space to work at building a relationship).

I want an independent woman (but I don't want to anticipate her needs after her long day at work).

Dating apps are great! You met people that you're attracted to and it's a big time saver. Just make sure you hold out for the right person.

[Lowiu]

Like yes you will get a lot of guys that just want sex or even just nudes its better to make clear in your profile that you're looking to actually date and use the right app some are more hookup than others

[Wester1967]

You will instantly have the existential crisis of too many choices. And always have outs and side options any time you’re dating. So it will be almost impossible to commit unless you are super disciplined. And if you don’t commit, the wall will come fast and you’ll settle for Pete down the street who you don’t really like as Biff and Tyrone from the apps. Resulting in happy meds, alcoholism, and potential depression. I was a programmer. Most of these programmer Bros just want your eyeballs to sell ad revenue and could care less what happens to you spiritually and in your life. Good Luck my sisters

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's a good idea, dating apps let you find the perfect match (doing that locally is next to impossible).

Why would you stop using a platform just because jerks use it? Jerks are everywhere, if you want to avoid them entirely, you are left with never leaving your house and staying off the internet (ie staying single forever).

If you want to find a guy who fits you, odds are you will have to sift through garbage guys for years to find one. Same is true for a guy looking for a girlfriend.

But the alernative is dealing with that same issue in person, with no block button, only to probably never find a match because of the right guy for you not living in your area.

Whats with this generation and not wanting to put in the work to find the right person?

[Anonymous]

I'm torn because on the one hand, I'd LOVE for more women to use it, but on the other hand, I want to actually give decent advice here and tell you to stay away from it. Some dating apps can be really good if they're based on common interests or they match based on tests or things like that, but most apps are appearance focused and heavily skewed to getting men laid. I've hooked up a lot on apps, but my actual relationships have all started offline when I had to put the work in and get to know and appreciate her.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

It depends on what you are looking for, for hook ups? Yup! For future dating partners? Yeah they are on there too just gotta weed out the horny men.


I understand why women might feel a little discouraged to try but there are some good men on there and I would say just swat the fuckboys and the men you’re not looking for and keep your eye on the prize for the type of guys you want

[Fireguy17]

you might want to go on a better dating site.
Those that charge a fee, the better ones cost more, so that really helps eliminate those looking for a free meal, and those that are looking just to score.
So if you are truly interested in actually finding a partner maybe try those type of sites.

[TonyMetal___86]

The majority of guys are seeking only for sex everywhere and not only on dating apps miss alyssa rapunzel so you have to be careful...

A man who wants love and marriage will seek for it no matter where he is and you will be able to notice that this man ain't like others...

There are girls too on the net who are seeking only for sex but are a minority...

[MrPickles13]

It's app dependent doe the most part ones that are more hook up based are more likely to have fuckboys on it. There are good guys on dating apps but on hook up ones like tinder it's less likely. I did online dating for a while and tbh tinder even the women appear to be interested in hook ups.

[sensible27]

It's all optimised for interactions so it enhances everything real for that particular experience, of course there are people who just wanna make friends too like in real life.. so. This is all obvious

[devilish-cutie]

there are people that that also look for something serious
same like in rl, you just weed out those only looking for sex
as u were on it there were others like you too

[tatianamay]

Tinder and Bumble are most often seen as "hookup" apps. Most guys on there are not looking for a relationship. It is a waste of time. I suggest trying to meet guys IRL

[Jamie05rhs]

Alyssa... There you go again with the extreme overreactions. 🤪 Just block those particular guys. It's not the site's fault that they were on there.

[Alyssa11]

Loool my anxiety always kicking in!

[Jamie05rhs]

Yep!!

[t-8900]

Yep thats what you end up with on those things as a woman. And for guys it's crickets. Dating apps aren't there to help you their there to keep you coming back for more.

[Somegirl408]

tbh its hard to find a guy that won't go for sex, like literally. its just part of masculinity that we have to accept if we r gonna date guys

[TonyMetal___86]

No sex till marriage and i'm a man...

[belle_kai]

Try hinge, it's decent and you are less likely to find people you know. It's aimed towards relationships rather than a fling/one night stand.

[belle_kai]

A friend of mine met her partner there and they are two years in strong, met the parents and in the process of buying a house

Another friend of a friend met her husband on there

[NathanDavis]

it sounds like your test was conclusive enough... but I've never tried any of that myself, so I really don't know how things go with those apps

[TheBigGuy9]

My best friend found his wife on Tinder. Both of them are professionals and they just had a child.


But for the most part, it’s going to be guys looking strictly for a fuck buddy. And just like some women, they can’t even do that well.

[Archerer]

If you want to get laid and go on a lot of dates it is great. If you want to meet someone good, you will eventually, but if you don't want to do the first part in order to obtain the second, then it isn't good.

[Clarke498]

It sure isn't good for guys, so it's gotta be for someone.

[Alyssa11]

Why's it not good for guys?

[Clarke498]

They never get replies unless they're 10s.

[Alyssa11]

Ah right

[normalice]

Probably bumble as it doesn't let anyone talk to you unless you talk to them first.

[SunnySensei]

Yeah Miss I think it is fine as long as you take precautions and check the background of the person who you want to take the relationship further with