I've been seeing this guy for a few months (not dating, just casual). When we first met I told him I wasn't interested in a relationship, I've recently gotten out of an abusive one and I travel for work, and he travels for work and has a young son that stays with him on the weekends. He said that was understandable and assured me there would be no pressure. Every time we see each other, he stays the night (his decision, not mine). He's always very affectionate, caring and attentive. He holds me all night, kisses my neck and shoulders, holds my hand. When he leaves in the morning, he'll stand there and hug me for a very long time, kisses me, hugs me more then leaves. Then I don't hear from him for a week or 2. No calls, texts, nothing until he wants to get together again. I can text him and he always answers me, but he never initiates the communication until he wants to come over. I'm getting very mixed signals, is this casual for him as well? Or is he developing feelings?
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Guys are lousy mind readers. If you tell him you're not interested in a relationship, he's unlikely to invest in you, as that would only set him up for disappointment. Never say one thing when you actually want something different. If you're truly not interested in a relationship, it's irrelevant if he has feelings or not, as long as he is respectful of you. If he does, he'll put forth a good effort to keep them in check. When you want something different, clearly let him know.
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It's hard to say for sure, but he obviously likes you. My guess is that he thinks he isn't getting strong enough signals from you.
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Sounds pretty casual on both ends
talk to him about it
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