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When he is with a group of friends, he has a more familiar and comfortable surrounding with him. He probably thinks that if he screws up, it won't be as bad as it would if you were one on one. The next time you are out with him and a group of friends, try pulling him aside, just the two of you. If he ventures off by himself, go with him. Try this a couple of times and then try to get him out with just you.
Some men take a long time to develop a comfort around women. My pastor just retired last week. He's 66 and, celibacy aside, he still doesn't feel comfortable around women, even women on the parish staff, and he's a big, intimidating guy too. Some men are just late bloomers. I didn't work up the courage to ask a girl out until I was 20 and in college. In that case, you have to let him get comfortable around you. Show interest in him. Ask him about where he's from, the things he likes, his job, etc. Above all, though, be patient.
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If he's shy, he might be worried just because shy people tend to show their true self/act more outgoing when they have their friends around. He might be scared that he's gonna bore you or you guys are gonna have awkward silences/moments. I know because I used that method myself. I think if you just be bold with him and tell him you want to hang out one-on-one because you wanna get to know him better, you should get your point across and maybe it'll ease his mind a little.
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