Each person pays their own way so nobody feels used or obligated. Don't split the bill either because if one person orders $10 worth of stuff and the other gets $30, that isn't fair at all.
I wouldn't pay for a woman until after she paid for me first. Too many of them are just looking for a free meal.
And the ones that say, "whoever asks the other out should pay" are wrong because then they just avoid asking anyone out. It is a typical deceptive response when they just don't want to admit that they expect the other person to pay.
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I'd say that the person who asks someone on a date should pay. I mean, it would be weird of a girl asked a guy on a date and then expected him to pay for it.
But a gentleman would at least offer. Although, he would have dominance issues if he insisted.
I like the lady-gentleman game where the guy treats her as special and she is gracious.
I have a problem with guys who are either too cheap to pay or are afraid that all women want to do is take advantage. Those guys are emotional pygmies.
I also have a major problem with guys who think she owes him something (sex) if he pays for a measly meal.
It can be nice gesture if a girl offers to pay, or go Dutch. But on a first date, it would a red flag if she absolutely insisted. It would seem ungracious, unladylike, insecure, paranoid, or radically feminist.
If two people are dating regularly, it's fair for the girl to pay sometimes.
Apparently as a rule of thumb the man pays for the first date. I would never go on a date however if I did I would split it in half.
Some men have this notion that restaurant bills and hotel bills should always be paid by the man. These men tend to be older men from the gentlemen’s era and were all born before the 1980s.
Now that chivalry is gone and men no longer expect virgin wives and don’t want to court women or work hard to woo women anymore, traditional women seem to just stay single in hopes of prince charming stumbling into her life out of nowhere or low standard men and women just get together and get married.
I believe men who are serial daters are the guys who have come up with the women should pay on dates-I’m sure it gets costly and they have found a lot of women to not be worth it.
If a man ask me to pay on a date that would be the last time he sees me.
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The guy should pay unless it is discussed and different arrangements are made in advance. And a guy paying for a date does NOT obligate a woman to have sex or even just give him a good night kiss. I've never had a woman pay for a date (except for a girlfriend taking me out for my birthday.) And I've had plenty of first dates that never went anywhere, no sex, no making out, no holding hands, nothing. And that's okay.
I think people should pay for themselves unless one has significantly more money than the other.
I don't care. Since I rather expect women to not focus on their career and instead advertise other qualities, and ultimately I am looking for a stay at home wife, my default expectation is I am going to pay. I will probably ask though.
If a girl is not comfortable with me paying I am not forcing her money back into her wallet, obviously. But I will rarely go on a date if I don't already know a woman's life goals and plans at least a bit, so if she wants to be all proud and career oriented, there is a good chance she is not getting a date in the first place. So expecting to pay is a reasonable guess in my case.In the past I've normally paid for most meals or activities, with the woman paying now and then.
But these days it's normally a go Dutch situation, equal rights and all, I've had some girls get the right hump because I think I should pay for them, apparently that kind of thinking is chauvinistic! And there was me just thinking I was being a traditional gentleman. Others expect me to pay for dinner, which is a little offensive at times, I don't mind paying for dinner but it shouldn't just be expected, I'm not expecting them to put out, so why they expect me to pay for dinner is beyond me 🤷🏻♂️
So now, I'll always offer and then we can come to an agreement from there, fed up of getting into confrontations with women over who's responsibility it is to pay the bill, usually we end up splitting it.Anyone, or ideally the person that chooses the venue.
i tend to pay if I chose as it was my idea.
half of a bill could be £70 ($96) or usually more, actually yes it normally more.
We tended to do swap arounds, she chose one I chose one etc, hers may be a lunch rather than a meal out.
i refuse to go to cheap food places, simply because it’s cheap, must have good food or we go where I choose.
first dates are usually different, it should be the person doing the asking and choosing.
or even I don’t know talk about it before hand lolUnless we've agreed on anything else, we each pay for ourselves. It happens that my date offers to pay and that I'll accept, but I don't ask for it or expect it. I have paid on dates too, but usually I can't afford it and even express that when we plan the date, so we can go to venues that are affordable.
I don't know really. I know most women, even feminist ones hate when a man asks to split the bill. I have always been of the mind set that whom ever asks the other out should pay, or at least the bill should be split.
Of course there is the other side of it, when I dated my wife she never paid, she had no job, and was in college, I felt like a shitty person if iahe felt the need to pay.. I think the most she did was put gas in my car, which I never knew about until I was going home.. I'd have refused if I had known or at least tried to pay her back.
Now that we are married and she works a little, I still pay for most things, and she helps out where she can.These days both people.
The reason why men used to always pay for dates was because females never used to be able to work, you all fought for equality but only like equality when it favours you.
You can't and won't pay for your own meal because you still believe a man should, why should he? All these toxic females out there using men for free meals and planning on ghosting the guy afterwards, guys will never know if a female is like that so why should he was his time and hard earned money for trash like that?
If there is a genuine interest in wanting to get to know each other, that should still be there even if you pay for your own meal. If you say you have genuine interest in the guy but if he doesn't pay for the date, you'd lose interest, what you are now saying is you only have interest in him as long as he pays for it.If i was a serious relationship, the girl ain't allowed to pay, she have to know that her man is able to provide for her and feed her...
Especially knowing that after marriage she will become a housewife which means it will be the norm for the husband to pay for everything...
If it's a 1st date i'll pay but if i sense that we aren't getting along with each other and we had to go a second time than i'll let her pay because i'm not ready to waste my money on someone who ain't compatible with me...I personally get a bit awkward when someone who I'm not close with pays for me because I will after that always feel like I owe that person something. First few dates, I'd say split the bill. Later on in a relationship, however you feel like. He can pay sometimes, I can pay on other occasions, or split the bill again.
whenever i date a guy, i always want to pay for myself, and he can pay for himself. why? so that i don't have a debt or give him high hopes so that he can be with me and his money is not wasted.
except he really want offers himself or my husband in the future lolI think it should be the person doing the asking, which is probably unfair because men are still expected to most of the asking. I was always prepared to go dutch however, and never ordered anything extravagant. Certainly nothing I wouldn't be happy paying for on my own.
If I ask a girl out I am expecting to pay. On the first day.
But I hate this culture where women wait on guys to ask, every time and will not take the initiative themselves. Its 2021 ladies!!!
Its costly as hell to date, after the 3rd or 4th date they should be splitting it, and or asking tge guys out.I would pay but it makes it feel appreciated if the woman offers to chip in even though I'll probably decline the offer!
I work on the principal that it should never be assumed one person will be paying even if you haven't got any money to hand now offer to settle up later (that's often going to get a don't worry about it response).The one doing the asking should also be the one doing the paying. We live in a capitalist society and this is just simple capitalism. You shouldn't ask for an interaction you cannot (or aren't willing to) pay for. This remains true even into marriage... If I ask my wife out on a date, then I expect to (and am completely capable of) pay for the date. When my wife asks me out on a date, then she pays and I already know she is completely capable of doing so.
Having a more traditional perspective regarding dating, I do always anticipate covering expenses while getting to know someone. Although, I typically date women within my career field so it has been my experience they allow the "kind" gesture once or twice especially the first or second date. While opting to share in any costs moving forward.
I say for a first date, whoever asked the other one on the date should pay. Or at the very least, offer to pay. If there's a second date, I would hope by that point they would be able to have a non-awkward conversation about who's paying the 2nd time.
Probably the guy. At least for the first couple dates. Once you are in a relationship then I think it's okay for the girl to pay every once in a while. And no it isn't expected that you need to have sex cause the guy paid. But you always have to be wary of the girls that only go out with you for the free lunch/activity.
If it's not discussed beforehand, the guy should pay. It really should be discussed before the date, or early in the date, who pays for what, and costs are very often shared.
When I was single, after my divorce, usually the first date was dinner, and we usually shared the bill 50-50.Each person should have to bring their previous tax returns and last three pay stubs. The meal should then be divided according to the percentage each person makes...😐...😐...😐. . . . . I mean the woman because fair is fair. We did it for years, now it's their turn.
And speaking of equality, why are we not calling it a womenstrual period and womenopause? I'm offended and my feelings are hurt. I need to speak to a manager immediately!
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