I am a complete loser with women. Am I a lost cause?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20 to a 16 year old girl (also a virgin), but she largely let me have sex with her out of pity I feel. She didn't want anything to do with me after that weekend. I haven't touched a woman since.

I had an online thing with this one girl for several months, and she rejected me upon meeting me in person. I was also rejected recently by this other girl who was 17 after talking for a solid month online.

Women don't notice me at all. I am short at 5'6". Yes, I am overweight, but even if I lost weight, I still have to deal with being really short.

Really, I want a woman without a romantic past where we can be each other's first loves. Meaning, she has never had a first love or a boyfriend before. I like younger women, so maybe I still have a chance.

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[IMuser]

First lose the weight and get fit.
I am kind of a situation like you (ugly, virgin, unmotivated and self hating). After thinking and reading a lot, the only possible way out is exercise. (If possible, sports like boxing because they also teach you self defense stuff)

Get fit, cover this basic fundamental and after you have achieved it, ask the question again

[Buntyp]

You need to get rid of that self-pitying attitude and focus on changing the things that can be changed. Get some exercise and lose the notion that your height is an obstacle to happiness.

Al Pacino is your height and it hasn't stopped him from doing anything, and I wouldn't refuse to go out with him, even though he's quite old now, because he has charm and confidence that comes from not letting anything deter him from what he wants to do.

The only one who can say if you're a lost cause is you!

[Arie12]

It's all about building confidence and becoming good at communicating. For girls, at least me, I can find someone not particularly attractive physically at first but then really grow to like them because of personality. The best way to build your personality is by going out and practicing - approach people at the bar, etc. (without any expectations on what the outcome should be) and just chat to them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. Listen, it's about finding the right woman for you. This often then not is difficult and takes patience..

No one can have any women because not every woman is going to like that man. It's about finding the right fit, and not just looking for easy women.

[RolandCuthbert]

I think you have posted over a dozen threads basically saying the same thing.

You are only a loser if you want to be. You know or at least should know what you need to do to find happiness.

[RolandCuthbert]

@love_conquers_all this dude is a pedophile? How is he still walking around in society?

[RolandCuthbert]

This is why this GaG forum is so bad. Because they allow these unverified trolls. We have pedophiles, conspiracy theorists, racists, all manner of freaks here. If they couldn't post anonymously from unverified accounts, this would not happen. This freak was here to meet children!

[loves2learn]

Yes. You and your delusions are the cause. End of story.

[RolandCuthbert]

@love_conquers_all Wow, he is going to jail? Good job! No wonder the trolls here stay anonymous.

[RearEntryGuy]

Is it you that keep asking similar question like this every week?

I don't think the poll and answers will change much from the previous polls.

[RedStiletto88]

I think u need more confidence. If you come across as desperate we can tell.

[Mister_Hangry]

First, don't take ANY advice from ANY woman. These bitches are just misleading you.

[Redstang88]

As long as you keep up this attitude yes