Girls, would you give a guy a chance if he goes on 4 dates with you but never makes a move or shows interest? (Page 2)
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If I really like him, I would still date him. But, maybe I'll ask if he's interested because idf not we're just wasting our time.
I wouldn’t have given him a second date if he didn’t show any interest in me in the first date.
How would he need to show interest?
By getting to know my interests and actually showing that he enjoys being with me and not just the thought of having sex with me.
I always ask about interests etc and never bring up sex or intimacy and I always get told they just want to be friends.
I'd not even go on a second date if he did not show interest in me, which is easy, ask about my life and get to know me. I can wait longer than 4 dates to get physically close.
What if he’s shy because he likes you?
well, he need to get to know me before he can like me?
but who initiated the 3 other dates? If it was him, then that counts as move no? Otherwise why would he want to see the girl the other 3 times?
Nope. Those four dates are his chances. Impress me or I walk
How would he need to impress?
That's something he'd have to figure out. If I set out certain things to do, people would just do that instead of genuinely impressing me on their own.
Playing games?
Huh?
Yea, if I was single I would love that. I’d feel like he was trying to get to know me and enjoyed my company even if it didn’t involve anything physical.
Why would I be dating someone who doesn't even show interest?
Yes, inviting me on the dates is the move. Maybe he’s thinking about it without rushing.
I would continue dating for a couple more times if he hasn’t made a move yet but if he’s not showing interest then I’m out asap
Why are you out?
If he’s not showing any interest then I don’t wanna waste my time. I can understand him not making a move if he’s shy or something but if he’s not even showing any interest in me then why should I bother?
What if he is very shy and socially awkward but finds you attractive?
I don’t mind if he’s shy or socially awkward at all, but I would at least need verbal reassurance that he’s interested in me lol
If he continues to ask you on dates, is that sufficient verbal assurance?
Not really, I’d assume he’s just asking me out to “hang out” and not as a date lol You can just casually tell her “I like you/I’m interested in you as more than a friend”. Do you tell the girl that you’re going out with that it’s a date? Or do just go “hey u wanna go out and blablabla?”
No I say it’s a date every time. But after the 4th one, she said to me she really enjoys spending time with me but she thinks more as friends. Then asked me how I’m feeling about it
Did you tell her how you feel about her?
I said to her I’d find it too difficult to be friends with her as I find her attractive so I’ll leave it up to her if she wants to meet or just part ways. And she said probably better not to meet then as it could get confusing.
She also said she’s afraid of covid again so bad timing too
Ah okay, it probably means that she's interested in you only as a friend and it has nothing to do with you not making a move on her
I wonder why I always get told this though. I must be doing something wrong.
For me personally if a guy doesn’t make a move (even just a little one) by the end of the third/fourth date then I just stop expecting it from him and shift to a friendship vibe immediately. But I don't know if it’s the same thing with your girl, did she attempt to make any moves on you?
No she didn’t. Or at least I don’t thinks she did. Why do you shift to a friendship vibe?
Is a brief hug a move?
Bc sometimes the spark is just not there and you only realize it after going on dates with them for a couple of times. A hug is just a friendly move in my book, it’s just something that you also do with a friend
Can the spark die if the guy doesn’t make a move?
Yeah definitely especially in the early stages. It’s different once we’re in an actual relationship
Can it be rekindled once it dies?
Of course, but then again it depends on the person.
If he didn’t at least show that he was interested, I wouldn’t have accepted a date beyond the third one. That wouldn’t have been fair to him, or me.