I'm a nice person and considered interesting but no guy wants anything with me what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[PrettyPriya]

Perhaps you are looking in the wrong places. Have you ever thought about a local activity group or club that interests you?

You may find people that are likeminded and share similar views and activities. You might find a guy there that is more compatible with you.

[Asker]

I've had a lot of rejections and they preferred me as a friend

[PrettyPriya]

Right, which is why I made the suggestion that I did. Have you tried something like that?

[Asker]

One guy kept moaning I was being no matter what I did

[PrettyPriya]

That is why maybe find a local club or group where you will find people interested in the same things you are.

[jennifer_bloom]

If your lonely and can’t find a guy - start chasing an ugly one, you’ll be married in 3 months.

[TheBigGuy9]

Let me ask you this. Do you mean no hot guy with his shit together doesn’t want you or just any man in general?
I’m Sensing this just isn’t just any guy thing. I bet you have a long list of things you want in a man, but you always let other things supersede them?

[CallmeTheKnight]

All I can say is that you have to have a personality, be able to reciprocate, and initiate.
Being nice and interesting doesn't actually make you interesting enough to date at all. You also have to make an effort if you do find someone that catches your interest

[Samvinsie]

First think you should do is reconsider a places where you meet guys at all.. it matters. Also stop thinking that you do something wrong because you don’t.. well unless you re toxic girl haha. So just be yourself meet people in the right places based on what do you want to have with a guy : one night stand /serious relationships/ friendship.


Good luck love 🤗

[ohshee]

Send me A DM please let me ask you baby 5 to 7 questions and then I can tell you exactly what to do

[Asker]

Just ask on here

[ohshee]

Sorry that wasn't meant to say baby it was meant to say maybe

[ohshee]

My notifications don't work so I don't know when you send their if you send and it seems like when I talk on here I get to ask one or two questions but then I can never find the person again until maybe about a week later

[Avicenna]

I highly doubt that you can't get a guy. What sort of guy are you looking for?

[Asker]

They sort of just go to someone

[Ironic_Method]

Nice and interesting should at worst give you plenty of friends, yeah? What's stopping you from pursuing more?

[MrtoddsWildRide]

Be patient. He's out there looking for you right now.

[Honesttguy]

Yeah just wait 30more years and he will knock on door saying your time up game over

[pizzalovershouse]

Learn to be the person you like being learn new activities skills

[TheAfrikan]

Do you and be YOU for the right guy who feels your traits would t hesitate to approach. No need to force attraction simply be you. I might come too.

[LegendaryIcon]

right

and then when you meet a guy who wants you, you don't want him

give me a break

[2021biguy]

If you try to meet more guys, you might find one that likes you.

[In_Trance]

you need to let go of that declaration and focus on whatever it is you're doing or not doing

[LZPanzer]

What do you consider being"interesting"?

[Asker]

Just based of from my friends they say I'm interesting because I travelled alone, worked abroad and having interesting hobbies

[LZPanzer]

I was hoping you would state specifics.

[Asker]

I worked in marketing in Canada for 2 years, I make themes cakes as a side hustle but nobody takes me on

[LZPanzer]

Hmm not bad but it seems a little niche to me. Perhaps expanding the cooking aspect to cuisine beyond cakes ab dessert.

[LZPanzer]

To explain, a lot of guys want someone that can support them. Cooking definitely falls into this catagory, the problem with desserts are you can't enjoy them everyday. A nice home cooked meal can be.

[Asker]

Yes I can cook meals other than cakes

[LZPanzer]

I'm sure you can, if you're able to sell food you have cooking skills. I just think emphasizing non desserts will work better.

[Asker]

Tbh if you not good looking it's a struggle I'm starting to realise why I'm single my face is terrible

[LZPanzer]

Well as I don't know what you look like. 57 kg is a good weight so your body is likely fine barring major illness. The face is usually one of the first things guys look at.
Conclusion, I doubt it's your physical appearance.
I think it's probably behavioral or you are targeting the wrong guys

[LZPanzer]

At what stage would you say men are walking away from you?

What sounds closest?

I don't know any men, none in my vicinity.
Men won't say hi to me.
Men talk to me but nothing beyond casual conversation.
Men aren't asking me out, and won't accept my asking them out.
I'm dating men but they leave after dating a couple times.
I'm dating men but they aren't going far enough.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe the guys are just the Jerry ones

[Asker]

Men talk to me but nothing beyond casual

[LZPanzer]

Ok
As said before I don't think the problem is appearance. That could play a role hear but given the little info have I'm going to ignore that possibility.

Two things that come to mid are approachability and body language.

First approachability.
When you go out say to a bar do you go alone ore in a group of friends. Going in a group can intimidate guys. To remedy this go out alone or make it a point to separate from your group.

Second body language.
More specifically mixed signals. If your body language does not match you speech it can cause guys confusion. It's better to abort than face a judge or police.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe you’re not that interesting to guys

[Asker]

Yeah maybe maybe don't they never listen to my travelling stories, working abroad or any of my hobbies

[Gwenhwyfar]

Those actually do sound interesting

[Asker]

But yet I hanged out with him and this other girl and she did nothing with her life 🤷‍♀️

[Gwenhwyfar]

Are you pretty?

[Asker]

Not really no. My brother and dad always moan at me when I try to buy nice clothes and tell me I look fine I don't

[Adogdog]

I'm kinda in the same boat LOL

[Honesttguy]

Here's a guy right here text each other and see from there. Look at that guys are all around you.

[Anonymous]

Ask someone out.

Repeat.

[Asker]

They don't want anything with me tho

[Opinion Owner]

Clearly you only read half of what I said.

Repeat. Fail better next time.

You think every guy out there with a wife or a date only ever asked out a handful of girls?

Maybe one or 2 did but for most its a numbers game.

[Throwdownxxx]

How are you meeting these guys?

[Asker]

They approach me

[Throwdownxxx]

Why would they approach you if they don't want anything to do with you? Where are you meeting them?

[Honesttguy]

Most guys dont really do approach thing, cold approach 90% guys dont do thst for sure. So you are not meeting up with enough guys to find one that fits. It really is s numbers game u have to go through 1000 and then say okey they all said fuk off.

[Wise4myage]

Try to be more engaging and making the first move.

[Asker]

I did he turned me down

[Wise4myage]

Then keep trying and dress to impress.

[Asker]

One guy kept moaning I was boring no matter what I did. But then I hanged out with him and this other girl and she did nothing with her life 🤷‍♀️

[Joker_]

Have sex with @Cringe

[Cringe]

Dont

[Joker_]

@Cringe You're right, she's probably Indian

[DWornock]

Lower your standards.

[lycanthrope3]

Why do you think that

[Asker]

I'm just not attractive enough 🤣🤣

[lycanthrope3]

Is is not always about looks, some guys prefer someone they can get along with, besides, guys may think you are better looking than you do

[Anonymous]

Are you in shape?

[Asker]

I'm 5ft7 56kg yes I go to the gym

[Opinion Owner]

It could simply be that many men refuse to approach women anymore.
Maybe you have to make the first move.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Asker]

29 now

[Opinion Owner]

How do you expect guys to reach you?