What are your thoughts on this post?

[Justneedtokno]

I feel as if if a guy is strong enough a woman is able to Let her guard down and be vulnerable with him. Without having to worry about him being able to handle her emotions

[ChrisMaster69]

I often struggle when posts like this come up, as the concept of masculine and feminine are often so much bullshit, look great as sound bites or in various papers but in the real world people bounce around various aspects of everything.

First off what is masculine energy?
how would you tell?

is it when a combat medic takes control of a situation, tells people what to do, how to save lives and they all listen to HER?

Is it when a girl is passionate about a subject and dominates a mixed crowd with her passion and enthusiam?

Is it when a girl stands up for herself and faces down a bully?

[SynthKobra]

TBH I agree with this. A lot of masculine women will soften up around a guy they respect. I've seen it throughout my life. If she thinks you're a little bitch then you're going to be met with the swiftness. But if she has seen you first hand handle conflict, situations, and project that masculine energy then she will soften up. Unless she has severe issues in being feminine.

[MCheetah]

No. There are too ways to read this quote. The first one is that masculine men want masculine women. If so, then that is a giant crock of bullsh*t and contradictory, as well. No masculine confident man wants a bitchy woman to walk all over him and be the true "Alpha" of the household. WTF would want that? You're implying masculine men should be attracted to masculine traits, i. e, homosexuals.

The OTHER way to read this quote is basically, that a masculine man will "put a woman in her place." I don't know. That COULD be true. However, speaking as a masculine man (not some "Alpha GigaChad" or anything, but just a masculine man), if a woman has masculine behavior, I just don't waste my time with them. Some men aren't going to "rise to the challenge" to feminize a woman. Women should already be feminine, and if not, then their baggage is not something every man wants to deal with. So I still would disagree with the quote.

You could also imply that masculine men turn women feminine because they "let their guard down and become vulnerable" with him. The problem is, not all masculine women do this. Some just try to out-alpha any man they see as an "alpha male." Peacocking basically, but it's women doing it, and it kinda comes off as pathetic, really. So even with this, I disagree with the quote too. Some women aren't capable of "letting their guard down." Again, too much baggage.

[Sonorous]

Yeah no, I don't agree with it. To me, that quote sounds like:

"Hey lesser men, real men wouldn't do this thing that I don't like. They do this other thing that I do like. 💅"

So my opinion is that, no matter the mans status, he might treat different situations differently, & for different reasons.

For instance, more masculine men might know that they can more easily get women. So in order to not jeopardize their chances further by calling them something they don't agree with, they might just say nothing. And just try to act more masculine than she's acting.

Meanwhile another masculine man doesn't give a shit who disagrees with him or who will view his opinion as invalid complaints. If he doesn't like something, he'll say it.

[Sonorous]

So basically, my argument is that you can be masculine & be both agreeable & disagreeable. Though, guys tend to be more disagreeable. Especially if they understand their worth/competence. Making the men that complain more likely to be perceived as the more masculine ones.

[Sonorous]

But ofc people's perception of masculinity can also be skewed by their perception of attractiveness. It gets complicated... But you get the drift..

[Justneedtokno]

I get what you’re trying to say but I don’t think that’s what it is in this case. We want your feedback especially if it’s something that we can’t handle. But if I’m having a bad day or breaking down and it may be something to happen to my family and I just can’t hold it in then I want to be able to come to you as a man. And I would like for you to be like I’ll take care of you it’s OK. Maybe we can solve it this way

[Sonorous]

Well, I personally wouldn't consider a woman at her low point to be a masculine-like woman. 🤔

[Justneedtokno]

Yes if she’s trying to stay strong about it. And she doesn’t try to show too much emotions especially if her family is depending on her

[Justneedtokno]

Just as it says women need a safe place to be vulnerable She’s always on top of her game she works she does things for her family on it and handles everything she needs to those can be masculine traits

[Sonorous]

If she's trying to stay strong about it, I wouldn't view that as being masculine either tbh. I'd view that as a human coping with life.

[Sonorous]

I guess the reasons why I wouldn't view that alone as being masculine is because her behaviors & personality could be feminine still. But it's only if those changed in more manly ways, reguardless of if she's going through a tough time, I'd see it as more masculine.

[Justneedtokno]

But I know a lot of men that do not show emotion or do not break down if situations happen they just keep moving on with their day. And I consider that is masculine

[Sonorous]

I think "masculine" is the wrong word to use. Or at least just not as accurate. I think it always goes deeper than that. Even masculinity is predicated on certain characteristics. So I feel that it would be better to go deeper and focus on the characteristics more than the umbrella word used to describe a certain pattern of them.

[Justneedtokno]

OK if you’re not counting the stereo typical word Maskill it then give your best definition of what you think it is

[Sonorous]

I'm not following. My best definition of what "masculinity" means?

[Justneedtokno]

Clearly it was a typo but what do you think masculine is to you

[ShadezMcgee]

While masculine men can can allow her to be vulnerable and vent her emotions, they don't want to deal with a woman who has that masculine mindset on a constant basis. It is exhausting because then she is more than likely controlling or argumentative because that is the way she is wired.

Less of a headache when we don't have to deal with calming her down and making her feel feminine enough to do that and let us take the lead. Just exhausting.

[Hellraiser1984]

Very true. But you usually go for the aholes. Guys like you're talking about you almost always completely ignore. So im comfortable letting my guard down it's just you usually call us weak and run off with the aholes with the backwards baseball cap who has tons of tattoos and no goals in life other than drink get high and get laid, repeat.

[Anonymous]

Eh... masculine men don't complain about women having masculine energy. They find a more feminine woman. I don't know where this idea comes from that masculine men are just supposed to tolerate whatever women give us. Tolerance isn't exactly a masculine trait, so I find this "wisdom" to be paradoxical

[Tiptoetamm]

I agree with that but I feel that's more emotional strangth than physical strangth.

[DaveToo]

Physical and emotional strength are two different animals. If she is physically strong, then let her do what pleases her. If she is emotionally strong, it will take an emotionally strong S/O to be able to deal with her.

[BeMuse]

Masculine men just don't put up with bad women. It's not our responsibility to make you act correctly. We just reject you when you fuck up.

[Naimgood]

In this sense, you're saying a womans masculine energy is there to hide her true emotional self. So you're asking if a man "out- masculines" a woman she can drop acting masculine and get all emotional?

[Fuentes]

No man wants a masculine women just like no women wants a MAN in a dress and heels going out with them

[TheSpaceGnome]

Masculinity is physical appearance based. I'm not dating a woman who looks like a dude.

[Jamie05rhs]

If toxic masculinity is indeed toxic, then it's toxic for both men and women.

[msc545]

If a man can handle a woman's aggressive outbursts and wants to do that, so be it.

[Z1pTD]

I don’t see why he should make her soften it but idrc

[DizzyDesii]

Kinda like the storyline for Deliver Us From Eva?

[NathanDavis]

I don't even know what "masculine energy" means...

[Waldoe]

every Pot has a Lid...

[Anonymous]

Masculine energy = man repellant

[demonics]

Masculine women are invisible to masculine men.

[dray995]

Why would a woman have “masculine energy”?