Why most guys aren't sure about their feelings?

[Having_hope]

I dated now a guy for the second time. We both felt attracted. And we met each other from a datingapp. However, I asked him if he intented to delete his app. He said: I don't know what I wan't, for now, I just want to keep it. So, is it my mistake to expect to soon? We decided to go on a third date. We both never had a relationship before. But guys, is it normal that he don't want to delete?

[Anonymous]

It depends how the dates have gone. It is early still. I myself have been ghosted after 3 dates, and things are definitely not always what they seem to be. Women seem to change their mind like the wind lol. I also dated someone for 8 months and thought things were heading to a serious long term relationship, only to have her not only end the relationship when I told her I had feelings for her, but GHOST me on top of it. So my point is, this makes me VERY cautious about anything new because I feel now that I can't "trust" my own assessment of people anymore. So I definitely would give it more than 3 dates.

[HighlyVolatile]

I never tried these online dating apps but I'm usually more sure of my feelings than sure that I can express them without hurting a girl.

[Having_hope]

Maybe my expectations where to high, but I got hurt a bit. Because I'm not active on that app after him

[HighlyVolatile]

I can't speak for your guy. I'm a monogamous dater. It's hard enough to remember one girl's birthday and not two or three. I do one at a time. Put all my focus into one girl. But maybe he wants to keep his options open.

[Having_hope]

That's also what I do prefer. Talking with just one. But most guys, aren't sure about their feelings. Mostly because they seek for other options. Well, we're just dates two times.. So let's say, you're dated me for the second time, would you considering using the dating app?

[HighlyVolatile]

I don't think I can answer it properly. Different era. I have an allergic reaction to these apps in the first place. But if we were dating, you are my #1 until you aren't. So deleting such apps, if I had them, is a no-brainer.

[Xoxocutekitty]

It takes 2 seconds to delete an app on your phone and maybe 2 minutes max to reinstall it later.

If he's not trying to lock you down then I don't think he's in it to win it sis. He wants to keep his options open but do you really want to stick around long enough for him to compare you to someone else?

[Having_hope]

He said that he has serious intentions with me. Well, I think he is not playing games, but I know that his actions speaks louder than his words. Out his actions, I guess (hopefully not) he's also talking with other women. I'm not sure, so I going to ask him, when it's the right time to do so. However sis, 2 dates is still too early to let him seek for other girls. It's too early, but I also wanted to make him clear. Do you think that the 3th date is ok?

[Having_hope]

*stop seeking for other women

[SmokyOne]

I'd agree with you except that she said they've both never been in a relationship before.. I'd put it more on insecurities right now until you have more to go on

[genericname85]

dude... after the second date, it's WAY too early to expect someone to be "sure".

[Having_hope]

Well dude, you're right. But I don't like the idea that he is looking for better options, and seeing me one of them. And besides that. He let me wait for 8,9 ours. So, I think it's not worth.

[genericname85]

everyone does that. you too. you're not like "ok second date, time to think about marriage and children. forget other guys" xD

[genericname85]

what did he let you wait for for 8 hours?

[Having_hope]

He literally said: 'I had no strength to talk". And than he said, about an our my friend and I going to drink something. So, he had time.

[genericname85]

well whatever. there's other fish in the sea.

[Anonymous]

He might be playing you. Don't sleep with him for at least a good while because he sounds like a player looking to keep playing the field.

[Berethor]

How much happened on your dates?