If I value a woman as a person, than I will be thoughtful of her.
But regardless I think the problem is American women (and maybe western women more generally) seem to want a man who’s exciting.
And as a socially reserved guy (not necessarily shy and awkward though). I don’t give off that vibe of being an exciting person to be around.
But regardless what I have noticed is that women from other countries (Brazil as an example) seem to feel an attraction towards me.
Now I do find Brazilian women attractive. But the problem is I’m young and I live in America.
So I would rather try and have things work out with an American woman.
And I’m sure that in a nation of millions of women, there has surely got to be at least one who is suitable for me.
But presumably I need to have patience and it will take time to get to her.
Regardless, as an individual it is my plan to have my life together in my 30’s.
I am currently in college and ten or so years after I graduate, I would like to have a stable job and my own place to live, as well as a family and a life partner.
But my biggest concern is that I might have trouble finding a partner.
I don’t hate white women or anything, and it isn’t their fault for feeling more attracted to other guys, but regardless the main reason I’m gravitating towards foreign girls is because they appreciate me more.
I’ve been told by girls in Brazil that a lot of the local guys cheat and they aren’t very loyal and like to flirt around with other women constantly.
Which I guess is why someone like me with a calm and socially reserved temperment is so attractive to them.
I myself have an inclination towards only one woman at a time. And girls in other countries (as I’ve heard) often want guys to marry and have families with.
So they likely just see the stability I have and feel a calling towards me.
But most American women (to the best of my knowledge) DONT want families in the future these days.
"But regardless I think the problem is American women (and maybe western women more generally) seem to want a man who’s exciting."
I think you have the wrong idea of what is exciting. A calm, thoughtful person can plan exciting activities. I'm planning a road trip to the Canadian arctic this summer. My wife finds that exciting.
Yeah I just meant more like I’d generally prefer the evening watching a movie together than going out to a bar or something