Dating a girl who wants to bring a friend on the date. What does this mean?

[stubborn21l]

I have this long time friend which I had a crush already before, then we got separated by destiny and now we are back at chatting and trying to schedule a date. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date with me which she replied "yes of course. Can I bring a friend with me (girl)?". Well I know her and I know who her friend is, but I don't know what does this really mean. Any girls can help me?

[ObscuredBeyond]

If the first time, she wants backup. In case you're not who she thought you were.

If she insists on it every time, that's a red flag that something is off about her. Especially if you've already proven yourself. It shows a lack of respect and trust. Or, a lack of maturity, given she needs a mom or big sister figure, in case she can't think for herself.

This is more common amongst autistic women. But if they're that low-functioning, dating them is probably a bad idea anyway, as they'd make terrible future housewives.

You just pray they're homeschooled, a d kept away from screwl groomers. Groomers love to prey on autistic girls. They usually turn them into lesbians. And lesbians with special needs and mental health issues? Very toxic combination! They will go off like a bomb when you least expect it, for reasons that will never make sense to you, and there's little you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

It means she wants it to be a social outing instead of a date. She doesn’t see you as a potential romantic interest.

Furthermore, you’d be out with both her and her friend analyzing and evaluating everything you did, what you said, how you said it etc. They are literally teaming up on you.

Drop this girl. She isn’t interested in you romantically. Move on. There are plenty of other women and you deserve better.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

She feels more comfortable if she has someone else with her. If a next date is planned, and she brings her friend… She might not be interested.

[DizzyDesii]

It means we hardly know you and are not fully in our comfortzone yet. But by date 2 (if there is one) it would be just the two if us

[stubborn21l]

They both know me very well, we had 2 years in school together.

[Valiqueen]

Honestly, my opinion is that she doesn't want more from you. The other girl is just to make sure things don't ever get deep (romantic), I mean being flirty will be a no-no and all. It's a date, yh. But not the kind you're expecting. Good luck!

[Vegasrunner]

You're one of the only women that have provided this man w/ an honest answer

[Moose304]

@Vegasrunner I'm going to agree. This question has set off my spidey sense. I would keep her in the friendzone for now. I really feel bad vibes coming off this!

[Vegasrunner]

@Moose304 I don't know if you're capable of pulling this off, but what I used to do when I was younger and a woman tried to do this, is show up w/ another girl "friend" on the date. This is one of the ways I tell guys to learn to use the friend zone to their benifits. Just to warn u this is a very advanced technique because first you have to have another girl willing to go on the date w/ you as a friend. Also what u say to the girl that invited u on the date is "great: I have a friend that would like to join us as well. She will 100% think it's a guy friend so just let her assume that until you meet.

[bob2008042]

Very honest answer. And a good way to put it. Not the kind of day you might expect haha 😆😆 Totally agree.
the reason for her move is going to define what happens next. But yeah, she's scared of what's going to happen, and wants to make sure things are going "safe". (Nothing "deep")

Now about the reason, there are options.
If she likes the guy and not against going deep, the 2nd date she might come alone.

If she's the girl who is not intending to go deep with any guy (there were old fashion girls like that, but I thought they are obsolete), then you the guy might be for a long run. I. e. going through the long friend zone process. Depending on the guy, this may not be for him.
This kind of girls need to be"warmed up" to go any further deeper...

She might be intending to not ever get close to him.

Anyway, the date (s) will generally give you the feeling of her intentions. And how she feels to the guy.

[Moose304]

@Vegasrunner I am capable, but refuse to date exclusively! However, I have been part of a revenge date. A sailor I know had just broken up with his girlfriend several weeks before. One of my friends with benefits is an American Airlines Flight Attendant. She agreed to go with him to a local club that he knew his ex-GF would go to. This F/A is one of the most beautiful ladies I have ever known. This girlfriend got so mad she called the Sailor a whore hopper as she walked out. The next day started blowing up his phone. I laughed so hard that night afterward I gave myself a headache! There are many good-looking ladies that love to do this to cheaters. It's amazing how easy it is to set a monkey brancher off by doing this.

[Vegasrunner]

@Moose304 Lol, you're story is cool. I just dont understand what it has to do w/ anything I said.

[Moose304]

@Vegasrunner Really nothing. My reply to your comment was really that first sentence. I think what I was trying to do is write about how shallow some people can be. It's always funny when they fail a shit test!

[Vegasrunner]

@Moose304 Gotcha!

[Moose304]

The thing is BOTH of you should feel comfortable. You have to decide based on your sense of what is right or wrong. If I were to ask a lady out I want no third wheel around. So my answer to that question would be a NO! Then it's up to her what happens next! Again, DO NOT be forced into something that makes you feel uncomfortable.

[PrettyPriya]

Just means she feels more comfortable if a friend tags along. Don't read too much into it. She IS going on the date with you. Be positive and say yeah! that would be fun!.

[stubborn21l]

Okay, thank you. It helped me a lot. I was thinking I was getting friendzoned or something

[PrettyPriya]

@stubborn21l I don't think it is friend zoned at all. Girls want to feel safe. Perhaps this is her way of being comfortable meeting up. Don't take it to heart. We do that sort of thing. Good luck to you!

[Slingblade1126]

It happened with me the first time my, now wife and I went out. Her friend didn't come with us but she wanted to meet her friends after I picked her up. I thought the same thing as far as, maybe she just wants to hang out as friends but as the night went on, she made it clear she was interested. I realized that she just likes to be around people she knows and likes when she's out. for her it's a lot more fun and figured it would be fun for me to meet her friends.

[PrettyPriya]

@Slingblade1126

You are correct. It is a comfort thing for us when starting out. I also think it helps lighten the mood and gets us to open up when we have a friend around. And look at that... now you are married. How lovely! 😊

[Slingblade1126]

Yeah lol she still wants a group of friends when we go out. Either hers or mine. She always said how it made her happy when her group of friends became friends with me and my group of friends. She is a social butterfly.

[PrettyPriya]

@Slingblade1126

That is awesome though that you complied. I bet it made it enjoyable for her. 👍😊

[Vegasrunner]

You would be fortunate if you only got friendzoned, more than likely she's bringing her friend so they can both get a free night off of you. Where are you taking her for the date?

[Adam1978]

It's a feed them date. Ie they are simply using you for a free night out. Get the heck out of there. If she really wants you, the last thing she wants is her friend and other women around.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Are you guys 15? If not, then you should be capable of going on a date by yourselves. If she can't handle that, find a better girl.

[Anonymous]

You are friend-zoned, it's not a random girl. You have already known her for a long. She and her friend will use you for free food outing. If it's strange then bringing a friend would have been justified. Women don't bring others to date when they are actually interested.

[Guy13]

Your date’s Mother paid the friend to go and keep her 👁 on you. Would you trust you with your child? Makes sense to me….

[RedStiletto88]

Well I’ve never done that but I can understand why she would. I’ve always just kept people informed where I was at all times.

[Alwayreckles93]

Woman your age are stupid. They don't know the real meaning of love they don't know how to cook clean much less take care of a man.

[sab_sal]

You're only 1 yr older than him lmao

[Alwayreckles93]

@sab_sal I'm actually 29 this site can be crazy at times.

[Tiptoetamm]

Um I wouldn't do that, but everyone is different maybe there for moral support and that's totally fine I see nothing wrong with it

[TheBigGuy9]

I’m a guy and I can help you out. She’s not entirely sure about you and wants to bring her friend to make sure you act accordingly or that her friend doesn’t do something stupid.

[stubborn21l]

Thanks mate!

[slatyb]

It means it's not a date, she's not interested in a romantic relationship with you. Either that or she's completely clueless about dating.

[jasco]

No don't do that cause she's gonna expect you to pay for her and her friend. If she wants to bring a friend than you bring a friend and make sure to tell her that her friend has to pay for it herself

[JayLiche]

It’s not that bad
bring her friend the first couple times
then it’ll be just you guys

after that bring the friend around more
So you don’t get bored of each other

[tzdc21]

It means she plans on using you. Decline it right away.

[Not_Average]

She doesn’t feel comfortable. I’d personally pass. That sounds like an awkward time.

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t see it as a date, and she wants you to know that by having another person there. That person also is her safety blanket incase you think it is a date and try something.

I would cancel man.

[Vegasrunner]

Abort immediately. If a woman brings a friend on a date then the likelihood of you getting laid is about 0%.

[pretty_bad]

If it's the 1st date she just probably scared to come alone

[Iron_Man]

Basically she’s the buffer she’s the protector so you won’t end up having sex

[Anonymous]

Either it's not a date or it's a threesome. I have set people up before by just asking two people if they want to hang out with me somewhere, but that's usually before they decide to go on dates together

[Anonymous]

I've been in this same exact situation.. Your fucked

[Anonymous]

Now you get to pay for two girls. Great..

Kill me now..

[JamesRandiDebates]

It means she expects you to pay for both of them, and get pussy from neither.

[Anonymous]

It might mean she's uncomfortable. Maybe you could try to set her friend up with a date so it wouldn't be so awkward?

[Anonymous]

She's not dating material or girlfriend material. She's immature and childish

[Hangry06]

It's not a date
Maybe ask her

[exitseven]

Maybe you will have a threesome.

[Anonymous]

You are about to be friend zoned.

[boobliker]

you may end up in bed with the two of them

[Srij23]

Maybee wants threesome...😂😂😂... ask her

[Wester1967]

You're in Asia

[Fromdusktilldawn]

she friendzones you

[In_Trance]

red flag

[Anonymous]

Threesome!!!

[Anonymous]

Was her friend fat?