Ladies why should a guy pursue a relationship with you? What does he get out of it?

[ChiTown33]

A lot of comments have been made on G@G about how guys no longer make real commitments to women anymore. So here's your chance ladies to remind guys why commitments are beneficial to them.

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+1 y

I appreciate all your responses. Especially you ladies. The whole point of this post wS to inject some positivity into girls vs. Guys interaction while reminding guys why we should seek relationships for you. In the end it's about helping each other. I think most of you reacted to this in a positive way so I consider this a success. Maybe we can build on this.🙂

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

First and foremost, he gets a companion - He gets someone who is by his side no matter what, someone who will support him and his decisions, someone who will love him for who he is, someone who will care for him when he needs it. He gets someone who shows they care for and about him. I am more than willing to put a plate of hot food in front of him when he gets home, clean, do the laundry etc (I already do that for work, so I enjoy it). He gets children and a wife who love him and appreciate everything he does for the family. He will obviously get sex lol.

I don’t necessarily believe in divorce, only in the extreme cases I would divorce, (he’s a pedo, rapist, abuser, cheater, etc).

[DWornock]

That will last for maybe 10 years until you have 2 children and when you realize you can divorce him, take the house, his money, and half his income because you know you can all all that and you don't have to put up with him anymore.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@DWornock Nope. No point in taking his stuff when it’s his. I have mine. Plus, I do not divorce, unless it’s serious reasons… Examples given.
Thanks for your input though… I wish you luck in your relationships.

[TonyMetal___86]

@WhatTheHeckkkk here's a real princess talking, a true real loving lady 😊

[DWornock]

The problem is because it makes them look and sound good, that is they all say. Actually, at the time, they may even believe and half the time it turns out to be true. However, after some time, all too often what they said and do are very different.

[Juxtapose]

@DWornock actions are the real window into somebody's soul.

[-Pex1994-]

I tell you one thing i have married my woman in 2017 and at this time time i was also in my last year mca. And i didn't have sex with my wife in my initial years as I told her i am busy with studies and also dealing with exam and tension and depression but as time passed she couldn't control it and she told me that she need to do although i use to kiss her hug her but never felt any craving for sex. i don't know where was the problem then with little Google search i found out that there are asexual guys and girls who don't find any enjoyment in sex although they are perfectly normal like other guys and feel attraction, check out girls, be romantic,, get boner and even masturbate but one thing they don't like or feel is the traditional sex and i found that i am asexual after sex months it's actual so rare that most guys are confused she was coperative and we checked out few doctors but nothing helped as asexuality is not a medical problem it's an asexual orientation and she divorced after 1 year after consulting from her mother and they thought i lied to them. now i am treating myself through ayurveda where my sister works and he told me there is nothing like asexuality and it's all in my mind but i still have doubt whether i am asexual or not coz i still don't like the traditional d**k into vagina sex although i masturbate ocassionally. i have even like pages on asexuality on fb but i am still in a doubt

[Heartache0405]

I’m exactly the same way. But I don’t really consider myself asexual. Celibate by choice for non religious reasons is how I explain it. Though I am able to connect with those who believe themselves to be asexual and believe it’s a thing I still don’t consider myself asexual

[-Pex1994-]

So i think my women wanted to satisfy her body more which was more important than my love and hunger for lust was more than money. Maybe all woman are same biologically

[-Pex1994-]

@Heartache0405 yup being celibate is a different thing it's a choice but here biologically i am different. but i don't know i am asexual or not although i get a boner but i don't feel urge for traditional sex.

[Heartache0405]

Me neither and I still get boners but not from watching porn

[-Pex1994-]

@Heartache0405 it's all natural but my complain is why nature didn't make me normal like other guys. what was my fault

[Heartache0405]

Your only fault is thinking that you have to be like other guys. You’re an individual. Live your own life and don’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks says or does

[Tstrbrainer]

You didn't lie to her, but she's not obliged to stay in a sex less marriage

[-Pex1994-]

@Tstrbrainer But is sex that much important? can't just two people get involve in a romantic relationship and just feel the touch and hug and kiss and love each other

[Tstrbrainer]

Nope, maybe asexuals can.
Sex is important for others.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

There is no benefit anyone for men if she isn't a traditional woman. Even then, with divorce laws being what they are. She will still likely screw over her husband and destroy his and her children's lives. Personally, if we outlawed alimony "spousal support" and restricted child support. Divorce rates would drop drastically. Fact is that women don't marry for love at all anymore. The marry for security and financial gain.

[ChiTown33]

I don't know if I agree with the statement " women don't marry for love anymore". I hope everybody marries for love. I think income does factor into women's ability to love though lol. So maybe you're right in a round-a-bout way. I do agree with the fact though. If we are going for equality. Then yes, alimony should be done away with, in the name of equality.

[Genie23]

So, they could get a companion for life? Someone who'll be there with you through thick and thin. They'll try to support you in every way. They'll take care of you when you're sick. Don't guys want to have someone to laugh with and to grow old with? Have children and raise them with?

[ChiTown33]

I hope most do.

[Genie23]

I hope so, too 😅

[Heartache0405]

Would be nice if it weren’t always ask about the women.

[Heartache0405]

All about the women *

[Genie23]

@Heartache0405 It's not always about the women. It's just that you've met the wrong people.

[Heartache0405]

4 times? 😂 well, wait, no, 5. Technically 5 times. I must be extremely unlucky or you’re absolutely fucking wrong

[Genie23]

@Heartache0405 You must suck at telling who's good and who's not. Don't use "fuck" and all when you're commenting under my opinion, boy. It's not my fault that you've had bad experiences. I'm not here to put up with you. I've had horrible experiences too, it doesn't mean that I should be bitter about it like you are. I don't like to play the victim card.

[Genie23]

... And unlike you, I don't think every guy is a jerk.

[ChiTown33]

@heartache0405 cool out a bit @Genie23 is OK. And @Genie23 try to understand his pain.

[Genie23]

Well, I'm going through lot of pain, too. But I don't go around telling people about it on GaG. I've experienced worse things, you'll be shocked when you'll hear that but that doesn't make it okay for me to hate the opposite gender and talk shit with them, is it?

I do not mind healthy debate but don't take out anger on me, that's what I expect.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@Genie23 Thank you! You’ve said everything on my mind. Even with the replies lol.

[ChiTown33]

@WhatTheHeckkkk that goes for you to.

[Genie23]

@WhatTheHeckkk Aww, I'm glad to hear that! (I was surprised when you said "even the replies" 😅). I should be the one saying thank you! I really needed that. So, yeah, your comment made me smile. :)

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@Genie23 Glad my comment made you smile 😊

[UdontNeedtoknow]

That's just it. Women don't stay through thick and thin anymore. They wait till they can get a court ordered check out of him and use time with the children as leverage and bargaining chips. Until alimony is outlawed. Your just playing a entrapment game to emotionaly abuse the father of your children. My trade and union in L. A. has a 80% divorce rate. That's a pretty poor chance for having a companion for life. I wish it wasn't like this, but the facts are the facts.

[littlered1015]

It all depends on the person. Each woman brings something different to the table. When it comes to a caring relationship with a woman who truly wants to be with you, I would say in general, you get someone who will be there for you with no questions asked when you truly need it, you get a friend as well as a partner in crime and hopefully a connected sexual partner. You have someone who will help you through difficult times, remind you of why you are special and why you should be proud of yourself for the person you are as well as someone to celebrate the best days with you. Those are just a few reasons. 💜

[Heartache0405]

That’s Quite the fantasy you’ve painted there. Would be great if any of it were realistic

[littlered1015]

If you find a decent person, it is. That's what I offer in a relationship. Unfortunately, there are few men willing to make the effort to take it. I am not saying its common. Im saying its a rare gem and if you find this, you're fortunate. It is out there if you look for someone who is willing to offer it. No relationship is perfect. But, this is what some of us will offer for those willing to accept and be willing to do the damn same.

[Heartache0405]

In my experience all the women I’ve had relationships with in the past have cheated on me. Every single one. Which led up to one girl I was interested in, was friends with and wanted to see where things would go with in the correct way ended up falsely accusing me of stalking and of being a school shooter when I don’t even own a gun nor did I have a car at the time. So, in my opinion, you explained a fantasy. Something that is not real nor will ever be real. A fiction. You should be a fantasy writer

[littlered1015]

I am sorry for your bad experience. But, if that is your basis, then every man in the world could be viewed as the same from mine because I have yet to meet one myself who hasn't done or suggested something similar to the same. You can't blame all women for the bad behavior of a few. That would mean every man in the world should be sterilized.

[Heartache0405]

Surprisingly, those very same girls I’m talking about have actually promoted men to sterilize themselves for them. Again, why I prefer to be alone as opposed to controlled by a female who claims to love me but has other plans

[littlered1015]

Well then, those women should consider doing the same because men and women are equals in my mind and if you can't treat a man as your equal in respect and with the behavior you show to him, you deserve to be alone. I feel the same way about men as you do about women save for one aspect which includes being used, cheated on or made to feel like one of many.

[Heartache0405]

So you understand why I prefer to be alone as opposed to being with a woman?

[littlered1015]

I think you've met some rotten women and on behalf of the decent ones who still exist, there are better out there. I hope you meet one who reminds you that life can be good and special because though it seems like a fantasy, it is possible.

[littlered1015]

That's your belief and your preference. Good luck to you then. I just personally can't love a life without hope and genuinely think the world has good people out there despite the bad ones who are more noticeable because their voices and actions are louder

[Heartache0405]

It’s not always the ones who’s voices are louder. It’s also the quiet ones too. Like the one who falsely accused me. She had a panic disorder. Used it against me to her own benefit and went to two different county police departments to file an ex parte PPO against me that I had to take her to court to fight back to a civil temporary restraining order. She wasn’t loud in any way shape or form and was the one who gave me major ptsd with women in general. I do not regret my decision to live a life by myself. If anything it is better this way

[Lucy68]

I love to cook, I love to clean, I love kids (3-4 I'm my limit), I love to cuddle and hold hands, I'm loyal. And if married lots of sex

[Lucy68]

Is* damn autocorrect 😅

[ChiTown33]

Love to clean? That's twisted. 😉 Lol

[muscularbumblebee]

Unlike what most women have said here is like to thing the main reason is you’d have a best friend for life who also happens to be your lover.


I’ll support you, push your limits, joke and mess around with you, don’t expect a house wide but the relationship will always be fun and we won’t be stuck boring each other as we’ll have our separate lives. Sex and home cooked meals too. What else

[ChiTown33]

What about him pushing your limits? Joking and messing around with you? Can you take as much as you give?

[muscularbumblebee]

Considering I usually give more then I get I’m gonna go with a yes. But if he’s unhappy there’s plenty of other girls lol I’m happy alone also

[Minahh]

He gets someone who...

- has silly humor with a touch of sarcasm
- leads conversations full of witt that are intellectually challenging
- is really versatile (grows flowers in the garden, paints, builds, not afraid of getting a little dirty but also attends high-class events)
- is an empathetic person that is trying to understand her partner on a deep level
- provides a safe environment in which he can be vulnerable
- is a free spirit, in love with exploring and adventure
- is a woman who knows her worth
- is generous and likes to give presents
- values the most spiritual connection and real intimacy

I know what I bring to the table, that's why I also won't settle for anything less than what's best for me ✌

Guess my boyfriend is a lucky fella 🥰

[Heartache0405]

Of course you'd only give positive things. No one would give negative things about themselves.

[Minahh]

Well the question was about why a guy should pursue a relationship with me. I have no problem with acknowledging my flaws.

[Nagahime]

Well here's the thing...
















They shouldn't. I'm an emotional mess.

[ChiTown33]

That's OK. Just attach a " warning" label.

[Nagahime]

Lmao will do.

[Alyssa_11]

Apart from me being very loyal and supportive and loving I like to think I’m quite the character to be around and I’ve also got a high libido ;)
I can’t cook though so he's gotta make us food otherwise we’re gonna starve lol.

[ChiTown33]

A partner you can laugh with goes a long way. Life is hard. Ya got to be able to laugh that's what I say.

[Alyssa_11]

Absolutely! After a long ass day I want to come home to someone I can laugh with and forget about all my worries in the outside world. I want my house to be a home.

[Kaamraj]

To all the women who said companionship, especially lifelong companionship should realize that over half of marriages end in divorce with women filing overwhelming majority of the divorces. Thereafter alimony and child custody battles. In this day and age, long term relationships and marriages aren't worth the risk.

[Serenitykayyy]

Man, let me think..
A companion that is
- adventurous
- open minded when trying new things
- spontaneous
I travel randomly
- makes and pays everything she has
don’t need any money
- educated
- not clingy
- doesn’t like PDA
- funny (depending on your sense of humor)
- empathetic
I don't know what else.

[Serenitykayyy]

- loyal
-outspoken
Okay I am done 💀

[dolemite89]

doesn’t like pda made me laugh 😂

[Anonymous]

We cook for you, clean, submit, obey, satisfy and grow, birth, and raise your babies sounds like a nice deal for men.

[ChiTown33]

It sounds like it doesn't it.

[Opinion Owner]

Meanwhile we get a boss who is super horny and likes to have his way with us

[Gidge]

@Opinion Owner you know what's up ha 😂

[TonyMetal___86]

@anonymous you submit and obey you're husband out of love and not because you're a slave, you're a queen...

[Gidge]

@TonyMetal___86 I like that idea

[TonyMetal___86]

@Gidge thanks, well that's the truth, a wife who treats me like that, i'm going to love only her forever and take good care of her and will always be there for her and she will be my everything...

[TonyMetal___86]

Also going to make sure that she's always safe, warm and happy...

[ChiTown33]

Op I guess that's one way to get ahead.

[Slartybartfast]

Never did my wife do any of those things, not one.

[ChiTown33]

@Slartybartfast I'm sorry

[captain_voidwalker]

First of ladies you stow that life long companion shit. Even a cursory glance and the statistics surrounding marriage proves thats a load of crap. You can also stow that take care of the house shit to, I'm more than capable of tending to my own house.
The only things women bring into a relationship is financial liabilities and head aches

[DarkCarousel]

A forever best friend, companion, supporter, lover. Give him my whole heart. Raise a family, BE a family. Explore life together. I want to grow old with someone.

[dustybiker]

A person either wants a relationship or they don’t. That is their choice. It isn’t a woman’s job to remind men why they might want one. A relationship is equal. Two halves of a whole. You crave that and go after it or you don’t.

[Raindnz]

I don't know but many men do wish to pursue a relationship with me - even when it isn't mutual. Perhaps ask them? :p

[ChiTown33]

I know what you mean. That seems to be how it is with me. The women who seem to seek a relationship with me I have NO interest in whatsoever.

[TsAubreyKate]

I wish just one female would be real💯 And say nothing I have nothing to offer it’s like applying for a job and all of them just say im a hardworker 😂

[Gidge]

If he doesn't want a woman, he's probably not my type anyway, to be frank. But yeah, I have no idea what men like in women. I don't really have a penis to testify that. I mean, you tell me, basically.

[Sophxoxo]

So they get someone to talk to, and someone to love them. We’re happy to provide food, conversation, love and companionship for the rest of you guys’ life, assuming you do the same for us.

[Bubbles16]

I don't want to sound like I'm bragging about myself but I'm funny, smart, ambitious and a good singer

[SnakeBoop]

If we need to "remind a man" , then he's not worth dating anyway. :)

[Juxtapose]

Men.. no matter what women say, pay very close attention to how they act. Do they really keep their end of the bargain even once it starts to get a little stale for them?

[MickHardin]

I've wanted to ask women this but I know they would just get real mad!

[Iron_Man]

They don’t get anything besides sex women now a days
they can’t even cook and they’re too lazy to do housework

[Chthou95]

This is interesting. I need some popcorn while reading the women's opinions

[annabananna]

I could say a lot but a lot guys in here are too bitter about women to see the benefit.

[ChiTown33]

That's fine it's optional. This was an attempt to get some positive energy out there. You don't have to participate 🙂

[Slartybartfast]

Ever met a bitter 12 year old boy? Neither have I , Bitter comes from experience.

[annabananna]

Yes, but being bitter is a choice. There’s still a lot of wonderful people in the world. You have to grow and learn red flags rather than be bitter.

[Slartybartfast]

Could you imagine what the response would be if I called a female abuse victim "bitter" ?

[annabananna]

Just because your heart got broken doesn’t mean it was abuse… I wasn’t even talking about abuse. I do still think it’s better to heal and move on than harbor bitterness in any situation. I’ve had a relationship that was abusive in the past and while I was bitter for a bit it helped to get counseling and heal. I can’t imagine harboring that bitterness after all those years. Be a survivor not a victim.

[ChiTown33]

So you're allowed to be bitter but he isn't? OK I see.

[Lucina_Rose]

Both men and women are in this situation. It's a compatibility thing.

[ChiTown33]

That's not much of a sales pitch.

[Lucina_Rose]

Huh?

[ChiTown33]

N/m go back to sleep. Lol

[Tstrbrainer]

Lousy sex lol🤣.

And I'd rather laugh and grow old with a huge variety of women than with one. 😉

[Anonymous]

Because it feels nice to be loved unconditionally and know that there’s a person who will be with you no matter what.

[Heartache0405]

Fuck that

[MCheetah]

(Pulls up a chair and grabs popcorn...)

[Heartache0405]

Hah, this outa be good 😂

[fonduegirl]

Something to remember

[Anonymous]

Love for a life

[ChiTown33]

You should be a salesman.

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean?