Does a woman approaching a man to ask him out set the tone for the relationship as her being more dominant than him? (Page 2)
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I’ve never had success with approaching men first. I’ve done it 3 times and the guys always seemed appreciative of the fact, but then they seemed to lose interest quickly. But the guys who pursue me first seem to keep interest a lot longer. So I’m done pursuing lol.
Does a woman approaching a man to ask him out set the tone for the relationship as her being more dominant than him?
No, not necessarily, if the man is secure in himself.
But you should also realise that if a woman did this she leaves herself open to the same kind of knock back responses that women routinely give to men in the same circumstances, do you honestly think a woman would leave herself open to public rejection, as men routinely have to do?
I would assume a woman that stepped up wants to be in charge initially until I got to know her more… that being said. What’s the alternative? Spend your life alone because men don’t wanna risk themselves that’s fine.
No. It tells me that she is serious about it. And more than that, it means she is courageous enough to do something out of her comfort zone and i respect that. Being dominant or sub does not neccessarily have an impact on this. Although in some cases it may happen to be true.
It also means she will be straightforward when highlighting issues in our relationship rather than expecting me to guess exactly whats wrong.
No, definitely not.
I have always been the one approached in the relationships. Always been the dominant one.
Depends on the gut a bit, if you pick a guy who is busy with his life and doesn't have time to chase women or go out to party then you will most likely get a dominant guy.
If I'm REALLY going to be honest, I'm not a fan of it.
I'm old-fashioned and want to be the one to tell her what she means to me... Vaguely asking me out is fine, giving hints also fine, but I want to be the one to take her on dates and I want to he the one to say it, but only when the time is right. (also like to toy with her just a bit)
I've never been called controlling, but I know with this I definitely am.
You are 24 not 70, so how can you be old fashioned? Haha 😂 the brainwashing pass down each generation, I guess.
Sure thing.
A woman making the first move doesn't come across to me as dominant at all.
But then again, I don't think women should be the ones to initiate.
But then again again, I think men who want women to approach are crybabies so iunno.
No necessarily. She may just have decided to ask him out before he asked her out. Sometimes guys delay things, and it's fine for a woman to get things started.
No because I still have testicles and I'm dominant, I would not let a bitch rule me.. if I ever got into a relationship ima set the boundaries and rules. Not her... It's jus that I don't want to give a girl the opportunity to reject me... Cos if I try flirting with a girl first.. 9/10 times she will reject me jus to feel good about herself and laugh about it... Even if she's actually attracted to me.. she will still say no and reject me jus cos they love making guys feel upset... So I jus don't like giving girls the opportunity to do that and get off on their sick fetish of rejecting me
“Rules”? . You go into a relationship as a partner, not a parent.
You won’t find a relationship with anyone if you go into already thinking they are below you.
@MrsTurkleton that's what Im saying. You don't have rules. The original writer of this post is assuming that there is rules ina relationship like one is the follower or leader.. look what they write.. they said who's dominant or who isn't... That means whi leads the relationship or who doesn't
Some relationships do have a more dominant partner and a more passive one, but that’s just the way the dynamic has naturally gone. It’s just the flow.
What isn’t healthy is someone going in with the determination that the relationship will only be on their terms. That’s borderline abusive.
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I don't think that encouraging a woman to pursue whomever she wants sets any kind of tone, other than one of respect. Asking someone out shouldn't be gender locked, and I don't think any stigma should be attached to a woman who does. I'd love it if a woman asked me out, and I wouldn't assume it meant she was going to be super dominant because of it.
This is a good question. You are correct that what happens early in a relationship often sets the tone of the future. I'm not sure that asking a guy out will have a real impact if the guy is assertive to begin with.
I doubt it sets the tone for the whole relationship. That comes down more to personality and values. Who made the first move might relate to personality and/or values but does not necessarily mean the other person is not as dominant.
Does it bothering me, no. For me, there is nothing better than a woman who knows what she wants and being direct. If she is like that I think relationship is heathier 100%.
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Absolutely, if you had to make the move then he’s not changing with time. That’s who he is.
Women should show interest, make it easy for us to approach and make a move… if what you want is a dominant man then let them be dominant.
Don’t go after a submissive man and then expect things to change with time. If you give the signs and he’s interested he’ll bite.
I don't think so. The few times I have been asked out by a girl there was never a feeling of one being dominated by the other, just two people getting to know each other.
Ernm. No? Most of my approaches were women side. Dating a girl, her sister or friends wanted me on the side.
If anything, there are more issues when girls are the initiators than the guys.
No, it doesn't set the tone necessarily. It depends on the personalities involved. But it does mean that she's paying for the first date. You know, the whole "whoever asks, pays" shtick that women say.
I did approach a man through my high school when I was in still in high school and got rejected by. I give the a letter to. Other guys that I am not sure.
I don't believe it's setting a tone for the relationship, I would appreciate a woman ballsy enough to go after what she wants. More power to her