Should I worry that boyfriend is going camping with his friends and there might be some females there?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend of three years plans to go camping with his homies in may, they met up today and seen that his homies coworker is possibly bringing his girlfriend because she was there. A couple people who weren’t there are still coming and I asked him “are they females?” He said he doesn’t know but probably not total of 8 going. I said I’m uncomfortable if girls go because you know what the fuck he said don’t worry probably won’t be any girls and you know I’m there to hang with the fellas and celebrate his friends bday. But should I worry?

[ohshee]

Every relationship has this type of moment. When it happens it's the time you need to be honest with yourself. Do you trust him.
And then you have to understand if you don't trust him why are you with him.. and then you have to u understand that in every relationship that the person your with can do anything they want to do every single day of any day. Meaning that everyday is just like this camping trip. He could do something and you would not know until you know.. so this is not about him. Because you can't control him. The only thing you can control is you.

So if you understand this that anything can happen on any day of the week. .
You either except this. And then you have to take a very deep look in to your self your heart. And you have to make s choice on how you want to live your life who you want to be.

You can either worry about it everyday of your life just waiting for that pain that might never come * and that is no way to live because it will consume you it will make you so old so fast it's no way to live.
Or you can say I can not control him I can only believe in him and then let it go except that except that key to your heart and Let It Go you have to say I'm strong enough to deal with anything if he wants to cheat on me he's going to there's nothing I can do about it and accept that that way you can live a good healthy life and be happy you take that moment on when it comes don't live in the moment of what if because that will consume you live in the moment that I trust him I respect him I hope he does the same for me and if he doesn't go well I will get over it it will be his loss not mine let it go and start living life this is the moment that you have to make a choice on who you are who else strong are you if it happens it happens you will find out about it don't worry the truth always comes out but don't protect something that has not happened and let it eat you every single day of your life that is no way to live life Believe in yourself that's all you have

And let me tell you this to always remember this if he cheats on you it has nothing to do with you it's all about him that's the reason why he cheated because he's selfish and he didn't really care he doesn't really care for anything except for himself you don't want to be with a guy like that anyway what I'm trying to say is if he ever did she argue you have to put your head up high and stay well fuck you thank you for being that way because you just told me who you are and I don't want to be with the person write to you ever
You cannot control him you can only control yourself do you have to put your trust into him are you don't I hope you understand what I'm trying to say

As each day goes by your love and your trust either get stronger or if you're worried about something it gets weaker because you're always wondering but if you don't trust the guy then you should not be with him only you have that answer you have to let it go and either believe or you don't believe if you don't believe hit him then you have to get out of the relationship now before your heart breaks

[PJH359]

Why waste your energy or stress yourself out over a 50% possibility? Let him go. If he’s going to cheat, then he’s gonna cheat and there’s nothing you can do about it prior to the fact. Actions like that, especially with witnesses, will surface at some point and you can decide what you’re gonna do when you have evidence.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, why would you worry if the girl is dating someone else? I understand the boundaries in place though, I understand feeling uncomfortable about it. But you have to trust that he will be faithful, and so will the girl.


Why can’t you join? Would they make you more comfortable?

[Asker]

I’m not worried about the girl going with her boyfriend I’m just worried if she brings friends you know? I never met those friends of his and they said they had room for one more and so yeah. I also will be doing clinicals so I wouldn’t be able to anyways

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Ah I see… I think even if she does bring friends, you should trust your boyfriend to not do anything and reject them if they flirt with him.

[Asker]

That’s what he said, he said he would share tents with his homie because he has a big one so he said not to worry but it’s for The Weeknd so I’m iffy

[Anonymous]

Girl, have TRUST on your man. From experience I can tell you sometimes you drive yourself crazy and make up things in your head. The mind is a very crazy thing don’t let it take over. Trust your man ! Go out with your girls , distract yourself don’t let it take over your mind so much :)

[OlderAndWiser]

If it is okay for other females to go on this camping trip, why didn't he invite you to join them?

[Jamie05rhs]

Exactly my thoughts.

[Asker]

I haven’t met those friends of his reason 1, reason 2 they invited him because it was room for one more person as it’s a max of 8 people 3 I am in the medical field so I have clinicals and wouldn’t be able to join and 4 so far that person is bringing his girlfriend but my boyfriend doesn’t know them because it’s his friends coworkers that he’s inviting. My boyfriend isn’t planning it

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, well do you trust him or you don't trust him?

[Anonymous]

Remember how women are when you're thinking of this. Chances are good, unless he knows them, there will be NONE there lol, or their girlfriends of the others. On the off chance random women are there (can't imagine women going camping with strangers), how many women are going to sleep with him do you think? None. I wouldn't worry about it. And, if other women are going (girlfriends), why don't you go also?

[AviatorTom]

In three years, you and your boyfriend should have developed a level of trust between you two. You shouldn't be worried. If you are, have a heart-to-heart discussion... first with yourself and then with him.

[SlothySlob]

You should worry if you don't trust him. If you trust him you shouldn't worry. If you believe he's going to cheat on you I suggest you break it off with him, since neither of you has put enough into the relationship to respect the relationship.

[Xhuy_006]

If you trust him, and also his friends are the type to keep him accountable, then no. Personally I'd never let my friend cheat on his girl that he wants to stay faithful to.

[exitseven]

If he has not given you a reason to be suspicious then you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Relationships depend on trust. Having him go camping will help build that trust.

[Shy_Steve]

I don't see why you can't go with him when his Friends Girlfriends are going, So it's perfectly understandable that your worried about it so try to ask him why you you can't go when there Girlfriends are going be there.

[jammcm]

Ask to go along. If other guys are bring girl friends your guy should too. I always start to worry when I here the statement: "Don't Worry."

[Drumlin2001]

Dosent sound like you trust him. You should worry bout that

[Anonymous]

You are right to worry, this 'camping trip' is OBVIOUSLY a front for the 7 guys to gang bang the one guy's girlfriend

[Xhuy_006]

You know I was gonna laugh, but thennn... It doesn't sound too far fetched... This is worrisome

[zagor]

No. Do you think your boyfriend is going to be invited to a two-dude threesome?

[Staximus]

Homies? Females? Did you grow up in the ghetto hood or something?

[Still-alive]

just trust your boyfriend. he has autonomy after all

[moonmakerr20]

If you're creating drama for no reason this is a turn off if there's trust no need to worry if not wtf r u still doing together

[NathanDavis]

what exactly would you be worried about?

[Wise4myage]

Why aren't you going?

[Anonymous]

who the fuck still uses the word homies?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Yes.

[Pudsmucker]

Do you trust him?