I have waaay more than 5. But top would be —Not Believing in God… which i used to be okay trying to date a nonbeliever but they ask too many questions about why i believe and that irks me. Plus its just better to be discuss our love for the Lord and to hopefully raise our future kids with similar beliefs —Smoking… and that goes for anything. A weed smoker/edibles eater turns me off ten times more than a cigarette smoker, but all in all, I dont want to date anyone who smokes anything that includes vape, cigars, etc. I unknowingly dated a smoker in HS and was so disgusted once i found out. Tbh, i dont even want to date a drinker but i guess if its only like twice a year, i can deal. —Not wanting kids… major major dealbreaker. Aside from continuing to love the Lord, i will continue to want kids more than anything outside of that. If he doesn't want them, I dont want him. Well actually, I have dated someone before who didn't want kids. He was the same who didn't believe in the Lord. I thought i could change him but was wasting my time. —If he was not born a man and he was not a straight man… I refuse to date a woman and I refuse to date a feminine, flamboyant acting man. like a man with sensitivity but a manly man can even be sensitive at times. If he even suggests anal sex or a strap on, i will question his sexuality. One guy told me he considered experimenting with a guy and that they only kissed. I dumped him on the spot. —If he's slept with more than a handful of people… I’ve slept with only 2 and am ashamed of even that. I never wanted to surpass one and i refuse to surpass 3. I would prefer he been with less than a handful as well. I dont even have to ask how many a guy has slept with. Some are just dumb enough to voluntarily tell you. If a persons been with a lot in a lifetime, i feel they will just give themselves to just anyone whenever temptation sets in and that turns me off
Those are my top 5. Others would be —very rude/blunt/sarcastic —constantly depressed/angry — doesn't have a cute face — has more than one child — workaholic —constantly traveling —excessive body hair (beard, back, chest, pubes) and refuses to shave —obsessively games/watches anime —constantly on social media —5+ years older/younger
You must be passionate about your career and want to do better. You don’t need to be a millionaire but be super hardworking and want to achieve your goal must be expressive with words I like conversations I’m open about my feelings don’t keep things to yourself if I annoy you tell meeee because I will tell you show me you care about me 🥰 call me text me take me on dates. don’t be overly jealous I don’t mind you talking to the opposite gender because I have male friends because my brothers and I practically have the same set of friends be caring to other people and don’t be stuck up
1. Lack of inteligence or someone who thinks they are the next reality star or influencer. Doesn't have to be an academic just some form of knowledge thats not all about fashion hauls and makeup tutorials.
2. Doesn't apreciate some of the same interests as me or dissinterested in engaging in conversation. The types where you ask for favourite music and they say I listen to all sorts. Which translates to pop rap and rnb trash thats force fed to you on the radio. Doesn't have to like everything I do but it helps if you can connect via them or stir up debate.
3. Not a major deal breaker but someone who doesn't have the confidence to dress up and say they look good. Women who stay casual and have hangups about themselves. Granted I think I am pretty ugly or that's the impression I get from online dating. However I still dress up and want to look nice regardless of what others think.
4. Stubborn women who refuse to do things you suggest or can not be bothered or make excuses. Not that I force anyone just nice to have some adventurous person to have fun with.
5. Women who smokes or who does constant drugs or likes to hang around the wrong people and be a bit anti social.
1. Transgender (males). The biggest dealbreaker of all. I'm not gay, which means I'm not attracted to anyone who isn't a heterosexual monogamous woman. Don't be a man.
2. Bisexual/queer (lesbians). The biggest personality dealbreaker of all. If she's queer, then she's a lesbian. If she's a lesbian, why on Earth would I want her? Lesbians are a giant turn-off to me. So straight women or nothing at all.
4. Slutty: Polyamorous, isn't single, the "open relationship" type, an adulterer, unfaithful, or has an OnlyFans or promotes lewd content on the internet. These are all basically the same thing: Being promiscuous. I don't want to have anything to do with fast and loose immature women like this who have no loyalty and can't be trusted in a relationship.
5. Abusive in any way, physical or verbally. This is a clear dealbreaker and one I won't tolerate whatsoever, not even red flags or warning signs of it will be tolerated.
1. Bad communication. So many problems are solved by simply committing to open honest communication. Working out any relationship problem starts with good communication. If they can’t commit to communicating with me properly, it’s a no go.
2. Low commitment. I put a lot of effort into relationships. I’m not the kind of guy that just starts a relationship to see what happens. If I start a relationship, that means I see potential and I’m invested. I need to see willingness to put just as much effort into the relationship, if not more. Starting a relationship is a big decision for me. It’s a big deal. I’m not casual about it.
3. Bad chemistry. We need to click. I need to feel like this could be something long term. If the chemistry is bad, I’m not going to be able to see the relationship as something long term. If there is no future, it’s not for me. If I can’t see a future with them, it’s the friend zone for them.
1. Transgender (males). I'm only interested in legit women.
2. Bisexual/queer (lesbians). I don't trust bisexual women who claim to be interested in both men and women. They have too many options to cheat
3. Feminist/far-left/woke. No Brainer
4. Slutty/promiscuous/dresses liberally/is into open relationships. They tend to be extremely unfaithful
5. Abusive in any way, physical or verbally. I ain't gonna deal with an abusive women in today's world because she'll always win.
6. Is emotionally unstable. I've dealt with far too many mentally ill women. BPD, Bipolar, schizophrenic, panic disorder, etc. I'm not going to continue dealing with their bullshit
Everybody has different preferences. 🤷🏻♂️ If you like being demasculated, used, degraded, manipulated, and eventually end up destroyed and broken with nothing than be my guest.
1) he is masculine, too many tatoos and large, 2) he is very muscular , i dont like this 3) he behaves too masculine, dominant, and controlling 🤮 4) he forces me to do something , demanding without understanding 5) sleep with many women even just 1 woman is disgusting dickkkk, suddenly his dick and body feels so yuck disgusting to me, and sexting seducing many girls without telling me about this 6) he likes to be only dominant on bed 7) he doesn't want to work although underpaid
Well there should only be one for me if you can't smile if you eat the last piece of cake if you can't lift up or put down the toilet seat and the best one is if you have a deal-breaker those are all the things I ate LOL No I only have one deal-breaker in that is you have to be able to smile and be happy you have to be able to talk to you about anything and everything no matter what it is to get it out into the open and communicate there's a lot of things that we all don't like and we do like him sometimes were selfish we don't even think about it but if you can't express that then that's a deal-breaker for me that's about the only one that I have I can live with all the rest of them because I'll communicate about it
High end gossiper.(if boys love sex girls love gossip, latter is more destructive to brain and society than former. Latter is free to be non consensual. Girls inherent tendency to talk much, have highlighted boys sex needs as if they are inferior. But boys dont talk much that doesn’t mean gossip is good quality job. Its high time frame laws on such non sensical gossiping girls coz her nature equally impacts her partner adversely. Which no law or court realises. And as per girls tone, punishment should be equally to one given in rape case. Coz this also impacts psychology over life time. They kill you every day bit by bit 2. comparison issues with other girls. She has this i dont have. 3. Wearing what doesn’t suits you. 4. Becoming lazy once you get boyfriend better than u deserves that could be no workout anymore. 5. Decent way of talking. Not abusive. No loud voice.
1: Goes rigid when touched. 2: Little or no eye contact. 3: Brings up past relationships or other guys that are pursuing her while I am. 4: Mind games, if I ever feel confused & communication fails, I'm out. 5: Untidy / Unclean
Not necessarily in this order. I tried but kept switching them around:p
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- If she's a smoker, that's a 100% deal breaker
- If she's a serious partier or goes clubbing a lot, that's a deal breaker
- If she spends a lot of time on social media, it's a deal breaker
- I support equal rights and opportunities for all, but supporting feminism today is a 100% deal breaker. If I need to explain why, that's a deal breaker
- If she wears heavy makeup, has perfectly groomed eyebrows or has long nails, it's a deal breaker
- If she wants a smart, confident, capable, well-educated man with a great career but expects him to not be dominant outside the bedroom, she need not apply
- There is no bigger red flag than a woman dressing to attract attention and then complaining when she gets it
- If she doesn't like and want kids, it's a deal breaker
- If she is a loyal supporter of either the Democrat or Republican party, that's a deal breaker
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Re: you update, I dated a feminist once so I let that one slide. I'll never make that mistake again.
1) Won't use condoms 2) Unhealthy lifestyle habits (this one runs deep) 3) Selfish 4) Doesn't respect boundaries or feelings (forcefulness in terms of Controlling and manipulative) 5) Not playful
I respect his right feelings not to use condoms. I also respect my own. We can't match. Birth and Disease control are life-changing. Some things tie together. A person who only cares about their own needs and further wants you to do things you aren't comfy with is toxic.
1. Racist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic, etc. 2. Not pro-choice/anti-abortion 3. Smokes, drinks (I mean excessive drinking, not social or occasional drinking), or takes drugs 4. Wants children or can't compromise on having them 5. Obesity
I've been alone that long I don't even have 5 anymore, it's just mutual attraction, want's a family but doesn't have one yet and isn't vegetarian/vegan. I'd prefer dominant non smoker, but those aren't deal breakers as such, just preferences.
Doubt I'll find it though, if I was going to I should have done by now.
1. Overweight - You have 100 % control over your weight. 2. Non-reciprocal - not putting in the effort. 3. Rabid feminist - Unplesent to be with 4. Extreme supporter of a political side - Dont talk politics on dates. 5. Too vain - too much into social media, taking selfies and not focussing on the date.
I have 7 deal breakers 1. She doesn't show any real interest in me. 2. She treats other people badly 3. She's had a lot of relationships. I have no interest in being her flavor of the month or just another trophy for her. 4. she is financially irresponsible 5. she does drugs 6. She's a poor communicator 7. She lacks morals and values
I might have been willing to let these slide in the past. But the simple fact of the matter is I value happiness. I want to be and stay happy, her as well. I chose these dealbreakers for a reason. I don't care how attractive she is, if she's not a good person she's not a good person. I'd rather be single forever than be with a toxic person.
I would not date a woman: 1. Who smoked, drank, or used drugs. 2. Who used profanity, abusive language of any type, or violence. 3. Who wasn't a natural born and fully heterosexual adult female. 4. Who was racist or feminist or supported abortion. 5. If I saw on her anything like a thong, a tattoo, or a body piercing.
1. If they say daddy 2. If they are fat or skin and bones 3. If they don't have their shit together 4. If they are no emotional inteligent 5. If they depend to much on others And a bonus if they are picture sluts, meaning if they take hundreds of selfies
Mental unstability, being extremely religious, arrogance, extreme feminism, being abusive, slutty, extremely political, drugs, bad hygiene, rude, racism, lesbian, swears a lot, lies a lot, very active in social media Essentially, anything which causes headache or makes her less of an adult
1. Lefitst 2. Non-Christian 3. Addictions 4. Anything but straight male 5. Unhealthy/obese/has a disability that makes him dependent on me/can pass it on to children/doesn't want children/over 40
1. Self absorbed (not to confuse with selfish what is a yellow flag) 2. Arrogant (false confidence) 3. Cruel (physically or emotionally Sadistic) 4. Mentally unstable (borderline or bipolar personality type) 5. Never takes any responsibility for negative outcome of own deeds (Spoiled princess)
1) she is a serial liar 2) she is friends with a lot of guys she used to date 3) she is stoned most of the time 4) She owes money all over town 5) She drives a beat up old Camaro and the passengers seat is full of fast food wrappers.
