So... this all happened with the start of social media, I felt uneasy about it but we decided it was time to follow each other till we included social media everything was fine.
We talked about both of our worries, as she was worried about me following models and worries about me following women who are sexual. I agreed the same thing to her about following men or women who are sexual.
I went through and deleted anyone who might make her feel uncomfortable. Of course including anyone I dated and also made sure they weren't following me, she didn't.
Things went along, and a few arguments occurred over the use of social media so far, first it was that I got recommended a friend of hers, but it was fully sexual nude images of a woman asking to be l***d, f***d etc. So it made me uncomfortable, she got rid of the person. Then came a guy pretty much in speedos only flexing muscles in near enough every picture. Made me feel uncomfortable, then her ex was following her, which is a complete stalker and only had images of her, she was reluctant to tell me at first any details at all as she felt awkward about it. So instead shrugged it off, told me very minimal details, got awkward herself which made me uncomfortable.
Now I just feel uncomfortable because I'm like who else does she have on that list... I thought about it and my last relationship, I was in it for 10 years, my last girlfriend was sketchy with social media, I kept finding messages from guys which were a bit over the top, flirting etc. Once we split up it became apparent she has been cheating on me online...
So I guess I am worried about being hurt due to previous relationships, I mean my girlfriend follows a ton of people, but I shouldn't be getting uncomfortable at all right? I should be trusting her and ignoring it, it's strange because I trust she won't do anything.
Wondered if anyone has any advice how I can move past this or help with what I am guessing is my insecurity?
We talked about both of our worries, as she was worried about me following models and worries about me following women who are sexual. I agreed the same thing to her about following men or women who are sexual.
I went through and deleted anyone who might make her feel uncomfortable. Of course including anyone I dated and also made sure they weren't following me, she didn't.
Things went along, and a few arguments occurred over the use of social media so far, first it was that I got recommended a friend of hers, but it was fully sexual nude images of a woman asking to be l***d, f***d etc. So it made me uncomfortable, she got rid of the person. Then came a guy pretty much in speedos only flexing muscles in near enough every picture. Made me feel uncomfortable, then her ex was following her, which is a complete stalker and only had images of her, she was reluctant to tell me at first any details at all as she felt awkward about it. So instead shrugged it off, told me very minimal details, got awkward herself which made me uncomfortable.
Now I just feel uncomfortable because I'm like who else does she have on that list... I thought about it and my last relationship, I was in it for 10 years, my last girlfriend was sketchy with social media, I kept finding messages from guys which were a bit over the top, flirting etc. Once we split up it became apparent she has been cheating on me online...
So I guess I am worried about being hurt due to previous relationships, I mean my girlfriend follows a ton of people, but I shouldn't be getting uncomfortable at all right? I should be trusting her and ignoring it, it's strange because I trust she won't do anything.
Wondered if anyone has any advice how I can move past this or help with what I am guessing is my insecurity?
