It depends. If you don’t know them at all, an hour or so is enough. If you’ve had prior contact for a little while, longer might suit. My first date with my ex was coffee. After that, we spoke for 4 hours. Would have been longer, but we both had work early the next morning.
Personally I think it should be relatively short say an hour or so. I often suggest getting coffee, that way if things aren't going well it can be cut short after the first or second coffee, but if it's going well you can always plan to do something else afterwards like grab some lunch. There's no pressure like on an evening dinner, there's nothing worse than having to get through an entire meal with someone you're just not vibing with.
Doesn't matter but thing is to not do stuff where you don't get to talk and get to know each other, for example going to just a movie on a first date is lousy. Maybe dinner, and a movie would be fine but I've done first dates where we just spend hours walking in a park, viewing flowers and eating from a food truck.
It's really tough to answer. If the chemistry is there and I really want to get to know him, then I think an hour is a minimum.
I can imagine going to the amusement park as mentioned bellow, would be a good idea, if the spark would be there as well, then I can say that an hour still isn't enough. In perfect case the date would start around 6 in the evening and end around 9-10pm. :D
If it's meeting for coffee or drinks st the local pub, an hour is fine. If the date goes well, you two can plan for a longer second date.
If it's dinner, a couple hours is fine.
The date should be as long (or as short) as the two of you want it to be. I once had a first date (planned dinner) that went so well we then went to a movie and back to her place for talk and watching TV together... no, we didn't have sex, though we did kiss.
Having done speed dating i can honestly say you can certainly figure out it won't work in 3 minutes. As far as a first date, I try to keep casual, not set expectations. Coffee or a drink and see where it goes. Had a first date that turned into around 9 hours, after a coffee we went to cinema and dinner.
I don't think a time limit can be put on it. Like it could be half an hour if you meet for coffee. Or extends to a few if you go for a walk or something. I think it depends on how that initial part goes to if you want to continue getting to know each other. And I also think it depends if you just met or if you'd been talking for a while and that. I don't know if I'm making sense but that's how I think it would work. Sadly this is only thoughts as I don't have any experience to give any useful information.
i think if its dinner 90 minutes should be enough.
but if you think you can really get a long with the person and want to enjoy their company more then go to the zoo. Animals provide a relaxing atmosphere, they increase dopamine and saratonin in the brain. this increases pleasure, happiness and reward in the brain. its also a great way to spend 3 hours with someone instead of an hour.
I'm married and have kids but I always found it best to get right to the fucking. I always fucked on the first date and fucked many I didn't even date. All of them dark sexy black men. I love getting fucked in my tuts my pussy my ass and my mouth by my very dark sexy black husband and several other very dark sexy black men all at once several times every day. I'm a total slut and damn proud of it. I'm also a dominatrix. I take being called a slut as a huge compliment.
I do not set a limit. Personally, I prepare for the first date to take all day. If I mesh well with a woman I might find myself wanting to remain in her presence as long as possible. If I want to leave, I can do so and have a free day to myself. Same applies to her. I would rather plan for a whole day and it fall short vs. planning for a specified amount of time and risk shortchanging myself should the occasion feel right to extend the date.
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If it's your first time meeting, I would give it 15 minutes. No dinner just a cup of coffee.
I went out on a first date and it was our first time meeting. We went out to dinner. Shortly into the dinner he asked me if it's going to be a problem that he's a witch.
The first date with my last girlfriend lasted 9 hours. It got to point where people in the bar was yelling at us to get a room. Mind you, that was the first day/night we met in person. We met online 3 months prior and we only texted and talked on the phone. We made up for lost time!!
One to two hours. People who say 30 minutes say it cuz you could meet for coffee and if not clicking can leave guilt free quickly. I’d say an hour or two is enough time to talk and find some things in common, also observe how they act with others, but not too much time so you can look forward to date #2
At least 1 hour, even if it's coffee. I feel like if a girl says I'll meet you for 15-20 minutes it's pointless. Imagine going to a job interview and a company says, despite what you say or your qualifications we are only giving you 10 minutes to woo us, for a big company. That's not fair.
That kind of depends on how it goes. Some dates 15 minutes is too long. If things are going well then it can be extended.
When I used to date I would usually pick a time and day where I had no plans afterwards so if things worked out we could improvise. Generally they didn't, unfortunately.
Depends how well you two connect. If you don't feel it you shouldn't even waste another second of time with each other. If you two really feel it going off then let it last the whole day if you two agree. I am sure the dating police would be okay with that lol.
I think it just depends on how well you click with that person and if you’re having fun being with them. Letting things happen naturally will probably make the date better too ☺️
I think meeting up for some food or drinks gives you as much time to get to know them as you want, afterward you could leave to do something elsewhere if you both are enjoying yourselves or if you're feeling done you can easily leave to go back home.
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It depends. If you don’t know them at all, an hour or so is enough.
If you’ve had prior contact for a little while, longer might suit.
My first date with my ex was coffee. After that, we spoke for 4 hours. Would have been longer, but we both had work early the next morning.
Personally I think it should be relatively short say an hour or so. I often suggest getting coffee, that way if things aren't going well it can be cut short after the first or second coffee, but if it's going well you can always plan to do something else afterwards like grab some lunch. There's no pressure like on an evening dinner, there's nothing worse than having to get through an entire meal with someone you're just not vibing with.
Doesn't matter but thing is to not do stuff where you don't get to talk and get to know each other, for example going to just a movie on a first date is lousy. Maybe dinner, and a movie would be fine but I've done first dates where we just spend hours walking in a park, viewing flowers and eating from a food truck.
It's really tough to answer. If the chemistry is there and I really want to get to know him, then I think an hour is a minimum.
I can imagine going to the amusement park as mentioned bellow, would be a good idea, if the spark would be there as well, then I can say that an hour still isn't enough. In perfect case the date would start around 6 in the evening and end around 9-10pm. :D
It depends what the first date is.
If it's meeting for coffee or drinks st the local pub, an hour is fine. If the date goes well, you two can plan for a longer second date.
If it's dinner, a couple hours is fine.
The date should be as long (or as short) as the two of you want it to be. I once had a first date (planned dinner) that went so well we then went to a movie and back to her place for talk and watching TV together... no, we didn't have sex, though we did kiss.
Having done speed dating i can honestly say you can certainly figure out it won't work in 3 minutes.
As far as a first date, I try to keep casual, not set expectations. Coffee or a drink and see where it goes. Had a first date that turned into around 9 hours, after a coffee we went to cinema and dinner.
Thanks for the hope buddy. I’m going on a coffee date tomorrow with a guy who says hi every now and then since vday on text. I’m sooo excited.
I don't think a time limit can be put on it. Like it could be half an hour if you meet for coffee. Or extends to a few if you go for a walk or something. I think it depends on how that initial part goes to if you want to continue getting to know each other. And I also think it depends if you just met or if you'd been talking for a while and that. I don't know if I'm making sense but that's how I think it would work. Sadly this is only thoughts as I don't have any experience to give any useful information.
i think if its dinner 90 minutes should be enough.
but if you think you can really get a long with the person and want to enjoy their company more then go to the zoo. Animals provide a relaxing atmosphere, they increase dopamine and saratonin in the brain. this increases pleasure, happiness and reward in the brain. its also a great way to spend 3 hours with someone instead of an hour.
I'm married and have kids but I always found it best to get right to the fucking. I always fucked on the first date and fucked many I didn't even date. All of them dark sexy black men. I love getting fucked in my tuts my pussy my ass and my mouth by my very dark sexy black husband and several other very dark sexy black men all at once several times every day. I'm a total slut and damn proud of it. I'm also a dominatrix. I take being called a slut as a huge compliment.
Thus honestly just sounds like a troll comment not gonna lie
I do not set a limit. Personally, I prepare for the first date to take all day. If I mesh well with a woman I might find myself wanting to remain in her presence as long as possible. If I want to leave, I can do so and have a free day to myself. Same applies to her. I would rather plan for a whole day and it fall short vs. planning for a specified amount of time and risk shortchanging myself should the occasion feel right to extend the date.
If it's your first time meeting, I would give it 15 minutes. No dinner just a cup of coffee.
I went out on a first date and it was our first time meeting. We went out to dinner. Shortly into the dinner he asked me if it's going to be a problem that he's a witch.
I never eat so fast in my life. "Check please!"
The first date with my last girlfriend lasted 9 hours. It got to point where people in the bar was yelling at us to get a room. Mind you, that was the first day/night we met in person. We met online 3 months prior and we only texted and talked on the phone. We made up for lost time!!
One to two hours. People who say 30 minutes say it cuz you could meet for coffee and if not clicking can leave guilt free quickly. I’d say an hour or two is enough time to talk and find some things in common, also observe how they act with others, but not too much time so you can look forward to date #2
At least 1 hour, even if it's coffee. I feel like if a girl says I'll meet you for 15-20 minutes it's pointless. Imagine going to a job interview and a company says, despite what you say or your qualifications we are only giving you 10 minutes to woo us, for a big company. That's not fair.
That kind of depends on how it goes. Some dates 15 minutes is too long. If things are going well then it can be extended.
When I used to date I would usually pick a time and day where I had no plans afterwards so if things worked out we could improvise. Generally they didn't, unfortunately.
Depends how well you two connect. If you don't feel it you shouldn't even waste another second of time with each other. If you two really feel it going off then let it last the whole day if you two agree. I am sure the dating police would be okay with that lol.
I think it just depends on how well you click with that person and if you’re having fun being with them. Letting things happen naturally will probably make the date better too ☺️
Are you going on a first date soon? ☺️
Oops I forgot about the part where you had a boyfriend already, I feel a little embarrassed now 😂
It’s okay! Lol it happens!
Haha thanks! 😂☺️❤️ You’re always so nice to me and I appreciate that ☺️
I think meeting up for some food or drinks gives you as much time to get to know them as you want, afterward you could leave to do something elsewhere if you both are enjoying yourselves or if you're feeling done you can easily leave to go back home.
I personally think putting a time limit on the date is a terrible concept. Dates should be as long as what feels right.
as long as the two parties are comfortable with…
my longest date was an entire day + night