So I started seeing this guy, and he isn't happy about me speaking to a guy I met 4 years ago who I saved their life. To cut a long story short, there was romantic interestin the first month of knowing him, but we were never together. We were colleagues and I supported him as a friend up until the point he tried to commit suicide 3 years ago. Anyway, we remained in touch after he got support through rehab for his addictions, and I have always kept an open door for him to chat to me. I dont offer him as much support, but I wouldn't blank him either. Sometimes we dont chat for 5 days at a time. And I haven't seen him in 4 years, nor do I plan too. He is more of a long distance pen pal.
The guy I have been seeing keeps saying I have feelings for him. I dont, I just haven't felt he is an issue remaining in my life since we barely talk and dont see one another. He isn't a threat to anyone romantically etc etc. I never talk about him to anyone so it's not as though I'm hung up on him, he is just on my messenger, and occasionally he gives me updates on his activities. But again, I dont really feel the need to have him in my life, I just haven't felt the need at all to remove him, we have a history of supporting each other and it's that type of history that you just dont throw away. We both went through a lot and in some ways I think there is a trauma bond. Albeit healthy or unhealthy, I live my life as normal. The guy I'm dating keeps trying to put words into my mouth and assume he knows how I feel about sean. Saying things like you have feelings for him, which I told him I dont. Irregardless of how it might look, I would never date sean.
I feel terrible from trying to explain to this guy, why we remained friends but I dont like how he is making it out to be something more then it is. Now I feel like I'm the unreasonable one which I dont think is fair. I dont know what to do or how better to explain it.
The guy I have been seeing keeps saying I have feelings for him. I dont, I just haven't felt he is an issue remaining in my life since we barely talk and dont see one another. He isn't a threat to anyone romantically etc etc. I never talk about him to anyone so it's not as though I'm hung up on him, he is just on my messenger, and occasionally he gives me updates on his activities. But again, I dont really feel the need to have him in my life, I just haven't felt the need at all to remove him, we have a history of supporting each other and it's that type of history that you just dont throw away. We both went through a lot and in some ways I think there is a trauma bond. Albeit healthy or unhealthy, I live my life as normal. The guy I'm dating keeps trying to put words into my mouth and assume he knows how I feel about sean. Saying things like you have feelings for him, which I told him I dont. Irregardless of how it might look, I would never date sean.
I feel terrible from trying to explain to this guy, why we remained friends but I dont like how he is making it out to be something more then it is. Now I feel like I'm the unreasonable one which I dont think is fair. I dont know what to do or how better to explain it.
