Should a 23 year old average looking, but kind hearted single woman go for an older guy if she’s looking for a serious relationship?

[Paulalove98]

Could that be why I’m not finding a serious relationship? Dating guys young or in my range like under 25 is why I haven’t found a guy who’s serious? I just wonder because I hear this a lot. I will say I’m an average girl. Been told I’m cute, and pretty by some guys but I’m shy in social events unless people make me feel comfortable and the approach is welcoming but on dating apps I’ve had some sucking experiences.. i wonder if it’s because I’ve talked to younger guys who just ask for sex or guys my age. Advice?

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If you’re also wondering my dating preferences I don’t care about height unless he’s slightly taller than me, I’m 4”11 and I’m fine with older as long as it’s no more than 5 years maybe 6 at the most but fine with younger as long as he’s 18+ but I wonder if I should open my range to find a serious relationship since that’s what I want and children before I’m too old..

[NathanDavis]

it is definitely not about age... there's still going to be people that are 40's and even 50's but that does not mean they are grown-ups

don't focus on what their age is... focus on what kind of person they really are, also... try to look at other places and not just online dating apps which are quite notorious for people who are after a hook-up

[Paulalove98]

Oh yeah that makes sense. And I’m definitely looking more than just online. I work in customer service and work with some guys and see some that come in and out of my store so I have some options but I don’t always come across single guys sadly lol but I’m not losing hope because anything is possible but I guess I don’t wanna say I didn’t try in 6 years from now when I’m 30 and say I didn’t try to meet or date an older guy, but I like younger too 18 and up. I’ve had some unlucky experiences with both age ranges sadly.. but I just have heard a lot of people say older guys can be more serious but I think it all depends on the personality.

[NathanDavis]

what about friends, do you have friends, acquaintances? relatives... the majority of the girls I've met and things ended up going really well... I was not actively looking for them, I just happened to meet them at party-reunions among the circles of my friends and acquaintances

and they were more the reunion type rather than the party go crazy type, and like I said... they were friends to friends of my friends, acquaintances, and because of those settings I had to time and chance to engage with them in some casual talk too... they even approached me first, couple of times I approached them

if you spend more time and dedicate some effort to hang out with more people, you will be meeting more people and new people... and at least for now, that should be your aim and not to rush it... just work on increasing your chances and your range first

[Anonymous]

It the guy. It's not easy these days finding anyone that wants anything serious (even finding women isn't for us). Age can play a factor somewhat for SOME guys, but you'll find both with any age range. Lots of guys wanting both in all age ranges. Find them is hard though. Keep searching. You can also try different types of guys if you generally go for a "type". That could also be it. And if you just wait for guys to approach you. I think women need to do more approaching. Especially with guys they like and find interesting (and he's not approaching). Because it's often the guys that don't want anything serious that do all the approaching.

[one1wild00]

Some 20's - 30's gals like the age gap because they find older guys more mature and stable than guys their own age.
The converse (Why some older guys like younger gals) some older guys like me like the 20something gals because of their energy and their longer term ability to have kids as gals our own age are getting to the end of their ability to have kids and we had been cautious early on as we weren't thinking long term, nor were we financially able to care for kids then.

[Paulalove98]

Yeah that is true. I’ve dated and had my experiences honestly with older and guys a few years younger but sadly was screwed over by an older guy too twice but I do believe some can be more serious than a younger guy unless he has a mature mindset and mentality. I just don’t wanna look back in 6 years when I’m 30 and say I didn’t open my horizons to try dating a guy or meeting some that are a little older. I expanded my range and gonna see what happens. I definitely wanna be a mom someday and a long term partner, and don’t want kids too old, I’m hoping late 20s or 30-31 at the latest to have a baby.

[Berethor]

If you a feminist it make sense for you to not date guys who are much older than you.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AgeGapRomance

[Chiarac2003]

I’m by no means a feminist. But do I don’t date older guys. So I have to respectfully disagree.

[Berethor]

It's okay. :)

[Adam1978]

If she wants it soon, yes, young guys aren't ready to settle down. So dating up in age will cause you to date guys with higher likelihood to want to settle down and start a family.

[Reaper1985]

many straight women seek out men 3-10 years older then themselves when looking for a long term relationship. because older men are more likely to be looking for something long term as well.

[20yearsolder]

I say go for whatever you're most attracted to and if that's an older gentleman then that's what you should go after

[Chiarac2003]

Exactly…. I dislike the labels and such.

[ohshee]

Guys your age are still only looking to being a big shot and braging right's and only care about 1 thing

[Anonymous]

I've heard the same thing, younger guys just want to get laid and don't want commitment like older guys. Of course you can't say everyone is the same, just in general.

[Slim57]

Age doesn't matter that's nonsense nowadays because men and women both are immature being all ages nowadays, I just say look for someone similar to you and has a good maturity level similar to yours as well

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't see why not, if you're attracted to him and he, you.

[zagor]

What are you looking for? If marriage and babies, most guys at 23 aren't ready for that yet.

[Anonymous]

God no. Don’t you know that men are only supposed to date women their age or older?